It is through the small things we do that we learn, not the big things

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

How To Live A Better Life In 3 Easy Steps

Author: Michael Lee

Everyone wants to know how to live a better life. It’s a question that cuts across all social classes - from minimum wage employees to famous celebrities. They may not ask it all in the same way, but the underlying question is clear.

How does one live a better life? There’s no one answer for that. After all, there are so many factors to consider. First off, you have to define the meaning of a better life. Then, you have to determine the kind of person you are and the realities with which you are surrounded.

This article will not attempt to give you an end all-be all answer for your question. It will, however, give you a good idea of where to start.

Step 1: Lifestyle
For many people, learning how to live a better life means learning how to improve their lifestyle. If you feel like this is a good place to start, then I suggest you take a good, long look at yourself and assess your current habits.

Do you often gorge yourself with junk food? Do you like to smoke or drink? Do you have any health concerns? When was the last time you exercised? Answering all these questions truthfully will reveal which areas you need to improve on.

If eating right is your main concern, why don’t you make a list of what you ate for one whole week? See what kind of food is missing in your diet. Eat more fish, more fruits and more vegetables as a way to balance your meals.

Vices are a little harder to break away from. But if you’re really committed to improving your lifestyle, you will find the strength to inch away from them one step at a time.

Step 2: Financial
Learning how to live a better life also means knowing how to increase finances and have enough money to support your lifestyle. While you can’t just hold out your palm and pray for it to rain money, you can find other ways to earn more income.

If you have enough time on your hands, why don’t you get a part-time job? These days, there are a lot of “work-at-home” job opportunities available for just about anyone. Go online and scour the net for these job ads.

Or why don’t you review your career and check whether you’re due for a promotion? If you’re not, why don’t you work on that as your goal? Advancement in career is advancement in life.

Step 3: Spiritual
Learning how to live a better life is not all about the material things or the physical body. It’s also in the state of mind. You don’t have to be religious in order to have peace of mind. For example, take the time to thank the universe for giving you another opportunity to experience life. Take the time to do a good deed everyday. Love yourself and love others.

Learning how to live a better life is a very noble act. As you go on this journey, you’ll soon realize that there isn’t just one way to live a better life.

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Attitude makes all the difference

Source: Author: Chantal Beaupre, n.a.

"Attitude is everything, then I have advantage to choose one that is beneficial for me."

This makes perfect sense. Yet we are often given to meet people for whom the attitude do not have enough value in their eyes that they care for them - at least a little bit. In fact, many people who simply leave their attitude at random events, people and things - and experiencing all sorts of emotions more or less unpleasant, painful and often unnecessary.

What about you? Are you aware of your attitudes, thoughts that you maintain in your own mind?
As you awaken in the morning, what are the first two or three things you do or say?

Curse you that you must go to work? You complain about the weather outside? You grumble about your back pain or a headache? You yell after children so they get up and get ready?

You know, most of us think or say more or less the same thing every morning!

And if the first things you do or say in the morning should reflect the overall look of your day, what thoughts or words would you choose? Is your dialogue positive and cheerful? Or is it whiny and full of censure?

It is clear that if you're used too grumbling in the morning, complaining and moaning, very likely that you'll be putting up your day at same speed, unless you change your attitude during the day.

At the risk of surprising you, the last things you think or say the evening is also very important in regard to your happiness!

What are your last thoughts before falling asleep?
Are you worried about tomorrow?

Do you have positive, rich and beneficial thoughts for you or do you rather harboring negative, poor and disastrous thoughts?

Be well aware the mean of wealth or poverty, do not necessarily refer to money. It simply refers to a harmful way of thinking about any aspect of your life - or any area of your life not running freely.

It is probably wise to maintain the habit of reading or listening to a positive, healthy and beneficial message before going to bed. You should never watch the news before falling asleep. Be aware that throughout your sleep, your subconscious will continue to marinate the last thoughts that you have offered, then pay special attention not to give him only thoughts that are beneficial to you.

Similarly, it is particularly useful to deliver into the hands of your subconscious any questions or problems you may have, you'll be wonderfully surprised at the answers and solutions available to you during the next waking hours!

I greatly encourage you to give importance to choosing your attitude, either by first taking the healthy habit of observing your own thoughts - no matter what time of day. In other words, this is to think about what you do while you think.

