Feeling rejected - How to cope

Too often when we think we have been rejected or we're disappointed, we get discouraged and we say: "It was not for me. I think that I am not good enough for this position. When we hit these disappointments, it's normal to be a little shaken. We want to start over as soon as possible. We do not want to let our dreams die or become extinct.

We want to understand that in each event not running as we want, there's always a new opportunity or a new door to open. Our work and our mission is to discover this new door.

Often, our greatest opportunities emerge from our greatest disappointments. Sometimes it's comfortable. Often, we don't like the feeling, however, we can not make the mistake of sitting down and stay where we are.

In our biggest disappointments arise our greatest opportunities. Take for example a maple tree. If we are planting it in a jar, its growth will soon be very limited. Once the roots have filled the jar, maple tree can't grow anymore. The problem is not maple tree, but its environment.

The environment limits the growth of the tree. Perhaps we have greater things to accomplish than our environment can bear. When we pass through difficult times, it's not necessarily because we are in error. Sometimes this is how we've been guide or show the next step. Sometimes it's the little push we need to go forward.

Let's use this example to apply and understand the stages of healing. The feeling of rejection or disappointment is the first step. That's when we realize the pain or disappointment associated with the disconnection. If we do not accept this reality, if we avoid it, if we blame others, ourselves and the circumstances, we will have difficulty to face it.

When we begin to suffer, immediately we rise and we begin to look for people or events that could help us. We are the second stage. We try to identify quickly: "Who is that person who can help me." Help always comes from outside and new learning. Similarly, we reject the blame on external events or others.

Then comes the realization that this is not the others or the circumstances that created the problem. Everything becomes clear. We who are responsible for what happens to us. How come I always find myself in circumstances or with similar people? This frustration and the feeling of being caught and turned in circles. It's like being stuck in the snow. The wheels are turning, but the car does not advance.

At this stage, when we recognize that we put ourselves in these situations, we can regain our power to take action and change things from within.

Finally, the last step is to take action. This last step is undoubtedly the most difficult and one that will take longer to achieve. To be frank, this is also the most difficult step to achieve, but the positive impact on your life will be unprecedented.

If you live in a situation where you feel constantly rejected daring escape from this environment that does not match your dreams and your aspirations.