It is through the small things we do that we learn, not the big things

Monday, November 30, 2009

Future

If you think to the future, are you the one doing those projects projections, dreams and try to organize your plans and actions to achieve them, or you are those who live in the anxiety about the future, bad news or unexpected that will change your life for the worse?
Many people are afraid of tomorrow, they are afraid of this day because they feel unprepared to cope with all situations. Be assured of one thing: no matter what you take as disposal to prepare for the worst, you will never be prepared enough to face whatever will happen in your life. If you think that in preparing to the extreme you can have peace of mind, you're probably able to see that you still worry now because you'll feel not sufficiently prepared.

I totally agree with preparing the future from a financial point of view, work, health, family, education and retirement, but there is a reasonable limit that is fairly easy to trace. Common sense has always been an excellent guide when we take time to fill with qualified people in each area.

We can’t predict everything that can happen in life and that's good. The pleasure of life consists of so many things and they are so interdependent, it is impossible and irrational to try to predict what might happen. The surprises, challenges, opportunities are the unique entertainment that surprise us those are beautiful moments that brighten our lives. These moments allow us to grow when we approach it with a positive and optimistic attitude.

When we took the decision to clear our mind on a daily base to recharge ourselves, no matter what happens to us, energy, creativity and hope come back within us and allow us to more easily cope with difficult situations and with better results. The effects of this exercise are incredible, some of them come through meditation, others through sports, others engaged in a hobby that absorbs completely. All these ways emptying the mind are effective, just to find yours.

If you think using drugs, alcohol or let you go to the extreme debauchery can help you forget your fears, your worries and problems, that you probably will succeed in making them worse and it is very likely that you will succeed in creating new, more painful and probably more difficult to solve.

Conclusion

Every day is unique, important and can be decisive for the rest of your life. It should not be taken lightly each day you are offered. If you manage to clear your mind regularly, you find that you more easily find solutions to your problems. What you will communicate much better with others, you'll be less inclined to get angry for unimportant events. You look at life with more optimism because you will be able to appreciate beautiful things and good moments of life, even if you're in a situation not easy to live. You have confidence in yourself and your hopes for a better life will only grow.

Friday, November 27, 2009

Your personal development

All aspects of personal development are important throughout your life. There is nothing worse than meeting someone "upstart", that is to say a person who has nothing to learn from anyone. The kind of person who has seen everything, known and rejects those that are not consistent with his words and his thinking. No matter who it is, it’s very distressing to have to endure this kind of specimen of mankind.

The challenge in personal development is to accept and face the fact that we must make changes when we are dealings with others, in the way we think, act and even the way we speak. It’s difficult to make these major changes if we did not have very good reasons to do so. You don’t decide to do personal development without reason. Of course, everyone wants to improve, but few people take action or even try to know what to improve and change accordingly.

Personal development is done on several aspects. Primarily, the development is on the personality, knowledge and physical appearance. All these aspects of yourself are part of your personality. Warning! Don’t think you should work on all aspects of your personality at the same time. First, who said you had to change at all in all? Your personal development is a business that happens between you and yourself. When you decide to invest in yourself, you do for your purpose, not for others, or else, otherwise your motivation will fly as fast as the clouds in a windy day.

Here are some simple examples of personal development for you to demonstrate that to successfully grow and improve it’s not necessarily a large project. Being at the forefront of his profession by reading daily journals on the subject, learning a new language by reading or by Internet, developing skills by enrolling speaker to organizations specialized in the field and are accessible by everyone (eg "Toastmaster"); practice a sport or exercise regularly to improve his fitness and physical appearance; regularly read books on positive thinking and attend seminars on the subject, turning to part-time study in an area that really interests you.

Several options are available and don’t underestimate the impact of these initiatives as simple and small they are. If you really want to improve and develop the person you are, celebrate your successes regularly because they are all important. You put effort and sometimes you let your ego at the door to success. Success often lies in action rather than result.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Stop living in the past

Despite all that you experienced in your life, all the success you've had, all the misfortunes that have hit you again and again, one thing you can be sure of is you can't change events and past results. It is quite unnecessary to return indefinitely on these events and wonder what you could have done differently to avoid some problems because you cannot change the past.

Be aware that living in the past is the best way to kill yourself slowly. Nostalgia is not a good feeling to regain energy and feel good. When we go back in the past, we tend to remember bad decisions and forget that most of our decisions were made based on the knowledge we had at that time and of course the emotion and desire moment that always takes precedence over logic.

I'm not saying this is not pleasant to remember the good times, but I sincerely believe that this is as far as he must go in the past. The present and future are far more interesting and much more energizing and exciting than the past. Moreover, the future should be seen as a party every day. Why? Given that the future always reserves surprises and like most people like surprises, so we should always consider the future as a party.

