A simple observation reveals that those who are negative and depressive lose much energy, they hang out as if they were wandering in the fog. However people with a positive attitude seem to have positive energy and endless enthusiasm to achieve their goals.
Having a positive attitude, will increase rapidly your creativity. The ideas and relationships will magically appear to help you achieve your goals.
A positive attitude allows your personality to better thrive. Even with the best qualifications and a vast general knowledge, if your attitude is negative, you lose all your assets. A positive attitude is the strongest element of your personality to achieve your goals.
In your workplace, as in your personal life, a positive attitude will make the difference to achieve your goals. Having a positive attitude, will help you establish and maintain healthy relationships with your superiors and your friends which is the key to achieve your goals.
You will quickly expand your network of relationships. When you're positive you send friendly signals. If you're happy and optimistic, your attitude is a magnet. Not only you will attract others, but they will be more friendly with you because they feel that you really enjoy.
As far as skills, the success of your life depends on the quality of your professional and personal relationships to achieve your goals. A positive attitude brings a double benefit, it helps you improve your relationships that lead you to make new friends.
To reinforce your positive attitude, have a sense of humor. The positive attitude and humor work in symbiosis. The more you learn to develop your sense of humor the more will become positive. Because you become more positive, you'll have more ideas to reach your goals. The humor in all forms will help to resist the negative forces. You can improve your sense of humor, learn to tell jokes is a great way to dispel negative perceptions.
Laughter is a therapy. Laughter relaxes the nerves, improves digestion and helps blood circulation. Laughter allows you to recharge your batteries and have more energy to achieve your goals.
Listen to your favorite music, take a stroll in the countryside, go see a play will help you relax and see the bright side of life to achieve your goals.
Be physically active is a great way to release stress and regain a positive attitude to achieve your goals.
Make a daily reading on personal development to give you ideas and recharge positively yourselves on the situations where you worried and stress for.
What do you do to empower you to maintain your positive attitude at all times?
Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
How-tos for coping with the stress of obnoxious people deal with it
Not all stress is bad and there are ways to deal with thoses obnoxious clients and co-workers.
Stress is healthy response that requires an emotional, physical or mental response. It can be a motivator and doesn’t have to be just a “negative”. But there are unhealthy ways of reacting to stress which include ignoring it, blaming others or becoming aggressive, unhappy or angry.
Stress on the job can be created by situations ranging from organizational change and ever-changer goals, to job insecurity and the constant mantra of “doing more with less”. To counteract this, attempt to articulate or obtain clarity about roles, responsibilities, authority and deadlines.
Like our spouse, bosses and co-workers all have different personalities and take the influences of home to the job. So understand where they are coming from is important. A little empathy with co-worker who has been up all night with a sick child goes a long way to understanding their mood and ability to do the job that day. “They have life outside their jobs”.
Also, understanding the style of person’s management approach gives you insight into what is expected and which colleagues “play games” and how to avoid getting drawn in.
Here is a list of practical solutions to deal with stress:
Dealing with difficult behaviors requires understanding that “your office is a microcosm of the world” where there will be confrontation, arguments, needy-emotional people, bullying and those using passive/aggressive styles to get their own way.
So when you need to interact, be prepared to admit when you’re wrong; smile before starting the conversation; and check your stance and distance to the person so that your body language is not sending out wrong message.
Restate that the issue of discussion is to make sure both of you are on the same page and acknowledge the feelings and emotions of others. Beware of your reactions to others because you can control those 100% of the time.
How do you cope with those situations?
Stress is healthy response that requires an emotional, physical or mental response. It can be a motivator and doesn’t have to be just a “negative”. But there are unhealthy ways of reacting to stress which include ignoring it, blaming others or becoming aggressive, unhappy or angry.
Stress on the job can be created by situations ranging from organizational change and ever-changer goals, to job insecurity and the constant mantra of “doing more with less”. To counteract this, attempt to articulate or obtain clarity about roles, responsibilities, authority and deadlines.
Like our spouse, bosses and co-workers all have different personalities and take the influences of home to the job. So understand where they are coming from is important. A little empathy with co-worker who has been up all night with a sick child goes a long way to understanding their mood and ability to do the job that day. “They have life outside their jobs”.
Also, understanding the style of person’s management approach gives you insight into what is expected and which colleagues “play games” and how to avoid getting drawn in.
