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How To Live A Better Life In 3 Easy Steps

2010-02-03T05:29:00.000-08:00

Author: Michael Lee

Everyone wants to know how to live a better life. It’s a question that cuts across all social classes - from minimum wage employees to famous celebrities. They may not ask it all in the same way, but the underlying question is clear.

How does one live a better life? There’s no one answer for that. After all, there are so many factors to consider. First off, you have to define the meaning of a better life. Then, you have to determine the kind of person you are and the realities with which you are surrounded.

This article will not attempt to give you an end all-be all answer for your question. It will, however, give you a good idea of where to start.

Step 1: Lifestyle
For many people, learning how to live a better life means learning how to improve their lifestyle. If you feel like this is a good place to start, then I suggest you take a good, long look at yourself and assess your current habits.

Do you often gorge yourself with junk food? Do you like to smoke or drink? Do you have any health concerns? When was the last time you exercised? Answering all these questions truthfully will reveal which areas you need to improve on.

If eating right is your main concern, why don’t you make a list of what you ate for one whole week? See what kind of food is missing in your diet. Eat more fish, more fruits and more vegetables as a way to balance your meals.

Vices are a little harder to break away from. But if you’re really committed to improving your lifestyle, you will find the strength to inch away from them one step at a time.

Step 2: Financial
Learning how to live a better life also means knowing how to increase finances and have enough money to support your lifestyle. While you can’t just hold out your palm and pray for it to rain money, you can find other ways to earn more income.

If you have enough time on your hands, why don’t you get a part-time job? These days, there are a lot of “work-at-home” job opportunities available for just about anyone. Go online and scour the net for these job ads.

Or why don’t you review your career and check whether you’re due for a promotion? If you’re not, why don’t you work on that as your goal? Advancement in career is advancement in life.

Step 3: Spiritual
Learning how to live a better life is not all about the material things or the physical body. It’s also in the state of mind. You don’t have to be religious in order to have peace of mind. For example, take the time to thank the universe for giving you another opportunity to experience life. Take the time to do a good deed everyday. Love yourself and love others.

Learning how to live a better life is a very noble act. As you go on this journey, you’ll soon realize that there isn’t just one way to live a better life.

Attitude makes all the difference

2010-02-02T06:10:00.000-08:00

Source: Author: Chantal Beaupre, n.a.

"Attitude is everything, then I have advantage to choose one that is beneficial for me."

This makes perfect sense. Yet we are often given to meet people for whom the attitude do not have enough value in their eyes that they care for them - at least a little bit. In fact, many people who simply leave their attitude at random events, people and things - and experiencing all sorts of emotions more or less unpleasant, painful and often unnecessary.

What about you? Are you aware of your attitudes, thoughts that you maintain in your own mind?
As you awaken in the morning, what are the first two or three things you do or say?

Curse you that you must go to work? You complain about the weather outside? You grumble about your back pain or a headache? You yell after children so they get up and get ready?

You know, most of us think or say more or less the same thing every morning!

And if the first things you do or say in the morning should reflect the overall look of your day, what thoughts or words would you choose? Is your dialogue positive and cheerful? Or is it whiny and full of censure?

It is clear that if you're used too grumbling in the morning, complaining and moaning, very likely that you'll be putting up your day at same speed, unless you change your attitude during the day.

At the risk of surprising you, the last things you think or say the evening is also very important in regard to your happiness!

What are your last thoughts before falling asleep?
Are you worried about tomorrow?

Do you have positive, rich and beneficial thoughts for you or do you rather harboring negative, poor and disastrous thoughts?

Be well aware the mean of wealth or poverty, do not necessarily refer to money. It simply refers to a harmful way of thinking about any aspect of your life - or any area of your life not running freely.

It is probably wise to maintain the habit of reading or listening to a positive, healthy and beneficial message before going to bed. You should never watch the news before falling asleep. Be aware that throughout your sleep, your subconscious will continue to marinate the last thoughts that you have offered, then pay special attention not to give him only thoughts that are beneficial to you.

Similarly, it is particularly useful to deliver into the hands of your subconscious any questions or problems you may have, you'll be wonderfully surprised at the answers and solutions available to you during the next waking hours!

I greatly encourage you to give importance to choosing your attitude, either by first taking the healthy habit of observing your own thoughts - no matter what time of day. In other words, this is to think about what you do while you think.

If you find that you already have positive, healthy and beneficial thoughts, that is very good! Be thankful and continue on the same path!

However, should you find that your thoughts are negative, destructive and harmful to you, do not spend your precious energy to fight against them, but rather head for your attention on more positive thoughts for you.

Remember that you are responsible for your attitude, thoughts that you choose to keep in your mind. Have the wisdom to choose thoughts that are positive, healthy and beneficial for you.

The road of life is sometimes a little fuzzy!

2010-02-01T05:10:00.000-08:00

What a beautiful way to express, for most people a constant feeling. There was a time during the last century (much of the century) where it was not hard to make its game plan to face life. For men it was simply to find a job in a big company to find a spouse who was pleasant in the same social class, have children and participate in some volunteer activities o finally arrive at retirement peacefully!

For women, it was to find a working spouse, with a sense of responsibility and family, having children, watching over them and ensure that children are always well dressed and are fed properly. In addition, women should make sure to keep the house clean, in order to ensure that the spouse is not obliged to participate in housework and childcare.

Obviously you sketch a little smile with this little syllabus on the planning of the life of the time because it was certainly not so simple.

Why is it so difficult today to find the path that we want to take in life?
The answer is very simple because the number of paths is incalculable. We have so many choices, so many opportunities that we are simply stunned by this whirlwind of choice.

Why make a choice?
During your life, most of you will not make a single choice, but several choices. Along the way, several events outside your control, will force you to make choices in spite of you will. In many cases you will have to make these choices without really being prepared, simply because most of the circumstances of life are unpredictable.

There is no recipe to make good choices, there is the experience, circumstances and luck. Life is never black or white, it is gray and shades vary daily. Do not look for perfection and do not be afraid to make mistakes. The worst mistake is to stand still and let things go. If you do this, all decisions will be taken by others and be assured that most of these decisions will not be in your favor.

Accept the fact that life is a blur standing
Do not be afraid of uncertainty, because everything is not 100% clear, do not forget that this gives us some leeway to change things during the journey. Indeed, we can do it the same way that we avoid the obstacles and we adapt our behavior on the road, we can do the same thing with our lives.

When rules are too rigid and plans too perfect it is failing to ignore the particularities of each human being, the situation surrounding, the new knowledge that change the order of things. The vagueness of the road of life is what allows us to grow up, learning to cope with adversity in spite of ourselves and is what makes life so exciting.

Unfortunately there are always tragic events that can really affect your life very negatively, but will you stay hidden all your life trying to avoid the inevitable?

Feeling rejected - How to cope

2010-01-28T05:36:00.000-08:00

Too often when we think we have been rejected or we're disappointed, we get discouraged and we say: "It was not for me. I think that I am not good enough for this position. When we hit these disappointments, it's normal to be a little shaken. We want to start over as soon as possible. We do not want to let our dreams die or become extinct.

We want to understand that in each event not running as we want, there's always a new opportunity or a new door to open. Our work and our mission is to discover this new door.

Often, our greatest opportunities emerge from our greatest disappointments. Sometimes it's comfortable. Often, we don't like the feeling, however, we can not make the mistake of sitting down and stay where we are.

In our biggest disappointments arise our greatest opportunities. Take for example a maple tree. If we are planting it in a jar, its growth will soon be very limited. Once the roots have filled the jar, maple tree can't grow anymore. The problem is not maple tree, but its environment.

The environment limits the growth of the tree. Perhaps we have greater things to accomplish than our environment can bear. When we pass through difficult times, it's not necessarily because we are in error. Sometimes this is how we've been guide or show the next step. Sometimes it's the little push we need to go forward.

Let's use this example to apply and understand the stages of healing. The feeling of rejection or disappointment is the first step. That's when we realize the pain or disappointment associated with the disconnection. If we do not accept this reality, if we avoid it, if we blame others, ourselves and the circumstances, we will have difficulty to face it.

When we begin to suffer, immediately we rise and we begin to look for people or events that could help us. We are the second stage. We try to identify quickly: "Who is that person who can help me." Help always comes from outside and new learning. Similarly, we reject the blame on external events or others.

Then comes the realization that this is not the others or the circumstances that created the problem. Everything becomes clear. We who are responsible for what happens to us. How come I always find myself in circumstances or with similar people? This frustration and the feeling of being caught and turned in circles. It's like being stuck in the snow. The wheels are turning, but the car does not advance.

At this stage, when we recognize that we put ourselves in these situations, we can regain our power to take action and change things from within.

Finally, the last step is to take action. This last step is undoubtedly the most difficult and one that will take longer to achieve. To be frank, this is also the most difficult step to achieve, but the positive impact on your life will be unprecedented.

If you live in a situation where you feel constantly rejected daring escape from this environment that does not match your dreams and your aspirations.

Listening

2010-01-27T16:37:00.000-08:00

When I ask you to listen and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen and you start to tell me why I should not feel that way, you trampled my feelings.

When I ask you to listen and you feel you must do something to solve my problem, you do not help me, as strange as it may seem.

Listen, is all I ask you to do.

I don't want you to tlak or to do something I ask you only to listen.

Advice is cheap, I have the same in a newspaper in section of heart and my horoscope.

I want to act by myself, I am not helpless, maybe a little discouraged and faltering but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can do by myself, you contribute to my fear, you accentuated my disability.

But when you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel (regardless of rationality) I can convince you to stop and I can try to begin to understand what lies behind these irrational feelings.

When it is clear, the answers are obvious, I do not need advice.

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what is behind.

Perhaps this is why prayer works sometimes for some people, because the divine is quiet.

He or she does not give advice
He or she does not try to fix things
They just listen and let you solve the problem yourself.

So please, listen and hear me.

And if you want to talk, wait just a minute and I'll listen.

How to support adolescents in their development of life without invading

2010-01-26T05:30:00.000-08:00

Despite the self-assurance they show-off, adolescents are often plagued with anxiety and doubt. So they desperately need from adults and especially their parents, to regularly experiment and see evidence of their confidence.

A brief look at the way parents should communicate with teenager

Confidence is the basis of any possibility of success. The more we are convinced that our children can succeed, the more he will believe in him and his chances of success in its projects will increase.

Wear a negative view of the adolescent as a person, even in jest or in the form of teasing is to risk to deeply mark and embedding him in a negative image of a loser who will have negative impact on his self-esteem. In doing so, it sticks on the young a label that may stick throughout his life. Even after becoming an adult, he will continue to be locked in the limiting beliefs that you have negatively influenced.