You believe that this approach is too simplistic? If you never tried to always live according to what you can achieve as a project for the future, to dream and concoct plans for successful projects, always consider failures as steps, you miss the most interesting and exciting part of the life.

Living is an adventure and adventures are sequences of events and surprises that require us to excel and to use our talents, our knowledge and imagination, as so aptly Albert Einsten, genius is nothing other than to let his imagination limitless. Be original that is to say, dare to indulge your imagination to address the events of your life with energy and creativity.

Be assured that you will live more intensely and you will be directed towards the future, your mind and your imagination will be used to make the most interesting and productive thing than you've ever done. You will be amazed at the energy produced by the dreams and drop the thoughts oriented toward the past.

I am well-aware of the daily repetitive obligations which are often too stultifying, but be aware that these obligations do not monopolize all your days and that each day you have enough free time to act like a (e) adventurer (e).

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

A balanced life with the beloved

The relationship with the person you shares your life is unique. The beloved must be the most important person in your life, even children can’t have priority over that person. Activities (fields of interest) are vitally important if you have no activity or very little joint, you may lose you as a couple.

You must deal honestly and openly all matters of importance regarding the couple's vision of the future, the activities you most enjoy, that interest you, your sexual desires, your fantasies, your wildest dreams and your state of mind based on the life you live now.

You must have a relationship of complete trust with the loved one and this, in all areas of life. If your spouse is your best friend, there is good chance that your relationship is fun, exciting and even a little crazy and you'll always especially excited to see you again with your partner.

Whatever what is thinking the majority of people, I believe that married life should happen in this state of mind. If this is not the case, there are situations that are not clear between you. Otherwise, you do not share enough activities together. Never forget that humans almost always associated with people with similar interests and this also applies to your life partner, far more time progresses, the more you get away from the one another.

Make the point between you two very regularly, be honest and sincere. If your spouse is not your princess or prince charming of your first days, you must find the reasons that cause it. There is no reason for the flame diminishes between you, quite the contrary, it should shine more and stronger with time because you're supposed to change your relationship to a harmony unequaled.

It feels so good when the relationship with our spouse is simple, clear and without coercion. It is really easy to cope with life when life is smooth torque.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

How to face challenges of life

During our wonderful life we all face challenges of all kinds. These challenges are present in all facets of our lives, at work, in family, social activities finally everywhere.

Since the dawn of time we learn to face these challenges with optimism and confidence and a positive attitude even in challenging situations. Easy to write these words, but to face these challenges is not always easy. When it comes to really difficult situations we should not try to attempt to deal with these events without the help of trusted and professional people.
For example, if you have any challenges in the health field, there is good chance that you feel completely unprepared and that your concerns are very difficult to control. You'll be constantly worried, you will feel that the sky is falling on your head and will not succeed to get out of this situation without serious consequences.

To help you get through this challenges you must ask for help, support and never hide from others. The more people you have around you who have had similar experiences, the more you understand what you expect and the more you learn to control you even though you can not do anything to improve the situation.

I chose the field of health to show you how the simplest and most effective way to face the challenges in minimizing the negative effects in your daily life when you have to face this kind of situation because one day or another you will have to deal with different and difficult situations.

Whether challenges with finances, family, spouse, work, justice or any other type of challenges, you must never try to solve everything alone. The risk is too great to worsen the situation and to sink into negative feelings and depressing. You have to be surrounded by adviser you trust and people who have lived the same kind of situation you live.

Partnering with people of experience, competent and confidence will help you get through these challenges with greater ease and you will avoid most probably, a lot of problems and will work to prevent you from having recourse to loopholes such as alcohol, drugs, medications, gambling and excessive spending. These excessive behaviors are often observed in individuals who are experiencing very difficult times in their lives.

As we all do in these situations from time to time, don't be surprised to have these feelings of anxiety in such circumstances. Fortunately life is not a sequence of misfortune one after another. For most people, the moments of happiness are far more numerous than the times of calamities, therefore, always take with enthusiasm each day given to you to make a little magic of it.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Better world: Be nice to people

An article from : 19 September 2009 by Michael Bond

It sounds kind of obvious, and a little trite: the world would be a better place to live in if we were all a bit kinder to each other. But how can we make that happen?

This is fast becoming a valid scientific question. Psychologists and neuroscientists are exploring how to increase people's capacity for empathy and compassion, with two ongoing studies claiming that meditation not only increases compassionate feelings but also improves physical and emotional health.

