We've all heard the expression "letting go" and often this approach is presented as "THE" solution to our woes as a specific situation. But what exactly is the process of letting go?
This process of letting go can not be an action from outside, because it is an internal process. It's up to us to pre-disposed ourself to letting go and this position is not primarily mental and even less the result of a time of internal analysis.
In fact, letting go is not a drop to an event, circumstance or person, otherwise it would be an outside process. It is not a surrender to internal pain and fear. This suffering is a trigger of internal discomfort following an internal perception of a situation that, during or following a misalignment of ourself. You may feel that they are events or outsiders who create this kind of inner pain, but this is not the case.
It is too easy to play the victim in dismissing the case on the outside world. This reaction to the appearance of an inner pain will only worsen the situation at some point. Life always brings us back to situations which we have not settled and that, as long as we do not exercise to letting go process to the buried pain.
It is easy to say and to act mentally to a form of letting go while trying to forget the event or minimize the consequences not always external to us, but within ourself. The process of letting go is based on an internal process, so on our experienced and felling. This process is not natural, because we have been educated to let time do its work, putting away unwanted people without ever knowing what is undesirable in us.
We fight, therefore more with our internal resistance. Our resistance to abandon what has been taught as true, as your thoughts. Letting go works well on our resistance to abandon what we know is that the events and people outside us.
It's hard to apply this process on our resistance and our suffering. Those suffering are so great, sometimes, it will create an impact on our bodies or our mental health. Our refusal not to see the outside, but most to look at us. This behavior will maintain our unpleasant and even unbearable feeling.
It's almost when we reached the end of our resources, both physical and mental demands that we begin to look at internal options. This can be achieved only when we are willing to accept this suffering as ours. At this moment we dare look at what this suffering will reveal. This acceptance can only come from ourselves and only then we can begin the process of letting go.
Letting go is exactly and above all a process beginning with the acceptance of a undesirable and uncomfortable situations. Acceptance, there will thereafter awareness of our resistance. What we resist so much and that makes us so badly.
In opening onto ourself by agreeing to observe and watch what we resist so that we can act on the evil and turn it into a well-being. This evil, this suffering is in our lives to talk to us, to recognize a misalignment of ourself, then everything follows from the action of granting a space and a time to look and listen without saying.
We can live a full and true self-realization without going through the process of letting go of old conditioned resistance that we have never been ours.
How do you letting go of situations that are poisoning your life?
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Monday, January 11, 2010
How to develop a sense of urgency
There are life situations that require quick responses and results to avoid living through difficult times with negative consequences. Generally, it is not difficult to have a sense of urgency to act, or rather to react and try to avoid the worst. Despite the fact that these situations do not occur, at least, should not occur too often in life, you must still take action and be quick to resolve these unpleasant situations of your life.
How do you act when you are not ine crises mode? Are you among those who have the habit of putting off what you could undertake right away? If so, you're among the majority of people on this planet.
It should be understood that I mean mainly of projetcs life, projects that are buried deep within your heart. I do not speak daily tasks, still I imagine that if you make procrastination in your normal life, it is not difficult to understand why you do the same thing with larger projects .
Far from me the idea to criticize anyone for such behavior. The reasons are too numerous, to rationally to explain this behavior and in many cases there are good reasons to do so.
The idea here is to discover how to succeed in creating a sense of urgency to get you out of torpor, fear, inertia blocking the realization of your projects. There is no recipe, there are only triggers feelings, emotions motivating to help you start the engine of concrete action.
What I consider the most important thing in this approach is to accept the fact that the success of your projects will be the result of several factors, many of these factors are not under your control. This simply means that luck is definitely part of the equation for success, but when you go into action and you persevere, the odds of being lucky increased considerably.
Why dare to try if my chances of success are minimal?
First and foremost because you still have a chance to succeed and also because what you discover along the way will be invaluable for the rest of your life. If you are looking a bit in your memory, you will find that most things you learned were when you were doing projects, activities in which you had to engage seriously.
I am convinced that in many cases, you had always a sense of urgency in one form or another and that even if you did not achieved the desired goal, you have accumulated knowledge and expertise that have been useful and practical for the rest of your life.
The main reason why you dare, is that by making plans you learn, you evolve and you truly enjoys life.
Create a sense of urgency is driving the action, if you do not set a goal with dates, it is unlikely that you will create that sense of urgency essential to motivate you to act and put the energy behind it, you would at least give you a chance to achieved some parts of your project.