Also be sure to correctly manage your nonverbal communication. It is useless to recite a positive speech, if all in your attitude indicates otherwise. Thus, you must systematically highlight the developments of outcomes rather than focusing on one of them in particular. Developments, less abrupt, helps to anticipate slippage and step back on the reasons for the results, say less than acceptable.

It is imperative to systematically refuse to blame the error of a teenager. This is in contrast an opportunity to "undramatize" and to show it as a learning path. So far, as they will prove able to identify their mistakes, show courage and speak to lean on with confidence to try to understand, the youth will be able to use it and to learn something from it. Mistake, as everyone knows is a source of learning. Remember that you must try to learn.

How do you guide your teens without imposing your way of doing things?

And you young people (young adults), how do you guide your parents to let you do your own learning without always intervene?

How to create opportunities in life?

2010-01-21T05:13:00.000-08:00

It is well known that we must be open to seek opportunities that may come to us. But the emphasis is often placed on the fact that we can create our own opportunities. Here are some helpful tips.

To understand how opportunities work, it is first necessary to know that life is about choice: the life will always be the sum of the choices you made from birth to your death.

These choices can be considered as opportunities. Every day, you have the opportunity to improve your life or make it even worse. One of the most important things regarding opportunities is they are often disguised as a bad event.

For example, you are not hired by the company you want because of lack of experience. Consider this as an opportunity as a temporary work and you will at least make contacts and gain experience.

If you want to create opportunities in your life, you must open your social circle. Find an activity you like, there are many chances that a group of people share the same interest. If you have no interest in any specific topic, try something new and do not worry about the details: it is likely that your social circle enlarges as well.

Keep an open approach to things, if you are in situations that you consider to be unlucky, eliminate the bad things and see what you can draw well for the future.

Seizing the opportunity is an art that must be develop. Good opportunities leads through concrete and targeted actions. Do not wait until the opportunity presents by itself,, but you must go through the opportunity. Of course, this does not work every time, but the success rate is much higher!

How do you create opportunities in your life?

The power of a smile

2010-01-20T19:30:00.000-08:00

It is primarily from your appearance that people generally forges the opinion of others and not their words. For example, a sincere smile will spontaneous delight your interlocutor which will interpret as wanting to say "I am happy to see you, what a pleasure to meet you, your presence makes me happy."

A sincere smile always attracts sympathy
But beware! An artificial smile does not fool anyone, it often causes the opposite effect and irritation. Do not underestimate the power of your smile.

A rewarding exercise
Take the following: For one week, at all times, smile around you and you'll be surprised at the results or reactions that you will cause by adopting this new attitude. The smile as laughter produce a friendly complicity.

A method for smile
To raise on your lips a sincere smile you must first adopt a positive attitude, fed by your happiness. You may not feel like smiling? Your morale is down? You're not gay? The following method will allow you to remedy the situation.

If you are alone, hum, whistle or sing, act as if you were really happy. Your attitude will help make you happy. To find joy, adopt the behavior that provokes you when it is in you. Do this by remembering times when you were happy and joyful.

The lack of energy does not depend on external conditions or the other but only to your mental attitude.

Our satisfactions come not from what we have or what we do, but what we think. THE POWER OF YOUR MIND is infinitely more powerful than you think, do not neglect. Your thoughts, in fact, can either create in you a state of happiness. To your success it does only one thing: WANT.

Learn how to condition your mind so that they in turn influence positively your behavior and your mood. Repeat to yourself several times out loud, the evening before going to sleep, short sentences like "I am positive at all times, nothing can affect me, I'm always in good mood, I'm happy to be what I am ", etc. Be intense with yourself, imagine the circumstances that put you in good mood with each sentence.

NEVER use the conditional tense in your sentences, so do not say "I would be strong", but "I am strong", the conditional is the source of doubt.

Remember these 3 important principles:

A smile costs nothing but brings a lot
A smile enriches those who receive it without taking anything away from who gives it
A smile is a sign of friendship

"If you meet one day a person too tired to give you a smile, give him yours, because the one who has no more smile to offer is the one who need it the most"

Take action or wait

2010-01-19T05:22:00.000-08:00

Whatever what come up in life, we always have the opportunities to act or wait. We always choose to fight, to succeed in realizing our dreams, goals or to let others run our lives and our destiny.

Why is it so difficult to act for our own good?

Often it is through lack of energy, lack of mental energy, lack of belief and because the doubt to missed shot is larger than the certainty of success. It is a sad statement, but unfortunately the sad reality for too many people.

Life seems littered with misfortune, because we perceive challenges as misfortunes. Few of us have received an education that we do see misfortunes as normal situations, as personal growth steps, as essential events for learning to trust ourselves and not let others and events direct our life.

As life is absolutely not fair, it is quite useless to compare to anyone on this earth, and on the occasions that you get to live a happy and peacefull life. You have your life and you must appreciate the fact that you still have opportunities to change what you dislike about your life. This is not always easy, I grant you, but it's almost always possible to do better, to put energy in it and believe in yourself, even in the most desperate situations.

How to act in all circumstances?

Nothing easier, drop your ego and get help immediately. Look for people, organizations and information to help you sort out your situation.

You think this explanation is simplistic! I can guarantee you one thing, from the moment you decide to really solve your difficult situation, regardless of the situation and that you will employ competent people, your chances of finding solutions will be increased tenfold.

As you are no longer alone in your world, the burden of your situation will diminish considerably. Therefore, you'll be less stressed and you will find a great deal of energy. Never forget the pain and anxiety (stress) are the two things that reduce your energy.

The impact of waiting

It is not difficult to understand if you let things settle itself, there is little chance of seeing the problem solve by itself. The more you ignore a situation, the worse the consequences will be not to try to resolve them.

Most situations that you will face in your life are not extreme tragedies like those that people have to live facing events that destroy everything they have and kill their relatives.

If you decide to wait before you turn on to solve your difficult situations, you may put yourself in situations that have consequences for several years, consequences still more difficult to resolve and sometimes irreversible ones.

Be your own savior

Do not wait until someone discovers that you are in a difficult situation and be your own savior. Be the person who takes things in hand and put in place a team of specialists, a trusted team to resolve the situation.

You understand what I mean, approach the situation as a project, an adventure in which you have a triggering role that allows your team to help you find the most effective way to overcome your situation positively while having learned that life is less complicated with a team.

Believe in yourself, an attitude to built

2010-01-15T03:39:00.000-08:00

Who better than you can know how you feel? Who better than you can know what you like?

But you will always find people who will tell you what you need to do of your life or even claiming to help to guide you in your search for what is good for you. Remember that it is your responsibility to know you to affirm and believe in yourself.

How to believe in yourself and assert yourself?
If you've get used to do what people ask you without opposition, even if it annoys you, it may be difficult to reverse this trend, however, it is not impossible.

The first thing to do to believe in yourself is to find what motivates you to seek the approval of others. Indeed, often behind the urge to satisfy everyone hides to the need to be loved and the fear of disappointing, and to be rejected.

To successfully break away from these influences, you have to trust you. That is to say to learn to pay as much attention that you feel as those of others. You must find the rationale and meaning of your actions. That does not mean it should be close to others, but you need to know to distinguish between what you feel and what others feels around you.

Often, our environment has a tendency to project onto us their own fears and thus to limit ourselves. But to advance, you may make different choices than those who were done before. So this is your first step to know why you are seeking approval of others and recognize the value of your jugement.

Gradually, as you gain confidence in you, you will learn at your pace. Be aware that this step takes time, so it is important that you exercise patience and indulgence on yourself.

Believing in yourself must be learned, but you must be realistic, if you have learned for years to hide what you feel and take on you, it may also be some time to reverse this behavior. However, the essential thing is not the time you put that to achieve this objective, the key is to get what you want, and this could matter how long it will take.

Passion and its effects

2010-01-14T05:49:00.000-08:00

Let us take a look at passion other than the passion of love. Talking about the passion of being, a passion for life, the passion to do what inspires you the most.

We must recognize that every human being has in him a passion by which he may live. Passion is this breath of happiness, well being felt by ignoring any obligation to work for a living. You can do the work that you are passionate about and I would say that it is what we should all try to do.

Very often you make your survival at the expense of what drives you to meet the needs of your loved ones are act in the sense of duty. The sense of duty is too often the opposition of passion. The passion is to live what you are.

Passion does not refer to desires that you create or that you borrow by the influence of current society. The passion surpasses the dream. The passion comes from your gut, not your thoughts or your mind, much less any brainwash that you have suffered. Passion does not feed the emotions, it is the source of what you are. So you must give yourself the right to recognize your passion.

To recognize it, you will have to find it and you are absolutely right. The most surprising is that your passion has already manifested in your life and more than once. The events of your passion materialize at least: in childhood, adolescence and in the middle of your life.

Too often, your living environment has killed your passion. Too often you were told to stop dreaming. It is safer, more secure, to remain in the ranks of dissenters, the knowing environment. You have been brought to your responsibilities, like survival and ensure your presence at the expense of fulfilling your passion. You can make your passion while ensuring your survival and your responsibilities.

There are many people who make their living from their passion or who have guided their careers, their work around their passion. These people are usually happy, healthy and in harmony with themselves and with their environment. By cons, an even greater number of people repress their passion or operate outside of their work to the detriment of their environment by creating a delicate balance of life. Besides the fact that to achieve your passion outside of work takes time and inevitably the lack of time hit hard on your personal life and usually causes an emotional distance with people near you.

Why do you see so many career changes or shift work half-time of life?
Why so many separations in love or friendship or work at stage 40 and older? You will say that this is merely a question of positioning. Yes, true, but go to the bottom of the matter. Questioning on what? What you live, what has not spoken to you yet or a less favorable environment where it is difficult to carry you. Do we speak here not just your passion, your enthusiasm to be back in that area?

You always have the choice and you'll always be alone in deciding to recognize your passion and express it. Finding your passion is to return as an individual. It's not for nothing that very often the final manifestation of your passion occurs between 40 and 50 years. You can choose to respond, but know that deny or refuse to give life cause effects on your wellbeing, your health and quality of life with your family. Why so many "burn-out, depression, mental fatigue in individuals aged 40 and over? Dare to consider the answer will look upon you, which is in you, your passion.

Living his passion does not necessarily mean to question back your relationships with people and your workplace. Recognizing his passion will only require you to restore your frames of reference, to give you the means to express it. Recognize, identify and express his passion will require a commitment to yourself and walk into the unknown for some time.

You have your own passion. Go back to your childhood, your adolescence and remind yourself what your passion was, what inspires you, what made you lose track of time, which allowed you to feel that you exist beyond the shape.

Do you know what your passion is? If yes, how you managed to make it your livelihood?

Logotherapy - An interesting approach

2010-01-13T04:49:00.000-08:00

Source: Carole Thibaudeau. From the newspaper Le Soleil, Special Section No. 8, Le plaisir de vivre, October 98.