But you don't have to be a Buddhist monk or an expert on brain plasticity to help increase global compassion. There is evidence that altruistic acts spread through social networks. In other words, if you are kind to a friend, they are more likely to be kind to someone else they know.

To demonstrate this, Nicholas Christakis of Harvard Medical School in Boston designed a cooperation game in which 120 students were organised into groups of four and asked to give money to their group. The game lasted five rounds, and after each round the students were reorganised so that no two appeared in the same group twice. The researchers told the participants at the end of each round how much the others in their group had given.

They found that generosity is infectious. If someone gave a dollar more than the predicted group average, the others in that group gave approximately 20 cents more than expected in the next round. This altruism persisted into the third round.

Christakis's team found in a separate study that cooperative behaviour spreads to three degrees of separation - from friend to friend to friend. So if you are popular and well connected, you could have a special role to play: your compassionate acts could resonate further through the network, and you are also more likely to benefit from other people's kindness.

Be aware of the impact you have on people who are in touch with you on these social networks. Of course, you can positively influence many people, but the opposite is also true. Be aware that you are now a person likely to influence many more people than you think. Are you aware?

Friday, November 20, 2009

What is your passion ?

Wow, passion, what a powerful feeling. Whenever we encounter a passionate person, you feel a nice energy to invade the space around us and we feels drawn to these people. Nothing more natural, we all like to be surrounded by energetic, positive, which sees life as an adventure.

I do not mean the fanatics, the hyperactive who only talk but never act and do nothing concrete in their lives. I'm talking about people who are really active, which are really productive for the community and have a positive impact on their families.

What is your passion which excite you, that fills you with energy, which pushes you to go further and think outside your comfort zone?

When wedares to invest and actually get involved in what interests us it is not difficult to get up in the morning. We can not wait to wake up to enjoy the pleasure and welfare given by passion. When I mean passion you should understand that I do not want to talk about problem gamblers and people who have addictions to drugs and other habits that have destructive effects on individuals. I mean anything that amuses you, makes you creative, you can help others, contribute to society or to advance a social or environmental cause.

Life is really short to realize his dreams and enjoy millions of interesting things to do and see. It is therefore important not to waste his time complaining to wait after the other to get ahead in life and especially should not put his energy into negative activities and destructive behaviors.

Fans raise the world and the skeptics hang down. This little phrase simply means that the madness of passion allows the human race to evolve, while the others are doing everything they can to stop us from going further.

Are you a passionate person? If so, share your passion with others, if not, delve deep within your heart and dare to live your passions.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Time for Kids - The holidays - Time to share

What a beautiful time of the year as the holiday season. The Santa Claus Parade (since 1905 in Canada in Toronto and Montreal 1925), decoration of shops and department stores and of course all illuminated residences.

What about these holidays songs, all these singers and these improvised shows up in color, sound and light that illuminates our hearts and put us in a good mood. No matter how old you are, the magic of the holiday is really enchanting and pleasant.

There is no need for spending to enjoy the magic of this time of year, simply go outside, walk, take the time to listen, watch and share. Take the time to live gently in the madness of beauty open your heart to those who need you, people who have forgotten to remember their child's heart and marvel at what this beautiful frenzy the holiday season is.

In this period of economic austerity and crisis pandemic you must take a pause and appreciate what you have, what you are and all that is offered toy ou and your families. The art of loving life is to appreciate the present moment and people around you.
Open your heart and be attentive to the people you hang out regularly. Do not take for grant your spouse, your friends, your children, your parents and enjoy every moment with all this little world of your life.

If you want to fill your heart with joy, here is the ulttime the most effective way to get there.
HELP A NEEDY
Indeed, helping people who are really in need is what give us the more happiness and satisfaction, Why? Simply because when we do this, we know that we have absolutely nothing in return and the person we're helping will appreciated it at the highest point. We know that we are part of something great and that our small action could drastically change the lives of the people we help. The best part about all this is that we do so without any expectations and that we put our heart because we do for good reasons, that is to say, love.

You want to teach your children to share? Nothing could be easier, simply involve them in your approach and be certain that what you do is by far the best way to teach something to your children. Never forget that your children will do what you do and not what you say!

Even if we live in an age of madness, the fact remains that we are fortunate to live in a very special environment with a lifestyle unmatched on this planet. Let's be generous and open to those in need.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Social inclusion for young people in difficulty

For too many young adults, life is not always easy. Many of these young people simply can not find a solution to meet their needs independently.

Fortunately, there are agencies that offer practical solutions in which they allow these young, often 18 to 30 years to develop new skills and find a place in this society.

It should be understood that many of these young people must earn their living and they must learn a profession. Moreover, these young people lack the financial means to pay for studies in special schools to be successful in obtaining training in a shorter period than traditional training. For these young people to rush through life with the hope of living well, it is essential to provide adequate training with real opportunities to find a good job.