Once you start the engine by creating your sense of urgency, you must stick emotion to your project so that the engine continued to run, let you advance and keep you alive, that is to say keep on action.
Tell me how you manage to create that sense of urgency for your projects?
How do you act when you are not ine crises mode? Are you among those who have the habit of putting off what you could undertake right away? If so, you're among the majority of people on this planet.
It should be understood that I mean mainly of projetcs life, projects that are buried deep within your heart. I do not speak daily tasks, still I imagine that if you make procrastination in your normal life, it is not difficult to understand why you do the same thing with larger projects .
Far from me the idea to criticize anyone for such behavior. The reasons are too numerous, to rationally to explain this behavior and in many cases there are good reasons to do so.
The idea here is to discover how to succeed in creating a sense of urgency to get you out of torpor, fear, inertia blocking the realization of your projects. There is no recipe, there are only triggers feelings, emotions motivating to help you start the engine of concrete action.
What I consider the most important thing in this approach is to accept the fact that the success of your projects will be the result of several factors, many of these factors are not under your control. This simply means that luck is definitely part of the equation for success, but when you go into action and you persevere, the odds of being lucky increased considerably.
Why dare to try if my chances of success are minimal?
First and foremost because you still have a chance to succeed and also because what you discover along the way will be invaluable for the rest of your life. If you are looking a bit in your memory, you will find that most things you learned were when you were doing projects, activities in which you had to engage seriously.
I am convinced that in many cases, you had always a sense of urgency in one form or another and that even if you did not achieved the desired goal, you have accumulated knowledge and expertise that have been useful and practical for the rest of your life.
The main reason why you dare, is that by making plans you learn, you evolve and you truly enjoys life.
Create a sense of urgency is driving the action, if you do not set a goal with dates, it is unlikely that you will create that sense of urgency essential to motivate you to act and put the energy behind it, you would at least give you a chance to achieved some parts of your project.
Once you start the engine by creating your sense of urgency, you must stick emotion to your project so that the engine continued to run, let you advance and keep you alive, that is to say keep on action.
Tell me how you manage to create that sense of urgency for your projects?
Friday, January 8, 2010
Allow yourself to grow
Human beeing can not stagnate, to stand still or to be content with he had. It needs some internal development, growth, evolution and it's by accepting this fact of life that you will walk to the financial success and well-being.
Anything that does not grow eventually die
Stagnation, routine or complacency are a disguised regression. This state of stagnation does not exist in nature, any more than humans. Everything is moving, everything is increasing or decreasing, it can not remain the same.
Often, people seek a life that any difficulties would be absent and where they would be "quiet" until the end of their life, but this state does not exist. When a plant stops growing, it begins to slowly die.
When you stop to evolve in your work and in your business, things begin to deteriorate. It's almost imperceptible at first, but as surely as when the body has finished growing, it begins to age.
When your relationship do not grow anymore, where every day your loving level does not grow, the routine is being established, the habit is created, the loss of desire or surprises begins and the relationship will stop progress to finally start decreasing.
Anything that will not progress will go backward. It can not be otherwise, is a law of nature, a law of life
To counter this, you must keep in you the desire to move forward, to always want more, be inquisitive and to expect the best. Always expect the best, have all your senses wake up.
Always be ready
Always be ready to embrace change, new ideas. Be ready to receive the gift of life, always be ready to host events of whatever kind and prepare yourself in your inner feeling to be like you want it to feel tomorrow.
Happiness is in the journey
As always, wanting more does not mean being satisfied with anything. Some people tend to say they will happy or satisfied when a particular event or result will be reached and they stayed frustrated or unhappy in the meantime.
Of course, when this happens they waited, they rush to redefine another thing to be achieved, giving them an opportunity to talk again and again that inner evil is still there.
You may want more while being happy with what you've done. It is not necessary to be dissatisfied to want more, you can also enjoy each moment that you live by living fully and with the desire to live other again and again.
Are you one of those that grow day after day? If yes, tell us how you succeed.
Anything that does not grow eventually die
Stagnation, routine or complacency are a disguised regression. This state of stagnation does not exist in nature, any more than humans. Everything is moving, everything is increasing or decreasing, it can not remain the same.
Often, people seek a life that any difficulties would be absent and where they would be "quiet" until the end of their life, but this state does not exist. When a plant stops growing, it begins to slowly die.