Viktor Frankl developed an approach to psychotherapy that he called the "logotherapy." (Logos in Greek means meaning.) In this approach, responsibility is regarded as the essence of human existence.

In logotherapy, the therapist tries to assert his patient what their responsibilities are. He has to choose what he wants to be responsible, to what or to whom. Therefore, the therapist speech is less likely that the traditional therapist to impose his values to his patients because he does not take responsibility for them.

A good way to set the mood "logotherapy" is to live as if this was the second time they were preparing to make the same mistakes. "Imagine that this is the past, and you have the power to change the past," Frankl offers. We are thus confronted with the limited nature of life and the finality of what made life and ourselves.

According to logotherapy, we can discover the meaning of his life in three ways.

First: through a work or a good deed.

Secondly, by experiencing something or someone. This may be the experience of goodness, truth, beauty, such as contact with nature or with a certain culture or what is even better to know the uniqueness of a human being through love.

The third way to find meaning in life lies in the attitude to take to unavoidable suffering. Placed in a desperate situation, it remains to the human freedom to choose what attitude to take to die with dignity, bear their suffering. "When you can not change a situation, an incurable cancer, for example, you have no choice but to transform.

"Suffering is not necessary to find meaning in his life. But we can find meaning even through suffering, if it is unavoidable. If it is not, however, you should eliminate the cause, whether psychological, biological or political. Agree to suffer unnecessarily is masochistic rather than heroism. But to accept suffering with courage to keep his life its meaning until the last moment it's your decision.

Calendar
"I am never tire of repeating that the only transitory aspects of life are those who are potential state, Viktor Frankl wrote. Updated, they become reality and they are preserved in the past where they are preserved forever. "

Frankl tells the metaphor of the calendar.
The pessimist is the person who sees with sadness his schedule shrink day by day. For cons, the person who brings enthusiasm to life's problems looks like the man who carefully preserves the pages of his calendar after scribbled a few notes on the back. He can look with pride and joy on all the wealth contained in these pages.

What does he grow old? Why regret his youth? He is fully aware of its rich past, which includes not only the reality of work and his loves, but also his sufferings bravely faced. It's still of his suffering that he is the most proud of, even if they can not inspire envy.

What is - Letting go?

2010-01-12T06:29:00.000-08:00

We've all heard the expression "letting go" and often this approach is presented as "THE" solution to our woes as a specific situation. But what exactly is the process of letting go?

This process of letting go can not be an action from outside, because it is an internal process. It's up to us to pre-disposed ourself to letting go and this position is not primarily mental and even less the result of a time of internal analysis.

In fact, letting go is not a drop to an event, circumstance or person, otherwise it would be an outside process. It is not a surrender to internal pain and fear. This suffering is a trigger of internal discomfort following an internal perception of a situation that, during or following a misalignment of ourself. You may feel that they are events or outsiders who create this kind of inner pain, but this is not the case.

It is too easy to play the victim in dismissing the case on the outside world. This reaction to the appearance of an inner pain will only worsen the situation at some point. Life always brings us back to situations which we have not settled and that, as long as we do not exercise to letting go process to the buried pain.

It is easy to say and to act mentally to a form of letting go while trying to forget the event or minimize the consequences not always external to us, but within ourself. The process of letting go is based on an internal process, so on our experienced and felling. This process is not natural, because we have been educated to let time do its work, putting away unwanted people without ever knowing what is undesirable in us.

We fight, therefore more with our internal resistance. Our resistance to abandon what has been taught as true, as your thoughts. Letting go works well on our resistance to abandon what we know is that the events and people outside us.

It's hard to apply this process on our resistance and our suffering. Those suffering are so great, sometimes, it will create an impact on our bodies or our mental health. Our refusal not to see the outside, but most to look at us. This behavior will maintain our unpleasant and even unbearable feeling.

It's almost when we reached the end of our resources, both physical and mental demands that we begin to look at internal options. This can be achieved only when we are willing to accept this suffering as ours. At this moment we dare look at what this suffering will reveal. This acceptance can only come from ourselves and only then we can begin the process of letting go.

Letting go is exactly and above all a process beginning with the acceptance of a undesirable and uncomfortable situations. Acceptance, there will thereafter awareness of our resistance. What we resist so much and that makes us so badly.

In opening onto ourself by agreeing to observe and watch what we resist so that we can act on the evil and turn it into a well-being. This evil, this suffering is in our lives to talk to us, to recognize a misalignment of ourself, then everything follows from the action of granting a space and a time to look and listen without saying.

We can live a full and true self-realization without going through the process of letting go of old conditioned resistance that we have never been ours.

How do you letting go of situations that are poisoning your life?

How to develop a sense of urgency

2010-01-11T03:07:00.000-08:00

There are life situations that require quick responses and results to avoid living through difficult times with negative consequences. Generally, it is not difficult to have a sense of urgency to act, or rather to react and try to avoid the worst. Despite the fact that these situations do not occur, at least, should not occur too often in life, you must still take action and be quick to resolve these unpleasant situations of your life.

How do you act when you are not ine crises mode? Are you among those who have the habit of putting off what you could undertake right away? If so, you're among the majority of people on this planet.

It should be understood that I mean mainly of projetcs life, projects that are buried deep within your heart. I do not speak daily tasks, still I imagine that if you make procrastination in your normal life, it is not difficult to understand why you do the same thing with larger projects .

Far from me the idea to criticize anyone for such behavior. The reasons are too numerous, to rationally to explain this behavior and in many cases there are good reasons to do so.

The idea here is to discover how to succeed in creating a sense of urgency to get you out of torpor, fear, inertia blocking the realization of your projects. There is no recipe, there are only triggers feelings, emotions motivating to help you start the engine of concrete action.

What I consider the most important thing in this approach is to accept the fact that the success of your projects will be the result of several factors, many of these factors are not under your control. This simply means that luck is definitely part of the equation for success, but when you go into action and you persevere, the odds of being lucky increased considerably.

Why dare to try if my chances of success are minimal?
First and foremost because you still have a chance to succeed and also because what you discover along the way will be invaluable for the rest of your life. If you are looking a bit in your memory, you will find that most things you learned were when you were doing projects, activities in which you had to engage seriously.

I am convinced that in many cases, you had always a sense of urgency in one form or another and that even if you did not achieved the desired goal, you have accumulated knowledge and expertise that have been useful and practical for the rest of your life.

The main reason why you dare, is that by making plans you learn, you evolve and you truly enjoys life.

Create a sense of urgency is driving the action, if you do not set a goal with dates, it is unlikely that you will create that sense of urgency essential to motivate you to act and put the energy behind it, you would at least give you a chance to achieved some parts of your project.

Once you start the engine by creating your sense of urgency, you must stick emotion to your project so that the engine continued to run, let you advance and keep you alive, that is to say keep on action.

Tell me how you manage to create that sense of urgency for your projects?

Allow yourself to grow

2010-01-08T05:32:00.000-08:00

Human beeing can not stagnate, to stand still or to be content with he had. It needs some internal development, growth, evolution and it's by accepting this fact of life that you will walk to the financial success and well-being.

Anything that does not grow eventually die
Stagnation, routine or complacency are a disguised regression. This state of stagnation does not exist in nature, any more than humans. Everything is moving, everything is increasing or decreasing, it can not remain the same.

Often, people seek a life that any difficulties would be absent and where they would be "quiet" until the end of their life, but this state does not exist. When a plant stops growing, it begins to slowly die.

When you stop to evolve in your work and in your business, things begin to deteriorate. It's almost imperceptible at first, but as surely as when the body has finished growing, it begins to age.

When your relationship do not grow anymore, where every day your loving level does not grow, the routine is being established, the habit is created, the loss of desire or surprises begins and the relationship will stop progress to finally start decreasing.

Anything that will not progress will go backward. It can not be otherwise, is a law of nature, a law of life
To counter this, you must keep in you the desire to move forward, to always want more, be inquisitive and to expect the best. Always expect the best, have all your senses wake up.

Always be ready
Always be ready to embrace change, new ideas. Be ready to receive the gift of life, always be ready to host events of whatever kind and prepare yourself in your inner feeling to be like you want it to feel tomorrow.

Happiness is in the journey
As always, wanting more does not mean being satisfied with anything. Some people tend to say they will happy or satisfied when a particular event or result will be reached and they stayed frustrated or unhappy in the meantime.

Of course, when this happens they waited, they rush to redefine another thing to be achieved, giving them an opportunity to talk again and again that inner evil is still there.

You may want more while being happy with what you've done. It is not necessary to be dissatisfied to want more, you can also enjoy each moment that you live by living fully and with the desire to live other again and again.

Are you one of those that grow day after day? If yes, tell us how you succeed.

The benefits of positive attitude to achieve your goals

2010-01-07T05:35:00.000-08:00

A simple observation reveals that those who are negative and depressive lose much energy, they hang out as if they were wandering in the fog. However people with a positive attitude seem to have positive energy and endless enthusiasm to achieve their goals.

Having a positive attitude, will increase rapidly your creativity. The ideas and relationships will magically appear to help you achieve your goals.

A positive attitude allows your personality to better thrive. Even with the best qualifications and a vast general knowledge, if your attitude is negative, you lose all your assets. A positive attitude is the strongest element of your personality to achieve your goals.

In your workplace, as in your personal life, a positive attitude will make the difference to achieve your goals. Having a positive attitude, will help you establish and maintain healthy relationships with your superiors and your friends which is the key to achieve your goals.

You will quickly expand your network of relationships. When you're positive you send friendly signals. If you're happy and optimistic, your attitude is a magnet. Not only you will attract others, but they will be more friendly with you because they feel that you really enjoy.

As far as skills, the success of your life depends on the quality of your professional and personal relationships to achieve your goals. A positive attitude brings a double benefit, it helps you improve your relationships that lead you to make new friends.

To reinforce your positive attitude, have a sense of humor. The positive attitude and humor work in symbiosis. The more you learn to develop your sense of humor the more will become positive. Because you become more positive, you'll have more ideas to reach your goals. The humor in all forms will help to resist the negative forces. You can improve your sense of humor, learn to tell jokes is a great way to dispel negative perceptions.

Laughter is a therapy. Laughter relaxes the nerves, improves digestion and helps blood circulation. Laughter allows you to recharge your batteries and have more energy to achieve your goals.

Listen to your favorite music, take a stroll in the countryside, go see a play will help you relax and see the bright side of life to achieve your goals.

Be physically active is a great way to release stress and regain a positive attitude to achieve your goals.

Make a daily reading on personal development to give you ideas and recharge positively yourselves on the situations where you worried and stress for.

What do you do to empower you to maintain your positive attitude at all times?

How happpiness happens ?