If you find that you already have positive, healthy and beneficial thoughts, that is very good! Be thankful and continue on the same path!

However, should you find that your thoughts are negative, destructive and harmful to you, do not spend your precious energy to fight against them, but rather head for your attention on more positive thoughts for you.

Remember that you are responsible for your attitude, thoughts that you choose to keep in your mind. Have the wisdom to choose thoughts that are positive, healthy and beneficial for you.

Monday, February 1, 2010

The road of life is sometimes a little fuzzy!

What a beautiful way to express, for most people a constant feeling. There was a time during the last century (much of the century) where it was not hard to make its game plan to face life. For men it was simply to find a job in a big company to find a spouse who was pleasant in the same social class, have children and participate in some volunteer activities o finally arrive at retirement peacefully!

For women, it was to find a working spouse, with a sense of responsibility and family, having children, watching over them and ensure that children are always well dressed and are fed properly. In addition, women should make sure to keep the house clean, in order to ensure that the spouse is not obliged to participate in housework and childcare.

Obviously you sketch a little smile with this little syllabus on the planning of the life of the time because it was certainly not so simple.

Why is it so difficult today to find the path that we want to take in life?
The answer is very simple because the number of paths is incalculable. We have so many choices, so many opportunities that we are simply stunned by this whirlwind of choice.

Why make a choice?
During your life, most of you will not make a single choice, but several choices. Along the way, several events outside your control, will force you to make choices in spite of you will. In many cases you will have to make these choices without really being prepared, simply because most of the circumstances of life are unpredictable.

There is no recipe to make good choices, there is the experience, circumstances and luck. Life is never black or white, it is gray and shades vary daily. Do not look for perfection and do not be afraid to make mistakes. The worst mistake is to stand still and let things go. If you do this, all decisions will be taken by others and be assured that most of these decisions will not be in your favor.

Accept the fact that life is a blur standing
Do not be afraid of uncertainty, because everything is not 100% clear, do not forget that this gives us some leeway to change things during the journey. Indeed, we can do it the same way that we avoid the obstacles and we adapt our behavior on the road, we can do the same thing with our lives.

When rules are too rigid and plans too perfect it is failing to ignore the particularities of each human being, the situation surrounding, the new knowledge that change the order of things. The vagueness of the road of  life is what allows us to grow up, learning to cope with adversity in spite of ourselves and is what makes life so exciting.

Unfortunately there are always tragic events that can really affect your life very negatively, but will you stay hidden all your life trying to avoid the inevitable?

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Feeling rejected - How to cope

Too often when we think we have been rejected or we're disappointed, we get discouraged and we say: "It was not for me. I think that I am not good enough for this position. When we hit these disappointments, it's normal to be a little shaken. We want to start over as soon as possible. We do not want to let our dreams die or become extinct.

We want to understand that in each event not running as we want, there's always a new opportunity or a new door to open. Our work and our mission is to discover this new door.

Often, our greatest opportunities emerge from our greatest disappointments. Sometimes it's comfortable. Often, we don't like the feeling, however, we can not make the mistake of sitting down and stay where we are.

In our biggest disappointments arise our greatest opportunities. Take for example a maple tree. If we are planting it in a jar, its growth will soon be very limited. Once the roots have filled the jar, maple tree can't grow anymore. The problem is not maple tree, but its environment.

The environment limits the growth of the tree. Perhaps we have greater things to accomplish than our environment can bear. When we pass through difficult times, it's not necessarily because we are in error. Sometimes this is how we've been guide or show the next step. Sometimes it's the little push we need to go forward.

Let's use this example to apply and understand the stages of healing. The feeling of rejection or disappointment is the first step. That's when we realize the pain or disappointment associated with the disconnection. If we do not accept this reality, if we avoid it, if we blame others, ourselves and the circumstances, we will have difficulty to face it.

When we begin to suffer, immediately we rise and we begin to look for people or events that could help us. We are the second stage. We try to identify quickly: "Who is that person who can help me." Help always comes from outside and new learning. Similarly, we reject the blame on external events or others.