Here is a great example that will inspire many of us, in addition to providing quality products at really affordable prices. http://www.insertech.qc.ca/

A social insertion company that provides services assembly, update and computer repair. We sell new and second hand computers.

An efficient company involved in the field of social economy

Insertech is a social insertion company that works in the field of computers. Since 1998 we’ve been helping young adults with a low educational level or battling personal problems, to enter the labour market and regain control of their lives.

These young adults occupy different positions in the company, working under the supervision of qualified technicians. During the training period – which has a 6 months duration - the program’s participants carry out different tasks that allow them to identify their fields of interest and help them find quality jobs.

Over 40 young adults complete our training program every year. Insertech’s results are very impressive: over 90% of the participants of the insertion program find a job or return to their studies. This exceptional result demonstrates the motivation of the program’s participants and the quality of the training they receive.

Our non profit organization is directed by an administrative council integrated by members who come from different areas: Business and administration, Education and Social Development. The president of the council is Mr. Gérald Larose.

A social purchase that protects the environment

Insertech Angus produces 6000 computers per year, including new and refurbished equipment. These computers are distributed to schools and non profit organizations at a very low cost, or are sold to private companies and particular clients. In 2002, we launched the first "social" computer brand of North America: Insertech Angus became a registered computer trademark.

They offer a powerful and reliable product, assembled with Intel® processors and components of excellent reputation.

Our clients purchase quality products and at the same time they give a second chance in life to our young workers.

In addition, through the computer refurbishing process, Insertech contributes to sensitize people about the importance of protecting our environment.

Take a look at the website and you will discover treasures you will surely delights.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

The cries from the heart of aid agencies to needy

The crying need of aid agencies to the poor is larger than life in this time of economic crisis. Not only the number of donors has decreased, but the amount of donations has also decreased. Obviously, with this time of sorrow and sharp economic slowdown, the number of people in need has increased significantly. Therefore, negative impact on the quantities of food available to meet the needs are great.

How can we help these organizations?

Of course there is the most effective way is to make a cash donation to enable agencies to make necessary purchases. However, when you donate, it is important to learn about available payment options. You can do this by credit card, by monthly payment, participating in activities, etc..

I'll be a little more specific in my comments, I'll talk about the Montreal area. The most effective way to help the poor is through http://www.moissonmontreal.org/ Members are regularly supplying nearly 200 organizations that provide food and nutritional support for people in need.

There are also several accommodation agencies that must be supported by community and by business people. Do not forget that all aid agencies to the poor are always in need of funding, resources and materials of all kinds. Take a few moments of your life to determine how you can help one of these agencies in one way or another. Make a visit to the website of the charity of your choice and see how you can participate in supporting these people who need help.

Very important notes

Whatever your current situation, always remember that life is sometimes surprising and you're never safe from the unexpected that can propel you at speeds unheard of among the people in need. Probably your situation will be temporary, but when this happens you will understand that these organizations will be essential and will help you meet your basic needs and find support for yourself regain control and become independent.

Do not judge those who need help from these organizations in one way or another.

When you see a helpless person in the street, make your imagination go and scroll down in your mind the scenario of the life of this person. Did he dream one day to live this life of misery, of course not. When she was still a child, what were the dreams of that person's, ambitions and how has it been encouraged and supported to achieve these dreams. You understand that we cannot believe that the current situation of each of these people is absolutely not fulfilling their childhood dream.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Environment, who should take care ?

The environment, a topical issue, a reality that must be taken in hand now. Who should deal with it ? The answer is simple, everyone, but what shall we think of the behavior of world leaders with conflicting discussion that delay significantly agreements and concrete actions, which should help the planet to catch his breath.

The economic crisis has severely shaken the whole green initiatives resulting as the main priority of nations is now almost exclusively on the economy, employment and health. So even if the environment is considered a major issue for the entire planet, it has considerably lost its momemtum, because the financial benefits to act in harmony with the environment in the longer term, therefore, these initiatives do not meet the requirements to meet urgent economic needs, following the collapse of the global economy.

In fact, initiatives and business projects that are environmentally friendly or resolve an environmental problem are the real culprits of the momentum of the environmental movement. The community has always been the more powerful leverage do force national leaders to act no matter the field. As soon as the community begins to move and act toward a specific goal, governments have no choice but to get involved, otherwise they will be caught in a non stop media storm.

Whether you're a small businessman, a citizen, a large company or a mega company, everybody should act. Do not wait until governments, our lives are in danger, our lifestyle, our quality of life and even our safety is at stake. When nature is unleashed, it is merciless, it is extremely violent and is of a magnitude that usually exceeds our imagination.