2010-01-06T05:35:00.000-08:00

But how does an adult achieve a high level of contentment while living a frenetic and distraction-packed life?
There is an incredibly high correlation between people's happiness and meaning at work and at home. In other words, those who experience happiness and meaning at work tend also to experience them outside of work. Those who are miserable on the job are usually miserable at home.

The implication is unmistakable. Since work and home are very different environments, our experience of happiness and meaning in life appears to have more to do with who we are than where we are. Rather than blaming our jobs, our managers and our customers or our friends, family members, and communities for our negative worklife experience, we might be better served by looking in the mirror.

One commonly expressed excuse for not getting more happiness and meaning out of life is: "I'm working too many hours." But our results show that the number of hours worked had no significant correlation with happiness or meaning experienced at work or at home. So much for that excuse.

The correlations between happiness, meaning, and overall satisfaction at work and home were very similar. Those who were more satisfied with life outside of work are the one spending more time on activities that produced both happiness and meaning.

These links between how we spend our time and how we feel may seem confusing, but specific patterns arose some commonsensical, some not. Here are a few quick takeaways:

Reduce TV watching. It's stimulating but doesn't increase overall satisfaction with life at work or home.
Cut back on surfing the Web for non-professional reasons. It's negatively correlated with the experience of both happiness and meaning.
Do as few chores as you can (whatever that word means to you).
Spend time exercising and with people you love (people doing this had more satisfaction with life at work and at home).
Feeling challenged is linked to greater satisfaction, so challenge yourself.

How do you manage your life to reach satisfaction in both areas of your life?

How to use creativity to get rid of your limitation thought

2010-01-05T04:06:00.000-08:00

Take a moment to consider the creativity, not as something outside yourself, but as something that you already have in you forever.

Imagine the creativity as an energy that is trapped in a corner of your mind and imagine that you have to open a number of doors to reach this energy and let it out freely in your life.

Open the doors to let out the creativity in you
Of course, this is a metaphor, but merely to imagine is not the first step towards developing your creativity?
By becoming aware of your limiting patterns, you make it lose all power over you.

Go beyond your possible limits
The only limits to your ability to invent, your ability to create is what you believe you can do.

If something seems impossible today, you can not achieve unless you change your state of mind.

If you think you could not find the solution to a problem, you will not find it.
You could not reach what you believe impossible.

Do you think you will be able to have an idea that you will make you richer?
If the answer is no, how do you think you will succeed?

By setting limits to what you believe possible, you set boundaries that stop you to succeed.

When you do not believe in your ability to get something specific, you condition yourself to fail, you set your limits and you do not try to go beyond.

Go past the doubts
People believe that by obtaining new results you may overcome your doubts. But things did not go that way.

If you are planning to succeed, you must overcome your doubts, you should forget and pretend that what you want is possible.

Act as if it were possible
When you doubt, you create a blockage in you, you close your opportunities, you send instructions to your subconscious telling it to stop you from succeeding in doing this or that.

You only see what you think
One of the characteristics of your brain is to sort through your perceptions and make you perceive what goes in the direction of what you think.

If you believe that people are selfish, you only see people selfish if you think it is impossible to succeed in life, you will act to get going in this direction.

Life is so precious

2010-01-04T05:38:00.000-08:00

In this new year, it is good to take a short break and think about what is really important for you. This life is so short, so precious that you must learn to use each of these moments and try to enjoy it with pleasure and satisfaction.

Not easy to apply a philosophy of life as "zen" as this one, in such a social environment we're living in. Whatever country you are, life is demanding and you must learn to take responsibility no matter what.

Therefore you must learn to truly think constructively, you must learn to focus your positive feelings that your behavior is instinctively oriented toward objectives that provide solutions and concrete actions.

The precious moments that life give us should not be used to denigrate others and break sugar on the backs of others without ever participate in solving the problem. The practical interventions you do in our lives, have a direct impact on your sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that you have of yourselves.

You must choose what you do with your time, take the time to live your life to appreciate this short life which is so precious and so special. Sometimes choices are difficult, if not limited, but most cases you still have choices that can bring you much joy and satisfaction. Just take the time to do things and to do it for good reasons.
The year ahead will undoubtedly be high in change and surprise in all areas of life in our society. Countless events arise during the year and some of these events will have a direct impact on your lives. The world of today is very inter-connected from one end to another of the planet. You can not remain insensitive to other nations. This is why life requires calm, demeanor and positive thinking to make more informed decisions that will allow you to better enjoy life while acting in accordance with respect for others and our planet .

What is your approach to enjoy the best of this beautiful life?

Take a time out

2009-12-24T04:56:00.000-08:00

Here we are at another time of the year to allows us a momentary slowdown in our franctic race of life.

Have you ever taken a time out? Whether health reasons, lack of work, a sabbatical year or just for vacation? You know, when your life calms down and you stop to run.

We feel disoriented, because we used to live life at full speed: "metro, boulot, dodo". And suddenly, we finally have time to think. What to do with all this this time?

More and more people are tired, stressed and have health problems. Why? Perhaps because they does not give themselves the right to say no. We always do more! We forget ourselves. We think less of ourselves. It is a wheel running and we can no longer find our own balance.

Why not taking the time to challenge our lifestyle, our values and most importantly, our own needs? Take the time to ask the following questions: What do I need to have a happy life? What means do I take to reach
my goals? In what direction am I called to forward?

It is essential to appreciate all that you do, take time for yourself to determine what you aspire and above all, listen to your inner voice. It is often the way to find answers to your questions. Let the answers coming in naturally, It might surprise you.

It is a privilege to take a pause to take a look to his life. I wish this break to you, so you can put your life on the road you have chosen. Appreciate every moment of your life (one at a time) and you will see at the end of your day, you will be less tired and you will be much happier. You have finally taken advantage of your time.

Enjoy this time of year to look around you and find what is really important, what makes you pleasure and with whom you enjoy doing activities, implement projects and have a good time. Be generous with yourself, dare to allow true rest time.

Do you pause in your life? If yes, Share with us what you do.

Do you feel your life is in a dead end ?

2009-12-23T06:04:00.000-08:00

Exactly as several people feel some times. Usually it's when all areas of life seem to tumble in the wrong direction
(business, love, family and financial).

How to cope?
In such a moment, it seems that everything we do leads to disaster, and yet we often feel and belief that everything is in place to succeed. How is this possible?

Why, or rather what to do?
We must continue to fight and keep a positive attitude and continue with confidence to do everything as possible, regardless of the situation and the feeling of failure that you could have. Often things start to fall into place at the time you do not expect it anymore.

Life is very short and filled with most unexpected situations, don't let those events and negative people control those precious moments. Whenever possible, avoid everything that is negative, as the discussions, people,
images, music and environments that do not allow to be in a state of contemplation and pleasure.

Approach difficult situations one by one, calmly and consider each situation as a unique challenge. Especially do not put all situations together, otherwise there is a good chance that you will not be able to see light at the end of tunnel. Take action on situations independently one of the other, is much more efficient and less stressful.

Freedom of mind and action is what is most coveted in the world. Being free to succeed on all aspects of his life is truly an exciting challenge, although very difficult to achieve. Whatever the outcome, game worth it, the quest for freedom is a good challenge to learn every day and especially to understand that freedom can never be taken for granted in this world.

How do you approach the difficult times in the where you feel you are in a dead end?

How-tos for coping with the stress of obnoxious people deal with it

2009-12-22T07:03:00.000-08:00

Not all stress is bad and there are ways to deal with thoses obnoxious clients and co-workers.

Stress is healthy response that requires an emotional, physical or mental response. It can be a motivator and doesn’t have to be just a “negative”. But there are unhealthy ways of reacting to stress which include ignoring it, blaming others or becoming aggressive, unhappy or angry.

Stress on the job can be created by situations ranging from organizational change and ever-changer goals, to job insecurity and the constant mantra of “doing more with less”. To counteract this, attempt to articulate or obtain clarity about roles, responsibilities, authority and deadlines.

Like our spouse, bosses and co-workers all have different personalities and take the influences of home to the job. So understand where they are coming from is important. A little empathy with co-worker who has been up all night with a sick child goes a long way to understanding their mood and ability to do the job that day. “They have life outside their jobs”.

Also, understanding the style of person’s management approach gives you insight into what is expected and which colleagues “play games” and how to avoid getting drawn in.

Here is a list of practical solutions to deal with stress:

Establish goals that are specific, measurable and achievable;
Write these down and identify short and long-term goals;
Divide the individual goals into “chuncks” so that they can be worked on bits at a time;
Set priorities;
Practice the 4 Ds: dump, do, delegate and delay;
Focus on time and nutrition so that you are at your physical and mental best to deal with stress;
Use a buddy system to keep motivated;
Employ strategic relaxation techniques like “me time” for reading, meditating, a walk, etc.

Use physical techniques like squeezing and releasing your hand when a customer, co-worker or boss is stressing you out, rather than retaliating. Another technique is to hold your breath and press both sides of your neck, which actually lowers your heart rate. Consciously change your negative thoughts into positive ones to build self esteem, focusing on achievements and increasing your productivity.

If someone is arguing, don’t match their volume level. Speaking calmly will alter their behavior as they tone down to match yours. Turn an argument into a conversation. Strive for realism not perfection.

Say “no” when you know you can’t add one more thing to your plate rather than offering “I’ll try” and not delivering. Acknowledge you will make mistakes. Judge your “own” behavior. Communicate clearly. Ask for help and take it.

Dealing with difficult behaviors requires understanding that “your office is a microcosm of the world” where there will be confrontation, arguments, needy-emotional people, bullying and those using passive/aggressive styles to get their own way.

So when you need to interact, be prepared to admit when you’re wrong; smile before starting the conversation; and check your stance and distance to the person so that your body language is not sending out wrong message.

Restate that the issue of discussion is to make sure both of you are on the same page and acknowledge the feelings and emotions of others. Beware of your reactions to others because you can control those 100% of the time.

How do you cope with those situations?