When you stop to evolve in your work and in your business, things begin to deteriorate. It's almost imperceptible at first, but as surely as when the body has finished growing, it begins to age.
When your relationship do not grow anymore, where every day your loving level does not grow, the routine is being established, the habit is created, the loss of desire or surprises begins and the relationship will stop progress to finally start decreasing.
Anything that will not progress will go backward. It can not be otherwise, is a law of nature, a law of life
To counter this, you must keep in you the desire to move forward, to always want more, be inquisitive and to expect the best. Always expect the best, have all your senses wake up.
Always be ready
Always be ready to embrace change, new ideas. Be ready to receive the gift of life, always be ready to host events of whatever kind and prepare yourself in your inner feeling to be like you want it to feel tomorrow.
Happiness is in the journey
As always, wanting more does not mean being satisfied with anything. Some people tend to say they will happy or satisfied when a particular event or result will be reached and they stayed frustrated or unhappy in the meantime.
Of course, when this happens they waited, they rush to redefine another thing to be achieved, giving them an opportunity to talk again and again that inner evil is still there.
You may want more while being happy with what you've done. It is not necessary to be dissatisfied to want more, you can also enjoy each moment that you live by living fully and with the desire to live other again and again.
Are you one of those that grow day after day? If yes, tell us how you succeed.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
The benefits of positive attitude to achieve your goals
A simple observation reveals that those who are negative and depressive lose much energy, they hang out as if they were wandering in the fog. However people with a positive attitude seem to have positive energy and endless enthusiasm to achieve their goals.
Having a positive attitude, will increase rapidly your creativity. The ideas and relationships will magically appear to help you achieve your goals.
A positive attitude allows your personality to better thrive. Even with the best qualifications and a vast general knowledge, if your attitude is negative, you lose all your assets. A positive attitude is the strongest element of your personality to achieve your goals.
In your workplace, as in your personal life, a positive attitude will make the difference to achieve your goals. Having a positive attitude, will help you establish and maintain healthy relationships with your superiors and your friends which is the key to achieve your goals.
You will quickly expand your network of relationships. When you're positive you send friendly signals. If you're happy and optimistic, your attitude is a magnet. Not only you will attract others, but they will be more friendly with you because they feel that you really enjoy.
As far as skills, the success of your life depends on the quality of your professional and personal relationships to achieve your goals. A positive attitude brings a double benefit, it helps you improve your relationships that lead you to make new friends.
To reinforce your positive attitude, have a sense of humor. The positive attitude and humor work in symbiosis. The more you learn to develop your sense of humor the more will become positive. Because you become more positive, you'll have more ideas to reach your goals. The humor in all forms will help to resist the negative forces. You can improve your sense of humor, learn to tell jokes is a great way to dispel negative perceptions.
Laughter is a therapy. Laughter relaxes the nerves, improves digestion and helps blood circulation. Laughter allows you to recharge your batteries and have more energy to achieve your goals.
Listen to your favorite music, take a stroll in the countryside, go see a play will help you relax and see the bright side of life to achieve your goals.
Be physically active is a great way to release stress and regain a positive attitude to achieve your goals.
Make a daily reading on personal development to give you ideas and recharge positively yourselves on the situations where you worried and stress for.
What do you do to empower you to maintain your positive attitude at all times?
Having a positive attitude, will increase rapidly your creativity. The ideas and relationships will magically appear to help you achieve your goals.
A positive attitude allows your personality to better thrive. Even with the best qualifications and a vast general knowledge, if your attitude is negative, you lose all your assets. A positive attitude is the strongest element of your personality to achieve your goals.
In your workplace, as in your personal life, a positive attitude will make the difference to achieve your goals. Having a positive attitude, will help you establish and maintain healthy relationships with your superiors and your friends which is the key to achieve your goals.
You will quickly expand your network of relationships. When you're positive you send friendly signals. If you're happy and optimistic, your attitude is a magnet. Not only you will attract others, but they will be more friendly with you because they feel that you really enjoy.
As far as skills, the success of your life depends on the quality of your professional and personal relationships to achieve your goals. A positive attitude brings a double benefit, it helps you improve your relationships that lead you to make new friends.