I do not want to be alarmist, the alarm has already sounded, I just want to tell you that this is not the time to ask if it's time. We must act now and make important decisions about your lifestyle associated with the environment. If your life habits affect the environment, you must change, you must shake the cage of those who can help you to change and must respond effectively to this daily threat daily, the new reality of this century .

Consider some simple examples. The packaging, buy products that have almost no packaging. For products that are exaggerated or unnecessary packaging, take 5 minutes and let them know by writing to the company that you will never be a customer if they don't want to act as responsible corporate towards the environment and security of mankind. If you can not dispose of your waste in a city that does not bother to make the recovery at all levels, let them know what you want and you will see that if everyone put it, the elected will have no choice but to act.

Contractors should act now and create working groups with their employees and have a green project that can always act as a responsible company. People like to be part of projects that deliver results and is beneficial to the community, it is characteristic of the man wanting to help his community if he is given the means.

Do not look for of magic solutions to reduce your carbon footprint. Do some research online and you will find tons of little tricks, associations and recipes that help you take action NOW. Whatever the size of your actions, act now and do not underestimate the mass effect is really the recipe for the most powerful results quickly.

Friday, November 13, 2009

Waiting

Is it worse torture than wait? Waiting until after a medical diagnosis, waiting for a response from a future employer, to wait after a call from your future lover, waiting for a latecomer that could make you lose a golden opportunity, the aircraft, an important appointment or a place in a cinema or a restaurant.

In short, waiting is an emotion that creates anxiety that we all hate and acts instantly on our imagination. From the moment the waiting begins, a negative scenarios snaps our imagination. Whether a person is regarded as imaginative or not, our imagination is unparalleled. The wildest scenarios go through our head and invade our bodies.

The invasion of the body is real, we feel the negative effects of different scenarios that we mentally go through and worse, we forget that what we imagine, is not real, that it is only possible consequence and not the reality. In summary, we become paranoid for a short time. However, this brief moment of anguish takes a long time to unwind.

When we mean by short moments we can talk about a few seconds to a few weeks. Of course, over the long wait, the more anxiety may worsen and can become terribly difficult to bear. A number of people can not afford these waiting times without medical help and it's a disaster when it comes to such a degree of anxiety.

How to control his anguish in such cases?

Existential question you ask, of course, it is not easy to find ways that meet all cases. However, failing to find an ultimate solution or all solutions for all types of anxiety, we can certainly reduce the intensity and thereby effects.

To get there is not enough to have a positive attitude that makes the neighborhood and everyone aroud youmad . The positive attitude is definitely required, but let's be serious, pragmatic above all, it is necessary to behave consequently with our personality, otherwise we simply acting against nature and especially we do not believe for one second that this behavior will be beneficial.

What I propose is quite simple, first, take an easy approach and quick to use, I propose a solution that works beautifully for me and that is really amazingly simple and you've probably heard thousands of times, here it is:

Take a piece of paper and make three columns, one with the scenario you just imagined, the second column with the consequences of this scenario and the last column the feelings it provokes in you. Simple, very simple but really effective. First, this frees your brain simply to write and organize your thoughts, you free your mind, you do not have to think you just read.

Secondly, during the time you take this information to scribble on a piece of paper, you focus on one topic, so you avoid imagine other scenarios that would accumulate over it. At least, the risk of accumulation is significantly reduced while you exercise to put this script on paper.

Besides, it is likely that some of your negative feelings caused by this scenario is the feelings that you can hardly explain. Since writing is an exercise that is very long when compared to the thought, generally avoids unnecessarily writing and attempting to go to basics, to what is really important and relevant. The act of writing forces us to be more rational in developing these scenarios and consequences.

Have you ever tried this method ? If so, I would like to know what you think.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

How to report a situation without negative criticism

As we live in a totally imperfect world, the opportunities are endless to criticize and from the point of view of almost everyone they often take appearance of negligence, omission or just bad faith.

So, how to report a situation without negatively criticize the situation, event or behavior?

In fact, it's not that complicated to do it, but it is more difficult to control the inner emotion that invaded us and brings us to profane negative criticism, spiteful and especially who do not bring solution or at least of ideas being considered to find a solution.

Controlling our emotion is the hardest thing to do in these situations. Since television is present in every home and that journalists give their personal views without ever offering a solution (or rarely), viewers do the same thing. The influence of repeated daily behaviors, inevitably affects and  influence most people, which in turn reproduce the same behavior.

This finding will seem simplistic, I admit, however, we must not forget that we are easily influenced, especially when we are exposed daily to these behaviors. Anyway, the most important thing is to learn how to report situations that upset you, but without falling into the systematic destruction.