Play outside this winter

2009-12-21T04:08:00.000-08:00

In the promise to build a fort or a battle of snowballs, children do not hesitate to brave the cold and deep snow. What do you expect? Come out and be active with them! You'll be warmer outside being active and walking a bit. Neither you nor your children do not need to sweat to make physical activity. "Walking is good for the hearts of all ages and is an excellent habit to adopt as a child, walking activates the heart and muscles of children. "

Start to see winter as a winter wonderland, like when you were a child. Instead of taking children from their friends, school or park, walk with them. Resolve to use your car only when absolutely necessary. In addition, you will help reduce air pollution, another boon for the heart. When children and parents choose to walk instead of using the car, they engage in physical activity whose heart needs. These steps also teach us how easy it is to reduce air pollution that harms the health of the heart and is often caused by the use of the car when we could walk. "

Here are eight fun ways for you and your child to spend time walking this winter:

Join a guided bird winter. You will see many interesting birds such as chickadees, cardinals and snowy owls. What a great opportunity to learn about the nature and practice an activity outside;
Encourage greater to offer their services to dog walkers to your friends and neighbors. They could earn pocket money while practicing a refreshing activity;
Instead of going by car, then walk to the park to slide or skate with your child;
Organize a treasure hunt in a local park or even in your yard. Try to find and identify animal tracks and various species of trees;
Accompany children to school by walk. Ten minutes walk in the morning you will start the day off right. If you live far from school, park the car a mile or two and walk the rest of the way;
Create an obstacle course in your backyard. Build barriers to climb over with snowballs and mark the ground with a spray bottle filled with colored water to create a fun trail run and make your children;
Make a contest for the biggest snowball. Start by forming a ball in your hand, then pushing on the ground until it is too heavy to be moved;
Draw your own tracks in the snow. It's always fun to watch the tracks in the snow. At the local library, you could find a book on animal tracks. Then let your kids recreate these tracks using spoons, cups and other household items on your lawn snow.

Warm yourself by being active
It is especially important for children to stay warm and being dry while playing outside in winter. Dress your children in skins so they can remove them if they were too hot. Gloves or mittens are essential impervious to play outside in the winter. If your children have only knit mittens, make sure they have a spare pair if they get wet before children have finished playing.

Remember not to play outside for too long when the wind chill down to -28 ° C or lower. According to Environment Canada, the skin can suffer frostbite after 10 to 30 minutes of exposure to these temperatures. Strong winds affect the body's ability to retain warmth, even if only -10 ° C outside, your body reacts as if it were twice as cold. These conditions increase the risk of frostbite. But as long as the children keep their nose, ears and fingers covered, physical activity outside help them stay warm and happy.

Walking, great habit of life
The simple activities such as daily walking is a great way to teach your children the importance of physical activity. When you engage in physical activity instead of just talking about it, you give a good example by incorporating physical activity into your daily routine and this for a lifetime. "If good habits are learned early, it is hoped that children who become adults walk that walk. "

Beware of the winter blues
In winter, in our latitudes, is not an easy season for anyone. The weather is dreary, days spin like the wind, it's cold and exits to the outside gradually decrease and eventually cease altogether (at least here in Quebec).

There are several reasons for this change of conduct on the part of humans. Like many animal species, humans are susceptible to seasonal variations in the intensity of light. Many people experience sudden mood changes, concentration problems or have difficulty getting up in the morning. When these changes occur in autumn or winter, the syndrome is called the "winter blues".

We know of course that this may be a little cold outside in winter, but the best (and only) way to overcome this cold is to face going out to play! In the land of sun, winter is certainly no time to hibernate, rather, it's time you wrap up and enjoy the wilderness differently. These are not activities that are lacking elsewhere.

The benefits to the children to play outside
Let them go play outside, without specific purpose and to what they want without being forced to anything, this seems to fail our children. One of the direct consequences of this outdoor activity is not overweight observed in children is increasingly common. When we play outside, you're not watching television, playing console games or computer.

Playing outside is good for muscles, for sure, but it is also expending energy and reduce the tendency to obesity that affects more and more children who are too sedentary. On a psychological level, a child playing outside with other children without being dictated rules of the game will develop many skills extremely important: he learns to imagine a game to explain to his peers or the understanding, increase their social skills, to deal with other personalities, other desires, to organize, to enjoy relationships, to create links. Playing this way seems to reduce anxiety, insomnia and aggressiveness.

What are you doing this winter to enjoy the gift of heaven?
Tell us what you do for fun and enjoy the white carpet and joys of lakes and icy rivers that surround us?

The reading and its magic

2009-12-18T06:38:00.000-08:00

The beauty with this is that reading involves instantly imagination and concentration. Moreover, the intellectual effort required for reading have a tremendous boon to health. Obviously when I say reading, I mean reading things that bring you joy, motivation, fun and useful knowledge, I am not talking about negative and destructive reading .

Why?
That is to said, when you begin to read, your thoughts is focused on what you read, so generally most people stop thinking about their problems because they occupied their mind to read, understand and assimilate information. This ensures that the reader reduces the stress level throughout the reading. Moreover, it often happens that some readings give you ideas to solve problems, to make your life easier and to help you in your projects. When this type of positive feeling invaded you, the result is super positive for your health.

The best way to grow their vocabulary and improve how to express themselves
Of course, you can not ignore the fact that reading allows the reader to increase your vocabulary quickly and easily. This is very important for most people. The fact is reading involved seeing the words, as result to store the image of the word into your brain . When you see a word often enough, you eventually absorb it well and added to your mental dictionary.

Obviously, when adding words to your mental vocabulary, it enriches the way to speak and to be understood. However, improvement in the way of speaking is also the fact that the reading is liable to the fact that sentence structures are different from yours. You will absorb it slowly with examples that influence how you will write, describe and explain your ideas.

Reading to Children - A priceless gift
For parents who have children who are not old enough to read, there is no greater gift than to read to their little ones. When you are reading to your children, you should know that for them it is not trivial. You bring them in an imaginary world they can only be built by the power of words that you send them. You made them dream at the same time as you teach them to use words and how to express emotions clearly.

Do not underestimate the power of reading to your kids, the benefits in the longer term are incredibly positive for all aspects of their lives.

Caution and little useful advice
It is not necessary to put too much time on reading to get maximize the benefits. Read 15 minutes a day and you will see the positive effect in your life. If you try to do too much, its like anything, you cease to do so because it will be too demanding and it becomes a chore instead of a beneficial pleasure .

For people who find it difficult to take time to read, you can cut the 15 minutes into 3 blocks if you want. The most important thing is to be consistent and to read things that give you pleasure and that catches your attention.

Tell me if reading is a pleasure, a chore or an obligation? What have been the benefit for you to get the habit to read ?

To devote time in his life

2009-12-17T04:26:00.000-08:00

Allowing time for yourself, the beautiful promise! Between your family, work, social life, your love and your many concerns, how much spare time do you have to yourself to do something that pleases you and makes you good, but without feeling guilty? How to say "no" to others and to say "yes" to ourself?

In today's society it is not difficult to be invaded by the countless distractions and the many obligations of all kinds. This life is so hectic that in many cases we forget to think about ourself. It is too easily buried in the countless activities without even realizing it.

Yet we all know it is very important to think about ourselves, not to get caught up in the game of being too busy.How is it possible not to pay more attention to yourself? Yet we all know that we are the most important person in our lives.

The challenge is to strike a balance between time spent on our too many commitments and our personal needs. Quite a challenge, I admit it! There is no blueprint that would suit all. The way to achieve this balance is unique to each person, because every life context is different.

To give time for yourself and say no to external demands is a process filled with many pitfalls. We have great difficulty in agreeing the right to place ourselves at the center of our priorities.

For example, for mothers of young children is a particularly demanding challenge! The fact remains that it is your responsibility to identify your needs and fill them without waiting for permission and approval of your surroundings.

Easy to say and difficult to do because of guilt. Your children will not fare worse if two evenings a week, dad is taking care of bathroom and sunsets while the mother goes to her aerobics classes. In fact, they will be better, even if they are reluctant at first. Give them an example of a mother and a wife who takes care of her. Remember that often the most pressure comes from yourself and not others.

To ease your busy schedule, it is likely that you need to remove something. To get there more easily, looking to pursue an activity you like. The activities they really love more easily become a priority as they consider a chore.

To do this, do not hesitate to try different activities until you find one you lit. Also, it is good to go slowly for you tame and you gradually escape from the guilt you into realizing that the consequences for others are less difficult than you apprehend.

How will you really spend time in your life? What are the things that interest you and are really very beneficial for you?

Dare to get excited

2009-12-16T07:29:00.000-08:00

In life you must dare to play, you must dare to get excited for the things you love, your passion and your hobby. You must get excited over an idea, project or an upcoming event. You must indulge your enthusiasm for what you enjoy, what projected you to a positive feeling and a feeling of joy.

You have an idea for a project you want to realize, a dream, do not hesitate to put all your enthusiasm and daring to optimistically anticipate the success and growth . Don't let down this feeling of excitement that overwhelmed you when you make your projections, do stop to pretend that you are "realistic", while this is not the case at all.

For a project to reach its full potential requires that the person who carries out is truly excited about this project. To accept that you pass through the challenges to succeed, it is necessary that your project is almost an obsession, an obsession that helps you excel and give you the energy to finish the project.

Do not let your environment dictate your life, your dreams and your ways. People who are able to understand what you are experiencing as a desire to succeed in your project, are those in the same boat as you or who have gone through the same challenges to realize their projects. They get excited daring, fantasize about the results and benefits of success.

Do not try to change the mind of those who have a negative view of your idea, whatever you do, they will always be negative, even if you succeed. Continue to be excited about your idea and you will have the support of those as you dare get excited over an idea and put the effort to try to achieve.

The benefits for mental and physical health are unexplainable, but practical. When we are happy and excited that our thoughts are directed towards interesting, positive and useful actions, we soon forget his little injuries and small mishaps, because we are fully invested in an activity that really interests us.

Do you get excited for your ideas for your projects? Tell us how you dare to dream in color and express your state of happiness.

The benefits of music

2009-12-15T08:48:00.000-08:00

Music is not just there to be heard, it is much more than that. Music can move us, make us think of anecdotes and more. It would even virtues health. Studies have indeed shown that music acts instantly on our physical and mental well-being.

The Mozart effect, this study began in 1992 in the United States in the Central Laboratory of Neurophysiology of Learning and Memory at the University of Wisconsin. It showed that after ten minutes of listening to a piano sonata by Mozart, our potential for reasoning and concentration increases of 50% for a few moments. Since this experience, studies have succeeded.

Thanks to these studies, we discovered that the goods made from music are varied. For example, the music produces more endorphins, which are the "molecules of happiness." But this is not all, it regulates heartbeat and blood, stabilizes the physical endurance and increases it and it also restores language functions for a brain damaged. No need to take tranquilizers, listen to music.

Music affects our mood. Some sounds, tones and rhythms, especially the music of Mozart, Gregorian chant music and some jazz, some Latin pieces, folk and even rock, could in fact increase our intelligence, our creativity and miraculously heal our bodies. This remarkable phenomenon is called "Mozart effect".

Another benefit of music: it improves memory!
It can provide result not only by listening, but by practice it. This is the conclusion of several Chinese researchers. After following students who took piano lessons, they showed that these students had higher scores on cognitive tests. Their memory was more efficient, they learned words more easily and more restrained.

Furthermore, participation in musical activity improves self-discipline, dexterity, coordination, self-esteem, listening skills and creativity as well as personal expression in general.