To reinforce your positive attitude, have a sense of humor. The positive attitude and humor work in symbiosis. The more you learn to develop your sense of humor the more will become positive. Because you become more positive, you'll have more ideas to reach your goals. The humor in all forms will help to resist the negative forces. You can improve your sense of humor, learn to tell jokes is a great way to dispel negative perceptions.
Laughter is a therapy. Laughter relaxes the nerves, improves digestion and helps blood circulation. Laughter allows you to recharge your batteries and have more energy to achieve your goals.
Listen to your favorite music, take a stroll in the countryside, go see a play will help you relax and see the bright side of life to achieve your goals.
Be physically active is a great way to release stress and regain a positive attitude to achieve your goals.
Make a daily reading on personal development to give you ideas and recharge positively yourselves on the situations where you worried and stress for.
What do you do to empower you to maintain your positive attitude at all times?
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
How happpiness happens ?
But how does an adult achieve a high level of contentment while living a frenetic and distraction-packed life?
There is an incredibly high correlation between people's happiness and meaning at work and at home. In other words, those who experience happiness and meaning at work tend also to experience them outside of work. Those who are miserable on the job are usually miserable at home.
The implication is unmistakable. Since work and home are very different environments, our experience of happiness and meaning in life appears to have more to do with who we are than where we are. Rather than blaming our jobs, our managers and our customers or our friends, family members, and communities for our negative worklife experience, we might be better served by looking in the mirror.
One commonly expressed excuse for not getting more happiness and meaning out of life is: "I'm working too many hours." But our results show that the number of hours worked had no significant correlation with happiness or meaning experienced at work or at home. So much for that excuse.
The correlations between happiness, meaning, and overall satisfaction at work and home were very similar. Those who were more satisfied with life outside of work are the one spending more time on activities that produced both happiness and meaning.
These links between how we spend our time and how we feel may seem confusing, but specific patterns arose some commonsensical, some not. Here are a few quick takeaways:
There is an incredibly high correlation between people's happiness and meaning at work and at home. In other words, those who experience happiness and meaning at work tend also to experience them outside of work. Those who are miserable on the job are usually miserable at home.
The implication is unmistakable. Since work and home are very different environments, our experience of happiness and meaning in life appears to have more to do with who we are than where we are. Rather than blaming our jobs, our managers and our customers or our friends, family members, and communities for our negative worklife experience, we might be better served by looking in the mirror.
One commonly expressed excuse for not getting more happiness and meaning out of life is: "I'm working too many hours." But our results show that the number of hours worked had no significant correlation with happiness or meaning experienced at work or at home. So much for that excuse.
The correlations between happiness, meaning, and overall satisfaction at work and home were very similar. Those who were more satisfied with life outside of work are the one spending more time on activities that produced both happiness and meaning.
These links between how we spend our time and how we feel may seem confusing, but specific patterns arose some commonsensical, some not. Here are a few quick takeaways:
- Reduce TV watching. It's stimulating but doesn't increase overall satisfaction with life at work or home.
- Cut back on surfing the Web for non-professional reasons. It's negatively correlated with the experience of both happiness and meaning.
- Do as few chores as you can (whatever that word means to you).
- Spend time exercising and with people you love (people doing this had more satisfaction with life at work and at home).
- Feeling challenged is linked to greater satisfaction, so challenge yourself.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
How to use creativity to get rid of your limitation thought
Take a moment to consider the creativity, not as something outside yourself, but as something that you already have in you forever.
Imagine the creativity as an energy that is trapped in a corner of your mind and imagine that you have to open a number of doors to reach this energy and let it out freely in your life.
Open the doors to let out the creativity in you
Of course, this is a metaphor, but merely to imagine is not the first step towards developing your creativity?
By becoming aware of your limiting patterns, you make it lose all power over you.
Go beyond your possible limits
The only limits to your ability to invent, your ability to create is what you believe you can do.
If something seems impossible today, you can not achieve unless you change your state of mind.
If you think you could not find the solution to a problem, you will not find it.
You could not reach what you believe impossible.
Do you think you will be able to have an idea that you will make you richer?
If the answer is no, how do you think you will succeed?
By setting limits to what you believe possible, you set boundaries that stop you to succeed.
When you do not believe in your ability to get something specific, you condition yourself to fail, you set your limits and you do not try to go beyond.
Go past the doubts
People believe that by obtaining new results you may overcome your doubts. But things did not go that way.
If you are planning to succeed, you must overcome your doubts, you should forget and pretend that what you want is possible.