Then comes the realization that this is not the others or the circumstances that created the problem. Everything becomes clear. We who are responsible for what happens to us. How come I always find myself in circumstances or with similar people? This frustration and the feeling of being caught and turned in circles. It's like being stuck in the snow. The wheels are turning, but the car does not advance.

At this stage, when we recognize that we put ourselves in these situations, we can regain our power to take action and change things from within.

Finally, the last step is to take action. This last step is undoubtedly the most difficult and one that will take longer to achieve. To be frank, this is also the most difficult step to achieve, but the positive impact on your life will be unprecedented.

If you live in a situation where you feel constantly rejected daring escape from this environment that does not match your dreams and your aspirations.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010


When I ask you to listen and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen and you start to tell me why I should not feel that way, you trampled my feelings.

When I ask you to listen and you feel you must do something to solve my problem, you do not help me, as strange as it may seem.

Listen, is all I ask you to do.

I don't want you to tlak or to do something I ask you only to listen.

Advice is cheap, I have the same in a newspaper in section of heart and my horoscope.

I want to act by myself, I am not helpless, maybe a little discouraged and faltering but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can do by myself, you contribute to my fear, you accentuated my disability.

But when you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel (regardless of rationality) I can convince you to stop and I can try to begin to understand what lies behind these irrational feelings.

When it is clear, the answers are obvious, I do not need advice.

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what is behind.

Perhaps this is why prayer works sometimes for some people, because the divine is quiet.
  • He or she does not give advice
  • He or she does not try to fix things
  • They just listen and let you solve the problem yourself.

So please, listen and hear me.

And if you want to talk, wait just a minute and I'll listen.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

How to support adolescents in their development of life without invading

Despite the self-assurance they show-off, adolescents are often plagued with anxiety and doubt. So they desperately need from adults and especially their parents, to regularly experiment and see evidence of their confidence.

A brief look at the way parents should communicate with teenager

Confidence is the basis of any possibility of success. The more we are convinced that our children can succeed, the more he will believe in him and his chances of success in its projects will increase.

Wear a negative view of the adolescent as a person, even in jest or in the form of teasing is to risk to deeply mark and embedding him in a negative image of a loser who will have negative impact on his self-esteem. In doing so, it sticks on the young a label that may stick throughout his life. Even after becoming an adult, he will continue to be locked in the limiting beliefs that you have negatively influenced.

Also be sure to correctly manage your nonverbal communication. It is useless to recite a positive speech, if all in your attitude indicates otherwise. Thus, you must systematically highlight the developments of outcomes rather than focusing on one of them in particular. Developments, less abrupt, helps to anticipate slippage and step back on the reasons for the results, say less than acceptable.

It is imperative to systematically refuse to blame the error of a teenager. This is in contrast an opportunity to "undramatize" and to show it as a learning path. So far, as they will prove able to identify their mistakes, show courage and speak to lean on with confidence to try to understand, the youth will be able to use it and to learn something from it. Mistake, as everyone knows is a source of learning. Remember that you must try to learn.

How do you guide your teens without imposing your way of doing things?

And you young people (young adults), how do you guide your parents to let you do your own learning without always intervene?

Thursday, January 21, 2010

How to create opportunities in life?

It is well known that we must be open to seek opportunities that may come to us. But the emphasis is often placed on the fact that we can create our own opportunities. Here are some helpful tips.

To understand how opportunities work, it is first necessary to know that life is about choice: the life will always be the sum of the choices you made from birth to your death.

These choices can be considered as opportunities. Every day, you have the opportunity to improve your life or make it even worse. One of the most important things regarding opportunities is they are often disguised as a bad event.

For example, you are not hired by the company you want because of lack of experience. Consider this as an opportunity as a temporary work and you will at least make contacts and gain experience.

If you want to create opportunities in your life, you must open your social circle. Find an activity you like, there are many chances that a group of people share the same interest. If you have no interest in any specific topic, try something new and do not worry about the details: it is likely that your social circle enlarges as well.

Keep an open approach to things, if you are in situations that you consider to be unlucky, eliminate the bad things and see what you can draw well for the future.

Seizing the opportunity is an art that must be develop. Good opportunities leads through concrete and targeted actions. Do not wait until the opportunity presents by itself,, but you must go through the opportunity. Of course, this does not work every time, but the success rate is much higher!

How do you create opportunities in your life?