We must learn to identify what may be the basis for proposing suggestions for improvement or change by providing clear and practical evolutionary aspect of these new solutions or changes. It is not necessary to tear down to rebuild, it is possible to change things positively if not denigrate what had been done before, thus avoiding conflicts and closed reactions from concerned ersons . Usually you have to put in the context timely to understand why certain decisions were taken, which explains choices that were made at the time.

Of course, this approach does not apply to all situations, but daily it applies to many situations, especially those to which you are exposed and directly affecting your lives. The situation with your family, your workplace, your leisure environment and the community in general. If you can develop this type of approach to improve the elements of your environment, there are good chances that the results are more effective than they were before with the recipe of destructive criticism.

Tell me what you think and how you do it to do.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Making good habits

Having good habits in life is usually the best way to live well and avoid possible surprises. Easy to say, but not so easy to do in all areas of our lives. Imagine, we must have good habits in everything we do, for example: managing our finances, our diets, our physical activity, our physical health, our social behavior, our attitude in frustrating situations and many others fields of activities of our lives.


Why always try to make good habits? A small development is needed at the outset, taking good habits is the most effective way to simplify his life to the fullest. We can safely say that this is the strongest foundation imaginable to live a life without problems.

It is not easy to make good habits in all aspects of his life. First, because in some areas, such as food, there are a lot of conflicting information to determine what is good or not for health. Then he habits of life you love and who give uyou great pleasure, for example, smoking a good cigar after a hearty meal.

It should be understood that the human being is a living species that adapts quickly and likes to wallow in lifestyle. Since we are creatures of habit, we maust take good habits as soon as possible. Be patient with yourself, you will not succeed in changing your bad habits crying chisel, but you should seriously take charge of it and make important choices.

Take time to understand what your true motivation are to change what you consider bad habits. Identify what are the real benefits for you, what are the tangible benefits. You must clearly identify the advantages and benefits that you can easily measure the results so you can assess the benefits and make the necessary adjustments for you as close as possible to your goals.

I suggest you not try to do everything alone, so you can get help from people who have good habits in the areas of life you want to change. These people will guide you and encourage you throughout your journey.

When you begin to make new habits, you will find that this is no more difficult than before, since these new habits will become your current habits.

If you have small stuff, let us know.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Why seek help?

Why seek for help? Simply because two heads are better than one. However, many people do not want to disturb others or simply do not want others to know what are their current problems. Most people always want to look their best and want to show they are successful and they have control of their lives.


Take steps to be successful and have control of his life is a responsible attitude and demonstrates that you are a person who can be trusted. This does not mean that you must do it alone, however if you do some research on the lives of successful people, famous or not, you will find that these people also encounter difficult situations. By cons, in most cases you will find that these people have appealed to others for help. Those who succeed best get out of difficult situations are generally people who seek help, which acts from the outset and do not try to solve everything alone as super heroes.

To get help you must dare to explain the whole situation. Do not forget to give details. Why? When you clearly explain the situation, it is possible that the solutions you identified are not necessarily the best, especially the most rational for a long-term period. Actually we all tend to identify short-term solutions at the expense of a more efficient, but more difficult to apply at first.

A simple example, it is easier to borrow money to settle debts in the short-term than to clean up its finances and changing consumer habits.

Ideally, if you want people to help efficiently, it is better to ask for help, when possible, prior to the brink. The more time you give to others to help you, better will be the solutions they will propose to you. In certain situations, it is possible that you unnecessarily react, but be assured that the people you ask for help appreciate being notified in advance, even if sometimes they are false alarms.

Dare to ask for help and explaining clearly why you need them. Most people will help if you are able to do so, but if you get help from people who do well in life, you can expect that these people offers long-term solutions to help you take care of your life. As the saying goes, if you're hungry, they will probably show you to fish instead of giving you fish to eat.

Are you afraid to seek help and how do you do if you do it?

Monday, November 9, 2009

Procrastination, or the behavior to put off the next day

The art of procrastination, is not a behavior that most people adopt too often. Why put things in the next day when we can do it right now? In some cases, simply out of laziness, because it does not seem important to do so immediately. In other cases, because we do not know how to act or react, so we do not really know how. to face it. Finally, we don't want to settle the case, because we don't dare to face the situation and face the consequences, thinking that letting time pass, the situation will resolve itself, like magic!

All these attitudes have consequences more or less serious, however, they are the cause of all worries and problems that long term can have very negative impact on your lives. But why so many people continue to procrastinate despite the impact on their lives?