Act as if it were possible
When you doubt, you create a blockage in you, you close your opportunities, you send instructions to your subconscious telling it to stop you from succeeding in doing this or that.
You only see what you think
One of the characteristics of your brain is to sort through your perceptions and make you perceive what goes in the direction of what you think.
If you believe that people are selfish, you only see people selfish if you think it is impossible to succeed in life, you will act to get going in this direction.
Imagine the creativity as an energy that is trapped in a corner of your mind and imagine that you have to open a number of doors to reach this energy and let it out freely in your life.
Open the doors to let out the creativity in you
Of course, this is a metaphor, but merely to imagine is not the first step towards developing your creativity?
By becoming aware of your limiting patterns, you make it lose all power over you.
Go beyond your possible limits
The only limits to your ability to invent, your ability to create is what you believe you can do.
If something seems impossible today, you can not achieve unless you change your state of mind.
If you think you could not find the solution to a problem, you will not find it.
You could not reach what you believe impossible.
Do you think you will be able to have an idea that you will make you richer?
If the answer is no, how do you think you will succeed?
By setting limits to what you believe possible, you set boundaries that stop you to succeed.
When you do not believe in your ability to get something specific, you condition yourself to fail, you set your limits and you do not try to go beyond.
Go past the doubts
People believe that by obtaining new results you may overcome your doubts. But things did not go that way.
If you are planning to succeed, you must overcome your doubts, you should forget and pretend that what you want is possible.
Act as if it were possible
When you doubt, you create a blockage in you, you close your opportunities, you send instructions to your subconscious telling it to stop you from succeeding in doing this or that.
You only see what you think
One of the characteristics of your brain is to sort through your perceptions and make you perceive what goes in the direction of what you think.
If you believe that people are selfish, you only see people selfish if you think it is impossible to succeed in life, you will act to get going in this direction.
Monday, January 4, 2010
Life is so precious
In this new year, it is good to take a short break and think about what is really important for you. This life is so short, so precious that you must learn to use each of these moments and try to enjoy it with pleasure and satisfaction.
Not easy to apply a philosophy of life as "zen" as this one, in such a social environment we're living in. Whatever country you are, life is demanding and you must learn to take responsibility no matter what.
Therefore you must learn to truly think constructively, you must learn to focus your positive feelings that your behavior is instinctively oriented toward objectives that provide solutions and concrete actions.
The precious moments that life give us should not be used to denigrate others and break sugar on the backs of others without ever participate in solving the problem. The practical interventions you do in our lives, have a direct impact on your sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that you have of yourselves.
You must choose what you do with your time, take the time to live your life to appreciate this short life which is so precious and so special. Sometimes choices are difficult, if not limited, but most cases you still have choices that can bring you much joy and satisfaction. Just take the time to do things and to do it for good reasons.
The year ahead will undoubtedly be high in change and surprise in all areas of life in our society. Countless events arise during the year and some of these events will have a direct impact on your lives. The world of today is very inter-connected from one end to another of the planet. You can not remain insensitive to other nations. This is why life requires calm, demeanor and positive thinking to make more informed decisions that will allow you to better enjoy life while acting in accordance with respect for others and our planet .
What is your approach to enjoy the best of this beautiful life?
Not easy to apply a philosophy of life as "zen" as this one, in such a social environment we're living in. Whatever country you are, life is demanding and you must learn to take responsibility no matter what.
Therefore you must learn to truly think constructively, you must learn to focus your positive feelings that your behavior is instinctively oriented toward objectives that provide solutions and concrete actions.
The precious moments that life give us should not be used to denigrate others and break sugar on the backs of others without ever participate in solving the problem. The practical interventions you do in our lives, have a direct impact on your sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that you have of yourselves.
You must choose what you do with your time, take the time to live your life to appreciate this short life which is so precious and so special. Sometimes choices are difficult, if not limited, but most cases you still have choices that can bring you much joy and satisfaction. Just take the time to do things and to do it for good reasons.
The year ahead will undoubtedly be high in change and surprise in all areas of life in our society. Countless events arise during the year and some of these events will have a direct impact on your lives. The world of today is very inter-connected from one end to another of the planet. You can not remain insensitive to other nations. This is why life requires calm, demeanor and positive thinking to make more informed decisions that will allow you to better enjoy life while acting in accordance with respect for others and our planet .
What is your approach to enjoy the best of this beautiful life?
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