Even doctors are discovering the benefits of music
The new trend in operating rooms, is to listen to music during operations, this practice has become quite popular in the United States and the United Kingdom. Some doctors believe that it relieves tension and studies have shown that this practice may also benefit to patients.

The anesthesiologist, Dr. Frank Gentile in the United States believes that music helps to make better surgeons. They work faster because they are in a better mood. The atmosphere in the operating room can work calmly and allows the team to feel better during operations.

The music helps patients relax
Research has even shown that patients who listened to music before and during surgery showed that they diminish their stress. Blood pressure normally increases during surgery, but listening to music helps to reduce the blood pressure.

The researchers found that the best results are obtained when the patient listen to music of their choice rather than music considered soothing. Thus, it seems that listening to relaxing music does not apply only to doctors, but also to patients.

What is music therapy?
Music therapy is a component of art therapy.

It is a judicious use of music as a basic therapeutic tool to restore, maintain or improve mental health, physical and emotional of a person.

It follows from the interaction between patient and music therapist. Speaking of music therapy is about communication.

The music therapist who works in the field of nonverbal, seeks to achieve the emotional sphere of the person, to open channels of communications, using sound stimuli, an emotional pleasant state, comforting or disturbing, enabling openness to self and others, can help fight against some pain, some discomfort.

Nowadays, music therapy is the subject of extensive scientific work that allowed to take place in many Centers Hospital as supplementary or therapeutic in itself.

In conclusion
No matter under what circumstances, the music has beneficial effects that really look deep within our emotions. Whether the effect is conscious or unconscious, the result is the same, the music gives us a unique wellness and healing.

Public Speaking - The biggest fear of people

2009-12-13T21:16:00.000-08:00

Make an oral presentation to the school, speaking in public when receiving an award, presenting a guest at a party, playing in a play, whatever, for most people to face an audience is the most intimidating experiment to live.

Why is it so difficult to expose himself to a group as a speaker? Probably the first thing that comes to mind is the fact that everyone is going to judge what you seem, to judge you on your dress, your hair, on how you stand, gesticulating, the way you speak and finally, everything that may pass through your head and why you do not like being judged.

Rest assured, people act the way you do when you hear someone make a presentation to a group. Do you judge other speakers on one or more of the elements I just mentioned? Probably yes!

I did not helped you, I confirm what you feared most. However, if the person who was at the forefront managed to get its message across the audience and yourself, I'm sure you've remenber the message and you forgot all these little judgments you had on that person during his presentation.

When a person present the content in an interesting way, most people remember the message, not the faults of the speaker. So, the more important when you face an audience is to make sure your message is interesting and you put the emphasis on the critical thing and you will have the attention of your audience.

But how to successfully not forget all the content of your performance before the presentation? You practice relentlessly, when comes the day of the presentation you have forgotten everything and you do not know how to control your nervousness. As you know, this feeling of fear is well-known from the community of artists. How do they succeed in controlling this stress to avoid any mention during the show?

There is no magic formula, but there is one thing in common with all those super nervous people before appearing in public, to perform well. Firstly, they are well prepared and know their texts by heart, then they are convinced that people in the audience will appreciate what they see and hear.

They never doubt the intelligence and good judgement from the audience and this allows people who make presentations to an audience to feel confident to present the content with enthusiasm and conviction.

You must be confident that your audience is on your side and he is concerned about what you have to say, otherwise you will have a hard time to feel good and perform well in front of an audience.

If you have other tricks to control that fear of public speaking, be generous and help us in this unique life experience by sharing your methods.

Do not let others decide for you

2009-12-11T07:08:00.000-08:00

Many people are struggling to live their lives according to their beliefs and their desires. Too often people organize their lives avoiding to not displease their families, their friends and in some cases their children.

If your life is organized around these obligations, you must surely feel a huge weight on your shoulders and above all you probably find that life is very demanding. Understand the influence of others can affect all areas of your life. If you let the influence of others affect your choices and decisions, it is almost certain that in most cases you will not act according to your values, your desires and your aspirations.

The negative effects to please everyone is devastating to your self-esteem, devastating to the achievement of your personal projects, your personal development and the fulfillment of your dreams. If you prevent yourself to achieve your dreams because of public opinion and influence of others, what motivates you to get up each morning?

I do not mean to dismiss anything other say, I'm proposing to simply make your choice based on your beliefs, your values, your desires, your abilities and your dreams. When you've made your choice, there will certainly be people who will disagree with your choices and that's normal. All you have to do is to calmly explain why you do it and if he does not respect your choices and decisions is no longer your problem, anyway how can he stop you since you're the person who controls your decisions.

For people who decide to reject the whole crowd of negative influences, they must be careful not to fall into the trap of insolence, arrogance and contempt. Maybe you decided not to attend them, but this is not a reason not to respect their differences.

Whatever you do in life, there is always someone to tell you that you have not made the right choice or that your ideas are inadequate. Listen to your heart and your mind and live life according to you, while respecting others. It is not always easy for others to accept the fact that you live according to your choice and not based on what they want you to do or to be. At some point it will eventually let go and accept your way of life. The time always ends by overcoming the most stubborn.

A festive atmosphere to make us dream

2009-12-10T07:22:00.000-08:00

With all this beautiful snow, this is a beautiful holidays preamble. The brightness created by the reflection of light on the snow is very good for the morale. You feel the energy up and the enthusiasm of this festive season and multiple encounters you will probably experienced.

No matter how you decide to use this period of joy and generosity, the most important is to have fun like crazy and find the heart of a child who marvels at the window of Ogilvy on St-Catherine street in Montreal, before the ice sculptures at carnival of Quebec and before the colorful decorations around the world.

This white coat that buried Quebec allows us to go outside and play like kids, make castles surviving only the time of a storm and building snowmen that reminds us that this period of the season is one to get closer to each other.

The madness of the holidays is a gentle madness that deserves to be lived fully and must be fully enjoyed. For once everyone agrees on being patient, generous, kind and helpful, we must enjoy and appreciate the fact that human beings are capable of love and compassion.

Of course, the winter lose its charm after a number of weeks, but most important is to enjoy the present moment, the holiday spirit, the peacefully spirit influenced by this white snow and this time of celebration incredibly pleasant.

Imagine yourself after a day spent playing outside, you run around in the snow, skiing, skating, ball fighting in snow or whatever, when you return indoors, you will wrapp yourself in a beautiful blanket with warm hot chocolate and watch a movie to finally fall asleep like children who have given everything to enjoy this beautiful winter day

Having a positive attitude

2009-12-09T06:57:00.000-08:00

The following steps are a summary of what many see as a motivational recipe for achieving its objectives and realize their dreams. I am convinced that these steps are really useful and essential, but a good dose of sweat and determination must accompany these lessons.

As you select what you want, these steps are very useful and will give you results that can improve your life.

1) MAKE YOUR LIFE BY DREAMING AND IMAGINE IT
To get something, you must first have dreamed and desired it.

This is what all the great inventors creative genius have done. It should nevertheless be more difficult to create his life than to create an airplane, a submarine, a rocket or a parachute. And you know that Leonardo da Vinci and Jules Verne, to name only the best known, both have started to dream and imagine inventions that would emerge long after their death.

2) MAKE YOUR LIFE IN WRITING
Dream your life is not enough. The next step is to write in detail everything you want. As you will note the list of your commissions for the supermarket, it is a command that you pass to the universe, that is to say to yourself and your subconscious somehow. And the more your "letter" will be clear and precise (dates, descriptions, etc..) more easily you get what you want. This step is essential as you will do it by writing you will do well at THIS to say to see the results materialize.

3) MAKE YOUR LIFE IN THINKING TO DESIRE RESULT
Once you've written what you require, as if you've already got, you will think about it often. And the best way is to read and reread this "letter" you sent in your universe (your subconscious). Note that only repetition can assure you of the result, as if your thoughts repeated over days, weeks and months turned into the path way and the road and finally highway leading to the goal.

4) MAKE YOUR LIFE VIEWING THE DESIRED OUTCOME
The thought does not suffice, you have to involve visualization to strengthen everything you've done before. Each time you reread what you want, visualize yourself obtaining the result. To see yourself rich, is to see you smile and having the home of your dreams, perhaps realizing another dream, probably helping your family. Itemize your display in the result and not the means to achieve it.

5) MAKE YOUR LIFE FEEL THE RESULT
Imagine, think, view, all that is necessary, but not sufficient. If you REALLY want to get the life you want and thus create your life, I invite you to FEEL IT, that is to say, just to get the feelings, emotions that will be yours once the outcome happen. Feel the joy you will overrun, a sense of security or love will invade you. Feel your pride of having already succeeded. FEEL your body in your recovery and / or your happiness. Be prepared to leap with joy and gratitude!

6) ACT AS IF YOU'VE GOT WHAT YOU WANT
When you've imagined, conceived, visualized and feel, you must still act as if you had already got what you want. (No signing checks or stopping to take your medical treatment of course!)

Act as if you had already achieved the desired result is to behave as if, therefore, with the same joy, the same serenity, the same kindness, etc. All the acts that you ask. This means that you will now SMILE to others and stop complaining, of course, walk with confidence towards success.

7) MAKE YOUR LIFE POSITIVE, ENTHUSIASTIC AND ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN OF THE RESULT
This naturally leads you to be positive and enthusiastic. You will feel very confident that everything you wish for you (do not mix with others that create your life) will come true and is already under protest, even if you do not see it yet. Like the peasant rejoices in winter wheat that will inevitably emerge, grow and give abundant as the grain sown in the fall!

This enthusiasm and positivity, this assurance that everything is being set up in your best interests give you serenity and joy are immediate and excellent success factors of your life!

Learn to appreciate your life on a daily base

2009-12-08T05:37:00.000-08:00

With so many responsibilities incumbent upon us, it is not always easy to take time and enjoy life on a daily base. Obviously this is not always easy to do when we have to combine work, children, family, family activities and many other things coming in from time to time.

You really have to learn to share things between what is truly important and what is not. Enjoying life is definitely a daily activity greatly neglected. Of course, we all face challenges more or less large and not always easy to achieve with joy and optimism. However, we must learn to put things in perspective, we must stop dramatize situations that do not put our life in danger.

As our survival does not depend on our skills as a hunter and fisherman challenges of our survival are not really risky and do not put our lives in danger. So we must put things in perspective and have a more positive approach and especially to clearly identify what the real risks to our quality of life and our future projects are.

With the holidays upon us, what a beautiful time to enjoy life with people around us and the opportunities for fun, have fun and enjoy life. I do not mean to see life as a dream, I just want to put emphasis on the fact that there are many things that are really positive in many areas of your life.
Typically, the holiday season makes people more tolerant, more generous and less intransigent. This change in attitude is great and encourages people to be more attentive to the other, resulting in a substantial increase in assistance and compassion. Be more tolerant with yourself and stop blaming yourself for your mistakes and your bad decisions. Accept your bad decisions and let those mistakes in the past and be generous with yourself.