Fear, fear of not being able to resolve the situation, fear of having to show his entourage that we have a problem that makes us look vulnerable, fear of knowing that the solution will have negative impacts and we don't believe we have the strength to face it.

It is sometimes very difficult to face his problems from the start and assume the consequences of these difficult situations. However, it must be remembered that the failure to cope a situation, solves absolutely nothing, quite the contrary, the more you let go a situation, the more likely to fester unchecked.

How to convince yourselve to always act early to solve a problem?

First, you must convince yourselve that acting early will substantially reduce the negative effects of a bad situation. In many cases this will prevent you not to act without thinking, simply because you will not be at the last minute, so you'll have more time to try to define more than one option to resolve the situation.

Then you should not attempt to resolve the situation alone, the more qualified and experienced people you have with you, the more effective and easy to apply solutions you will probably find. Leave your ego aside and dare explain your situation to people who may help you properly. Do not worry, most of these people do not judge you, they know well that you're in a situation that requires help and encouragement, not criticism.

To supplement this small presentation on procrastination, remember that as long as you put off till tomorrow what you should do right away, your mind will be tormented and live in fear and remorse. We all know very well that we procrastinate hinders the mind and peace of mind to enjoy life as it should.

How you do you not to procrastinate, at least do the least possible?

Friday, November 6, 2009

Doubt the future

If there is a subject that deserves to be analyzed carefully, it’s this sense of apprehension we have about what will happen in the future. We doubt and we fear what might happen in the future, because we have no certainty we can face this fate if misfortunes arose.

When our thoughts or our reflections linger over the future and when we are doubtful, we can easily assert we are on the first phase of paranoia, that is to say, we extrapolate on situations which exist only in our imagination. We don’t mean planning for the future with several hypotheses, but we have important doubt on our capacities to face the future.

These doubts are doubts on our personal capacities, on the capacity to react well into society in which we live and on the way the humanity meets the present challenges. Nothing can guarantee the future will be as you would like to see it. Nothing can protect you from misfortunes, injustices or anything else that can make your life more difficult.

Why do we have all these doubts? Simply because we have no control over the future in most areas of our lives. An answer which you didn’t doubtless want to hear because there is nothing to reassure you. Unfortunately, such is life. For some people it’s a real pleasure to live in an environment like this. They love discovering new things, they love adventure, they love being surprised by life and they try to face situations with energy and enthusiasm. While for others, I would say most people, the less surprised they have in their lives, the better.

When challenges are important, it’s not easy to adapt ourselves, to react calmly, with serenity and especially without any doubt that things will be for best when the thunderstorm will be over. It’s not always the case but often, that’s what happens. As we dread the end of the adventure is not always positive, we imagine tons of scenarios so apocalyptic. With so much apprehension and imagination, we have a better understanding why the majority of people prefer not to have too many surprises in their life.

How do you manage this emotion ?

Thursday, November 5, 2009

How to stay motivated to achieve you dreams?

You want to live with a smile and have joy in life no matter what happens to you. Nothing is easier to think deeper than you've just won 40 million dollars in the lottery. Do the visualization exercise and try to really believe you've won! Force yourself to work your imagination so you can feel this feeling deep in your emotions, your body!

Not easy, is'nt it ? It is not easy because we are not able to believe it and as we can't believe it can't happens, we cannot create the sensation of freedom and safety resulting from winning such an amount in the lottery. Moreover, it is difficult to imagine that feeling because you have no personal memory of such a sensation, therefore, you cannot remember such a feeling.

If I ask you to reproduce a feeling such as fear of heights, fear of an automobile collision, fear being hit by someone else, there's a good chance you can get there. It is likely that you will get there, simply because you have a real memory of that emotion and from the memory, you are able to reproduce that emotion.

All these explanations to help to understand how to generate energy for your dreams, you must find in you the feeling within you when you reach the desired results. You have to find a personal experience the closest possible to the emotion that you think you will feel when you reach your goal.

When you associate an emotion with your dream, you started the motivation engine, the most powerful motivation toll in the world for you to move every day towards achieving your dream. You have just discovered the most important way to you recharge your batteries when you feel that things will not go as you want.

To stay motivated it is imperative that your motivation comes from a real sensation, an emotion that you are able to reproduce when require. To complete a project, to fulfill a dream, you must often face many unexpected situations that could have the effect of discouraging you. As most people have considerable difficulty in coping with adversity, it is essential to find motivation from a positive emotion and above all a true emotion.

The power of emotions is not anymore to prove, everyone knows how emotions are the source of most of the major achievements as the worst failures. Success is in the art of using these positive emotions to motivate, rejuvenate and pick the best of us.

