When I ask you to listen and you start to tell me why I should not feel that way, you trampled my feelings.
When I ask you to listen and you feel you must do something to solve my problem, you do not help me, as strange as it may seem.
Listen, is all I ask you to do.
I don't want you to tlak or to do something I ask you only to listen.
Advice is cheap, I have the same in a newspaper in section of heart and my horoscope.
I want to act by myself, I am not helpless, maybe a little discouraged and faltering but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can do by myself, you contribute to my fear, you accentuated my disability.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel (regardless of rationality) I can convince you to stop and I can try to begin to understand what lies behind these irrational feelings.
When it is clear, the answers are obvious, I do not need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what is behind.
Perhaps this is why prayer works sometimes for some people, because the divine is quiet.
- He or she does not give advice
- He or she does not try to fix things
- They just listen and let you solve the problem yourself.
So please, listen and hear me.
And if you want to talk, wait just a minute and I'll listen.