You are a very important person too many people and it is important not to underestimate the positive influence you have on many people. Understand that if these people believe that you are really an important person and if you have some respect for these people, you should do as these people and feel that you are really an important person.

If your life is really difficult right now, express yourself, tell someone you trust, empty your brain through your problems on a sheet of paper, make room in your brain for good things that happen in your life. Take Action for not staying in your depression, your anxiety and that feeling of isolation.
If you have any tips and recipes to help others enjoy life despite difficult challenges of life, let us know.

A beautiful celebration of the centennial of the Montreal Canadien

2009-12-07T05:19:00.000-08:00

It's already quite a few years that I am not anymore interested in professional team sports, but I really wanted to attend this special celebration that has thrilled my heart in a beautiful way.

A did have a nice feeling of nostalgia to remind me that this team has represented the French Canadian or Quebecois (depending on your political beliefs) we are. The team that made us dream when we were little boy.

To look at these legends that when they were active players gave themselves body and soul to their sport that was their way to express their personalities and the people they represented. At that time we could feel that they played with passion and conviction and that's what positively affected us with through emotions.

The ceremony was simple and at the image of people who took part of it. Emotion and recognition where honored throughout the ceremony and this has always been the class of this unique team in the world of sport.

The Montreal Canadiens were one of the greatest achievements of successful French Canadians until the late 70s. Since then we've succeeded as a distinct people to get several other highly successful in the business world, in countless cultural achievements and several discoveries in many of the technological world.

I am not someone who likes to return to the past because life happens going forward, but when attending an event like this with all those winners and passionate people on the same platform, it is difficult not to understand that success is a history of heart and work.

Thank you to this incredible organization and all those guys who give us those beautiful moments that made me dream so often.

Local purchase

2009-12-04T06:10:00.000-08:00

A topic that has made headlines for quite some time to support the local economy which is now part of the strategy to combat global warming. The major advantages of local purchases far exceed what we presented in the media.

Meanwhile, you must know that 80% of jobs in Quebec are from businesses with fewer than 50 employees. These jobs range from high-tech jobs to handlers one. Never forget that all these jobs are the result of local entrepreneurs who have put action behind their dreams.

The impact on local economy

The financial impacts in regions that have the privilege of having many small businesses is very important and especially promotes stability that are not in areas in which jobs are mainly depending on a large company.

Moreover, in general, local entrepreneurs are more involved in communities than large firms. The impact of these companies is real on the regional festivities, to support education, summer employment for students and to help the poor.

The environmental impacts

When to go to work you have 5 to 10 minutes of traveling, it is obvious that you are a smaller polluter than the person who has a time traveling much longer as in large urban centers.

Moreover, when products and services provided by local businesses are consumed in the region, the environmental impact is greatly reduced. In a slightly broader avoided consuming products from elsewhere and consume local products, the positive impacts on the environment are considerable. When you buy product from elsewhere, there is an important negative impact on the environment, its undoubtedly the pollution generated by the excessive transportation of these products.

The impact on your quality of life

For all those working in these companies, the impact on quality of life is very important. The most important of these impacts is undoubtedly time to transportation to go and to come back from work. All those who have the privilege of traveling just to get to work, increased significantly free time to care for your families, for recreation and social assistance in the community.

In conclusion

Seriously consider local purchases in the way you buy. Never forget the successful local business such as METRO, Bombardier, Cascades, RONA, Saputto, CGI and other large companies in the world came from a dream and action by a local entrepreneur. If you think you save by going to the Wallmart of this world, never forget that these companies provide mostly small jobs with little wages that do not promote local purchases, or very little.

Purchases of the holidays

2009-12-03T05:12:00.000-08:00

How can we spend a beautiful holiday season without spending unnecessarily? The question to ask might be more; what do you want to celebrate during this festive period?

For the small one, Christmas time is intimately connected to the last day, the day to open those gifts and it is quite normal. The frenzy of social activities is not what excite them and that's good.

For the others the holiday season has several meanings. For grandparents it's basically a good opportunity to find his whole world at the same time and see them in joy and gladness.

For parents with young children, the holiday season is a lot more Rock & Roll. It is not easy to escape from work, childcare, purchasing gifts, the office party, dinner with friends and preparing receptions.

Finally, the ultimate question is it necessary to give gifts to everyone?

Do you buy gifts to please others, not to look "cheap", because you've always done that just because you love all the excitement of seeing others open gifts ?

There are no right or wrong answers, you must be totally comfortable with your decision and do not act according to the opinion of others. In addition, you should seriously act on your ability to pay. Obviously, if you're going into debt to buy gifts, it is plain and clear that you should not do so. I do not think that people who receive these gifts would be pleased to hear that you have incurred a debt to buy the gift.

Never forget that the first and most important gift is your presence, your love and your friendship. What we love the most during these festivities is to see her whole world to see and discuss, exchange and have fun together.

Finally, if you want to give the best gift to someone, give some time to a cause of mutual assistance. These needy people are in dire need of help, support, encouragement and desperately seeking a glimmer of hope to get of their situation and that is what may be the best gift that you will succeed in giving to a person. Think about it!

Do not spoil the holidays by spending your money without counting. Make clear what is really important to you and enjoy this time of year to distribute your love and appreciation.

Why you have to move more ?

2009-12-02T05:52:00.000-08:00

Moving more can allow each of us to improve the quality of life. Physical activity helps to reduce the risk of certain diseases, improve our fitness and our shaped.

It is a source of well-being, and can help us live better life, to grow well and stay physically more independent with age, coupled with a balanced diet, physical activity builds and strengthens every day health.

And do dream to much, you won't become an athlete overnight, just be physically active every day is enough. This is why it is recommended to perform the equivalent of at least 30 minutes of brisk walking per day (or 1 hour for children).

Protecting your health

Scientific studies confirm a varied and balanced diet combined with regular physical activity help reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis, type II diabetes, cholesterol and certain cancers.

It also allows us to limit weight gain. The practice of regular physical activity is also associated with greater psychological well-being and improved stress tolerance. A balanced diet and physical activity are complementary and inseparable. To take their health in hand, you must eat better, but also move more.

The energy balance

With food, the organism receives a certain number of calories and some are spend by natural functioning (breathing, digestion) and our physical activity. The difference between energy intake and energy expenditure is what is called energy balance. To take their health in hand, you must eat better, but also move more.

Maintain its body

When not moving enough, we have the feeling of "rust". Our muscles, our joints and tendons need to work to stay flexible and toned.

It is by moving daily that we maintain our youth. Moving is also necessary for the heart, lungs, veins, immune system, digestion, hormones. For all our organs and functions related, exercise helps maintain the mechanical body, just like a car engine, it needs to run regularly.

Regular physical activity improves cardiac and respiratory functions. After a short walk, you feel your heart beating, you can breathe better, you feel more relaxed. Regular physical activity can increase muscle strength, improve flexibility, balance, coordination and postural tone.

It also strengthens the bones, thus contributing to the healthy growth of children and aging harmonious major (preventing osteoporosis). It increases resistance to stress and helps us to fight against fatigue.

Boost morale

Moving help you be aware of your body, to "recapture", and up hill your desire to care more. Moving can relax. It is an effective remedy against anxiety and depression.

Exert themselves physically improves sleep, you sleep better because you are more relaxed, but also because you have evacuated full of energy or stress. Physical activity can also offer new opportunities to meet friends or family and therefore promotes good mood. Moreover, physically active people are often happier.

To feel good about yourself, therefore, the first thing to do is move regularly.

Tenacity

2009-12-01T05:46:00.000-08:00

If you watched the football game of the Alouettes, you had a fine example of tenacity. I must admit to being stubborn for a period of 2 hours is not the end of the world, but it's still better than most professional sports teams who have not the heart to make an effort for 60 minutes. Anyway, what to remember is to always push until you get the expected final result.

Even if you do not succeed in reaching your goals, you have the satisfaction of having done your best and that is what is the most important. If you want to be inspire by a fine example of tenacity, think of the English people during the Second World War inspired by one of the greatest speeches of Sir Winston Churchill: "never never never never never never never never never give up."

Now, how to apply this kind of philosophy in the life of everybody in our daily life?
Do not believe that this type of behavior applies only in exceptional circumstances, this type of behavior applies in everything you do in your life. For example, if you have children and these children go to school, you definitely need a lot of tenacity to help and guide them throughout their studies. You understand that this toughness is difficult it is spread over several years, therefore you deserve to have a lot more merit for your tenacity than the sports teams.

Another example concerns almost everyone, is the energy and tenacity required to work or in your business. To earn a good living it takes a lot of energy and discipline. For those who decide to make a career in one field or another and to take positions with greater responsibility, it is definitely be very tough to follow the evolution of technologies, rapid changes and unexpected market and all rules dictated by government.

Do not idealize the achievements of people of notoriety. Look carefully at what you do every day and what you must assume as responsibility and you will notice that you show great tenacity. You're probably a good example for many others, for your children and some of your relatives.

Take time to appreciate the value of what you do and how you act every day. Maybe you do not make a quick glare as some people well known, but what you do every day is by far what is most remarkable of all exploits.

Ask yourself the right questions about your behavior and make a list of what you do with tenacity on a regular basis. You certainly deserve to hear the song every morning "we are the champions" from Queen rock band.

Future

2009-11-30T05:37:00.000-08:00

If you think to the future, are you the one doing those projects projections, dreams and try to organize your plans and actions to achieve them, or you are those who live in the anxiety about the future, bad news or unexpected that will change your life for the worse?
Many people are afraid of tomorrow, they are afraid of this day because they feel unprepared to cope with all situations. Be assured of one thing: no matter what you take as disposal to prepare for the worst, you will never be prepared enough to face whatever will happen in your life. If you think that in preparing to the extreme you can have peace of mind, you're probably able to see that you still worry now because you'll feel not sufficiently prepared.

I totally agree with preparing the future from a financial point of view, work, health, family, education and retirement, but there is a reasonable limit that is fairly easy to trace. Common sense has always been an excellent guide when we take time to fill with qualified people in each area.

We can’t predict everything that can happen in life and that's good. The pleasure of life consists of so many things and they are so interdependent, it is impossible and irrational to try to predict what might happen. The surprises, challenges, opportunities are the unique entertainment that surprise us those are beautiful moments that brighten our lives. These moments allow us to grow when we approach it with a positive and optimistic attitude.

When we took the decision to clear our mind on a daily base to recharge ourselves, no matter what happens to us, energy, creativity and hope come back within us and allow us to more easily cope with difficult situations and with better results. The effects of this exercise are incredible, some of them come through meditation, others through sports, others engaged in a hobby that absorbs completely. All these ways emptying the mind are effective, just to find yours.