Try it and tell me what happens to you.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Freedom

Being free, the dream of man since time immemorial. Being free is the dream of everyone living on earth, regardless of location, social class and its political and religious allegiances. Free from what you say? Free of coercion, all that prevents you from becoming the person of your dreams, free to experience what you want to live and discover the world. The concept of freedom is so large and so different from one person to another. The myriad elements that influence our lives, our choices have a direct impact on our freedom.

Even if we all live on the same planet, living conditions vary greatly from place to place and the living conditions directly affect our freedom. It’s very difficult for a person to flourish in an environment of war, famine, repression, lawlessness and dictatorship. The concept of freedom for these people is probably very different from people living in an environment of peace, abundance, where the right of speech is respected and that opportunities are not limited to the whims of small groups of individuals.

Access to freedom is undoubtedly the goal of almost everyone on this planet, whatever the meaning of freedom for each of us. The most important thing is we all have choices and can make our own decisions on how we live. Our ultimate goal is to stop being dictated by everyone and live without the constraints that make us anxious and vulnerable.

When we were teenagers, the bulk of our energy was spent to find a way to do what we wanted, without being controlled by our parents, schools, police, our friends, our neighbors or any other person in authority. Once in the adult world, we realize that things are much alike, but in other forms.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Always tap the nail to achieve your dreams

For many people, dare to dream is already something difficult to do simply because these people are afraid of failing to achieve those dreams and disappointment. For those who dare to dream, there is the challenge to do what it takes to succeed.


We must understand that to succeed you need a few important ingredients. First, you must define your dream as accurately as possible, at least in its purpose. Then, you must try to plan how to get there. This step is very difficult because most of the time you don't really know how to get there and you don't know exactly what exists to help you realize your dream.

It is very important in the planning phase, to look for information around you with your friends, on the Internet, in books, blogs, and finally across. The more you dig the subject, the more you discover the opportunities and tools available on the market.

Almost at the same time you do your planning, you should start working. Yes, from the outset you must begin to move, experiment and make mistakes. The more you'll wave, stronger will be the storm and people will know your intentions, the better the chances to get help and learn recipes. The more you make mistakes, the more you have experience and you become an expert.

The planning necessary to achieve your dream, is only useful from the moment you will experience and you have made enough mistakes to understand how to avoid pitfalls and understand your ability to solve these problems.

A very important thing to understand from the moment you begin to act, the chance will approach you and when the preparation will meet the opportunity you've probably managed to get closer to the considerable success of your dreams. If you are ready and the opportunity arises you will be lucky.

Finally, the most difficult of all is perseverance. That is to say, tap the nail as long as necessary. Attention when I say tap the nail, I mean to always act according to your dream and act on that dream. However, you must always adjust your act as long as you do not reach your goal.

Success in achieving his dream is still possible, provided to do the right thing, as long as necessary and be prepared to devote all the energy it takes. There is no guarantee that you will succeed, but it is likely to happen. If this is not the case, you have a clear conscience for having given everything you need and you go to the next dream.

The purpose of life is to live and live is having fun trying to achieve his dreams. What do you think?

Sunday, November 1, 2009

"Now or never" from Jean-Marc Chaput

http://www.jean-marcchaput.com/

Last Saturday, October 31, I went to see Jean-Marc Chaput at Place des Arts in Montreal. The title of his lecture, "Now or never". The remarks of the conference focused on the need to act now to stop waiting after something to move forward.


In a nice way Mr. Chaput explained things in a simple way, but more important, the fact of dreaming, daring to make mistakes, get out of his comfort zone and as he said to get out of his old slippers. He presented several examples of negative attitude from teachers and those guiding our youth in the school system.
Mr. Chaput has never tried to discredit anybody, he simply tried to make us understand we have to think before acting, but to analyze to much is crippling. As he presented in its many examples, we're so paralyzed in certain situations such as construction of the CHUM,  fussy communications to manage influenza A (H1N1) and the interminable and ineffective reform school.

The approach of awareness of Mr. Chaput has certainly awakened some people and I beleieve some people dare to act now. Moreover, Mr. Chaput also said that we must sell ourselves, we must learn to sell ourselves and dare to be sold as individual. This is called "You Inc.". Is to say, we represent a value for our environment, to our society and we must believe we're good, as he said so "sacrafice" you are!

Finally, he spoke extensively of the fact that it dared to splurge and go through small successes in a row. Try to realize your dreams by step and celebrated every small victory. Self-esteem and success is built through action, experimentation, errors and help from people you ask some help. Mr. Chaput has delivered the goods very well and the 79 years man is very impressive and above all he still seems to have tons of dreams to realize which must be the source of his incredible energy.

Tell me if you think you recharge with speaker as Mr. Chaput should you?