Waiting

Is it worse torture than wait? Waiting until after a medical diagnosis, waiting for a response from a future employer, to wait after a call from your future lover, waiting for a latecomer that could make you lose a golden opportunity, the aircraft, an important appointment or a place in a cinema or a restaurant.

In short, waiting is an emotion that creates anxiety that we all hate and acts instantly on our imagination. From the moment the waiting begins, a negative scenarios snaps our imagination. Whether a person is regarded as imaginative or not, our imagination is unparalleled. The wildest scenarios go through our head and invade our bodies.

The invasion of the body is real, we feel the negative effects of different scenarios that we mentally go through and worse, we forget that what we imagine, is not real, that it is only possible consequence and not the reality. In summary, we become paranoid for a short time. However, this brief moment of anguish takes a long time to unwind.

When we mean by short moments we can talk about a few seconds to a few weeks. Of course, over the long wait, the more anxiety may worsen and can become terribly difficult to bear. A number of people can not afford these waiting times without medical help and it's a disaster when it comes to such a degree of anxiety.

How to control his anguish in such cases?

Existential question you ask, of course, it is not easy to find ways that meet all cases. However, failing to find an ultimate solution or all solutions for all types of anxiety, we can certainly reduce the intensity and thereby effects.

To get there is not enough to have a positive attitude that makes the neighborhood and everyone aroud youmad . The positive attitude is definitely required, but let's be serious, pragmatic above all, it is necessary to behave consequently with our personality, otherwise we simply acting against nature and especially we do not believe for one second that this behavior will be beneficial.

What I propose is quite simple, first, take an easy approach and quick to use, I propose a solution that works beautifully for me and that is really amazingly simple and you've probably heard thousands of times, here it is:

Take a piece of paper and make three columns, one with the scenario you just imagined, the second column with the consequences of this scenario and the last column the feelings it provokes in you. Simple, very simple but really effective. First, this frees your brain simply to write and organize your thoughts, you free your mind, you do not have to think you just read.

Secondly, during the time you take this information to scribble on a piece of paper, you focus on one topic, so you avoid imagine other scenarios that would accumulate over it. At least, the risk of accumulation is significantly reduced while you exercise to put this script on paper.

Besides, it is likely that some of your negative feelings caused by this scenario is the feelings that you can hardly explain. Since writing is an exercise that is very long when compared to the thought, generally avoids unnecessarily writing and attempting to go to basics, to what is really important and relevant. The act of writing forces us to be more rational in developing these scenarios and consequences.

Have you ever tried this method ? If so, I would like to know what you think.