Here is a list of practical solutions to deal with stress:
- Establish goals that are specific, measurable and achievable;
- Write these down and identify short and long-term goals;
- Divide the individual goals into “chuncks” so that they can be worked on bits at a time;
- Set priorities;
- Practice the 4 Ds: dump, do, delegate and delay;
- Focus on time and nutrition so that you are at your physical and mental best to deal with stress;
- Use a buddy system to keep motivated;
- Employ strategic relaxation techniques like “me time” for reading, meditating, a walk, etc.
If someone is arguing, don’t match their volume level. Speaking calmly will alter their behavior as they tone down to match yours. Turn an argument into a conversation. Strive for realism not perfection.
Say “no” when you know you can’t add one more thing to your plate rather than offering “I’ll try” and not delivering. Acknowledge you will make mistakes. Judge your “own” behavior. Communicate clearly. Ask for help and take it.
Dealing with difficult behaviors requires understanding that “your office is a microcosm of the world” where there will be confrontation, arguments, needy-emotional people, bullying and those using passive/aggressive styles to get their own way.
So when you need to interact, be prepared to admit when you’re wrong; smile before starting the conversation; and check your stance and distance to the person so that your body language is not sending out wrong message.
Restate that the issue of discussion is to make sure both of you are on the same page and acknowledge the feelings and emotions of others. Beware of your reactions to others because you can control those 100% of the time.
How do you cope with those situations?
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Facing disappointments, challenges
During our short life we are often faced with situations that do not end like we wanted. Obviously, some situations have no impact on our lives, for example, the defeat of one of your favorite sports teams, a missed appointment at the dentist, etc.
In other cases the consequences are more annoying, even more irritating. To continue here are few examples in the daily life; when you have a flat on the road and you are not able to install the spare tire, when the transit is delayed and makes you miss an important office meeting etc..
Finally, there are situations that have consequences far more serious and cause you stress quite important or very important, for example, you do not get the promotion you thought you were due, you do not you find a job for various reasons on which you have no control, the performance of your financial investments drastically affect your lifestyle and your future retirement.
All these disappointments have the particularity to pick us up from the inside, you still live such a disappointment so emotional. According to the negative consequences that you anticipate you will have an emotional reaction, not controlled, which will be confusing to a point where you will stop to eat, you will have trouble sleeping, you will feel like a failure and sometimes you get sick.
Beware, negative stress as it is extremely dangerous for your body and your mind. These disappointments are sometimes difficult to deal positively, because you do not see at the outset how you will exit and you're not positive on what the future holds because of these events.
It is imperative that as soon as possible, e.g. within a few hours, you stop fretting about possible consequences of these events. You must act immediately, I repeat, you must act quickly it's the key to deal successfully with this disappointment and the only way, to be really effective to quickly eliminate these fears. When you are in action you must focus on what you do, therefore you have less time to think and get stress on the possible negative consequences, which by the way have not yet arrived!
There is no magic potion to get through a situation, a disappointment or a difficult time in life. You just know that life is filled with opportunities that are revealed when you begin to move and you decided not to let these events take control of your life. As you've probably heard the maxim tons of times "this is not what happens to you that is important is how you react to it." Even if this maxim seems a cliche, it is the recipe to follow.
In other cases the consequences are more annoying, even more irritating. To continue here are few examples in the daily life; when you have a flat on the road and you are not able to install the spare tire, when the transit is delayed and makes you miss an important office meeting etc..
Finally, there are situations that have consequences far more serious and cause you stress quite important or very important, for example, you do not get the promotion you thought you were due, you do not you find a job for various reasons on which you have no control, the performance of your financial investments drastically affect your lifestyle and your future retirement.
All these disappointments have the particularity to pick us up from the inside, you still live such a disappointment so emotional. According to the negative consequences that you anticipate you will have an emotional reaction, not controlled, which will be confusing to a point where you will stop to eat, you will have trouble sleeping, you will feel like a failure and sometimes you get sick.
Beware, negative stress as it is extremely dangerous for your body and your mind. These disappointments are sometimes difficult to deal positively, because you do not see at the outset how you will exit and you're not positive on what the future holds because of these events.
It is imperative that as soon as possible, e.g. within a few hours, you stop fretting about possible consequences of these events. You must act immediately, I repeat, you must act quickly it's the key to deal successfully with this disappointment and the only way, to be really effective to quickly eliminate these fears. When you are in action you must focus on what you do, therefore you have less time to think and get stress on the possible negative consequences, which by the way have not yet arrived!
There is no magic potion to get through a situation, a disappointment or a difficult time in life. You just know that life is filled with opportunities that are revealed when you begin to move and you decided not to let these events take control of your life. As you've probably heard the maxim tons of times "this is not what happens to you that is important is how you react to it." Even if this maxim seems a cliche, it is the recipe to follow.
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