How to support adolescents in their development of life without invading

Despite the self-assurance they show-off, adolescents are often plagued with anxiety and doubt. So they desperately need from adults and especially their parents, to regularly experiment and see evidence of their confidence.

A brief look at the way parents should communicate with teenager

Confidence is the basis of any possibility of success. The more we are convinced that our children can succeed, the more he will believe in him and his chances of success in its projects will increase.

Wear a negative view of the adolescent as a person, even in jest or in the form of teasing is to risk to deeply mark and embedding him in a negative image of a loser who will have negative impact on his self-esteem. In doing so, it sticks on the young a label that may stick throughout his life. Even after becoming an adult, he will continue to be locked in the limiting beliefs that you have negatively influenced.

Also be sure to correctly manage your nonverbal communication. It is useless to recite a positive speech, if all in your attitude indicates otherwise. Thus, you must systematically highlight the developments of outcomes rather than focusing on one of them in particular. Developments, less abrupt, helps to anticipate slippage and step back on the reasons for the results, say less than acceptable.

It is imperative to systematically refuse to blame the error of a teenager. This is in contrast an opportunity to "undramatize" and to show it as a learning path. So far, as they will prove able to identify their mistakes, show courage and speak to lean on with confidence to try to understand, the youth will be able to use it and to learn something from it. Mistake, as everyone knows is a source of learning. Remember that you must try to learn.

How do you guide your teens without imposing your way of doing things?

And you young people (young adults), how do you guide your parents to let you do your own learning without always intervene?