If you think using drugs, alcohol or let you go to the extreme debauchery can help you forget your fears, your worries and problems, that you probably will succeed in making them worse and it is very likely that you will succeed in creating new, more painful and probably more difficult to solve.

Conclusion

Every day is unique, important and can be decisive for the rest of your life. It should not be taken lightly each day you are offered. If you manage to clear your mind regularly, you find that you more easily find solutions to your problems. What you will communicate much better with others, you'll be less inclined to get angry for unimportant events. You look at life with more optimism because you will be able to appreciate beautiful things and good moments of life, even if you're in a situation not easy to live. You have confidence in yourself and your hopes for a better life will only grow.

Your personal development

2009-11-27T05:15:00.000-08:00

All aspects of personal development are important throughout your life. There is nothing worse than meeting someone "upstart", that is to say a person who has nothing to learn from anyone. The kind of person who has seen everything, known and rejects those that are not consistent with his words and his thinking. No matter who it is, it’s very distressing to have to endure this kind of specimen of mankind.

The challenge in personal development is to accept and face the fact that we must make changes when we are dealings with others, in the way we think, act and even the way we speak. It’s difficult to make these major changes if we did not have very good reasons to do so. You don’t decide to do personal development without reason. Of course, everyone wants to improve, but few people take action or even try to know what to improve and change accordingly.

Personal development is done on several aspects. Primarily, the development is on the personality, knowledge and physical appearance. All these aspects of yourself are part of your personality. Warning! Don’t think you should work on all aspects of your personality at the same time. First, who said you had to change at all in all? Your personal development is a business that happens between you and yourself. When you decide to invest in yourself, you do for your purpose, not for others, or else, otherwise your motivation will fly as fast as the clouds in a windy day.

Here are some simple examples of personal development for you to demonstrate that to successfully grow and improve it’s not necessarily a large project. Being at the forefront of his profession by reading daily journals on the subject, learning a new language by reading or by Internet, developing skills by enrolling speaker to organizations specialized in the field and are accessible by everyone (eg "Toastmaster"); practice a sport or exercise regularly to improve his fitness and physical appearance; regularly read books on positive thinking and attend seminars on the subject, turning to part-time study in an area that really interests you.

Several options are available and don’t underestimate the impact of these initiatives as simple and small they are. If you really want to improve and develop the person you are, celebrate your successes regularly because they are all important. You put effort and sometimes you let your ego at the door to success. Success often lies in action rather than result.

Stop living in the past

2009-11-26T05:41:00.000-08:00

Despite all that you experienced in your life, all the success you've had, all the misfortunes that have hit you again and again, one thing you can be sure of is you can't change events and past results. It is quite unnecessary to return indefinitely on these events and wonder what you could have done differently to avoid some problems because you cannot change the past.

Be aware that living in the past is the best way to kill yourself slowly. Nostalgia is not a good feeling to regain energy and feel good. When we go back in the past, we tend to remember bad decisions and forget that most of our decisions were made based on the knowledge we had at that time and of course the emotion and desire moment that always takes precedence over logic.

I'm not saying this is not pleasant to remember the good times, but I sincerely believe that this is as far as he must go in the past. The present and future are far more interesting and much more energizing and exciting than the past. Moreover, the future should be seen as a party every day. Why? Given that the future always reserves surprises and like most people like surprises, so we should always consider the future as a party.

You believe that this approach is too simplistic? If you never tried to always live according to what you can achieve as a project for the future, to dream and concoct plans for successful projects, always consider failures as steps, you miss the most interesting and exciting part of the life.

Living is an adventure and adventures are sequences of events and surprises that require us to excel and to use our talents, our knowledge and imagination, as so aptly Albert Einsten, genius is nothing other than to let his imagination limitless. Be original that is to say, dare to indulge your imagination to address the events of your life with energy and creativity.

Be assured that you will live more intensely and you will be directed towards the future, your mind and your imagination will be used to make the most interesting and productive thing than you've ever done. You will be amazed at the energy produced by the dreams and drop the thoughts oriented toward the past.

I am well-aware of the daily repetitive obligations which are often too stultifying, but be aware that these obligations do not monopolize all your days and that each day you have enough free time to act like a (e) adventurer (e).

A balanced life with the beloved

2009-11-25T05:27:00.000-08:00

The relationship with the person you shares your life is unique. The beloved must be the most important person in your life, even children can’t have priority over that person. Activities (fields of interest) are vitally important if you have no activity or very little joint, you may lose you as a couple.

You must deal honestly and openly all matters of importance regarding the couple's vision of the future, the activities you most enjoy, that interest you, your sexual desires, your fantasies, your wildest dreams and your state of mind based on the life you live now.

You must have a relationship of complete trust with the loved one and this, in all areas of life. If your spouse is your best friend, there is good chance that your relationship is fun, exciting and even a little crazy and you'll always especially excited to see you again with your partner.

Whatever what is thinking the majority of people, I believe that married life should happen in this state of mind. If this is not the case, there are situations that are not clear between you. Otherwise, you do not share enough activities together. Never forget that humans almost always associated with people with similar interests and this also applies to your life partner, far more time progresses, the more you get away from the one another.

Make the point between you two very regularly, be honest and sincere. If your spouse is not your princess or prince charming of your first days, you must find the reasons that cause it. There is no reason for the flame diminishes between you, quite the contrary, it should shine more and stronger with time because you're supposed to change your relationship to a harmony unequaled.

It feels so good when the relationship with our spouse is simple, clear and without coercion. It is really easy to cope with life when life is smooth torque.

How to face challenges of life

2009-11-24T03:26:00.000-08:00

During our wonderful life we all face challenges of all kinds. These challenges are present in all facets of our lives, at work, in family, social activities finally everywhere.

Since the dawn of time we learn to face these challenges with optimism and confidence and a positive attitude even in challenging situations. Easy to write these words, but to face these challenges is not always easy. When it comes to really difficult situations we should not try to attempt to deal with these events without the help of trusted and professional people.
For example, if you have any challenges in the health field, there is good chance that you feel completely unprepared and that your concerns are very difficult to control. You'll be constantly worried, you will feel that the sky is falling on your head and will not succeed to get out of this situation without serious consequences.

To help you get through this challenges you must ask for help, support and never hide from others. The more people you have around you who have had similar experiences, the more you understand what you expect and the more you learn to control you even though you can not do anything to improve the situation.

I chose the field of health to show you how the simplest and most effective way to face the challenges in minimizing the negative effects in your daily life when you have to face this kind of situation because one day or another you will have to deal with different and difficult situations.

Whether challenges with finances, family, spouse, work, justice or any other type of challenges, you must never try to solve everything alone. The risk is too great to worsen the situation and to sink into negative feelings and depressing. You have to be surrounded by adviser you trust and people who have lived the same kind of situation you live.

Partnering with people of experience, competent and confidence will help you get through these challenges with greater ease and you will avoid most probably, a lot of problems and will work to prevent you from having recourse to loopholes such as alcohol, drugs, medications, gambling and excessive spending. These excessive behaviors are often observed in individuals who are experiencing very difficult times in their lives.

As we all do in these situations from time to time, don't be surprised to have these feelings of anxiety in such circumstances. Fortunately life is not a sequence of misfortune one after another. For most people, the moments of happiness are far more numerous than the times of calamities, therefore, always take with enthusiasm each day given to you to make a little magic of it.

Better world: Be nice to people

2009-11-23T05:16:00.000-08:00

An article from : 19 September 2009 by Michael Bond

It sounds kind of obvious, and a little trite: the world would be a better place to live in if we were all a bit kinder to each other. But how can we make that happen?

This is fast becoming a valid scientific question. Psychologists and neuroscientists are exploring how to increase people's capacity for empathy and compassion, with two ongoing studies claiming that meditation not only increases compassionate feelings but also improves physical and emotional health.

But you don't have to be a Buddhist monk or an expert on brain plasticity to help increase global compassion. There is evidence that altruistic acts spread through social networks. In other words, if you are kind to a friend, they are more likely to be kind to someone else they know.

To demonstrate this, Nicholas Christakis of Harvard Medical School in Boston designed a cooperation game in which 120 students were organised into groups of four and asked to give money to their group. The game lasted five rounds, and after each round the students were reorganised so that no two appeared in the same group twice. The researchers told the participants at the end of each round how much the others in their group had given.

They found that generosity is infectious. If someone gave a dollar more than the predicted group average, the others in that group gave approximately 20 cents more than expected in the next round. This altruism persisted into the third round.

Christakis's team found in a separate study that cooperative behaviour spreads to three degrees of separation - from friend to friend to friend. So if you are popular and well connected, you could have a special role to play: your compassionate acts could resonate further through the network, and you are also more likely to benefit from other people's kindness.

Be aware of the impact you have on people who are in touch with you on these social networks. Of course, you can positively influence many people, but the opposite is also true. Be aware that you are now a person likely to influence many more people than you think. Are you aware?

What is your passion ?

2009-11-20T05:43:00.000-08:00

Wow, passion, what a powerful feeling. Whenever we encounter a passionate person, you feel a nice energy to invade the space around us and we feels drawn to these people. Nothing more natural, we all like to be surrounded by energetic, positive, which sees life as an adventure.

I do not mean the fanatics, the hyperactive who only talk but never act and do nothing concrete in their lives. I'm talking about people who are really active, which are really productive for the community and have a positive impact on their families.

What is your passion which excite you, that fills you with energy, which pushes you to go further and think outside your comfort zone?

When wedares to invest and actually get involved in what interests us it is not difficult to get up in the morning. We can not wait to wake up to enjoy the pleasure and welfare given by passion. When I mean passion you should understand that I do not want to talk about problem gamblers and people who have addictions to drugs and other habits that have destructive effects on individuals. I mean anything that amuses you, makes you creative, you can help others, contribute to society or to advance a social or environmental cause.

Life is really short to realize his dreams and enjoy millions of interesting things to do and see. It is therefore important not to waste his time complaining to wait after the other to get ahead in life and especially should not put his energy into negative activities and destructive behaviors.

Fans raise the world and the skeptics hang down. This little phrase simply means that the madness of passion allows the human race to evolve, while the others are doing everything they can to stop us from going further.

Are you a passionate person? If so, share your passion with others, if not, delve deep within your heart and dare to live your passions.

Time for Kids - The holidays - Time to share

2009-11-19T04:24:00.000-08:00

What a beautiful time of the year as the holiday season. The Santa Claus Parade (since 1905 in Canada in Toronto and Montreal 1925), decoration of shops and department stores and of course all illuminated residences.

What about these holidays songs, all these singers and these improvised shows up in color, sound and light that illuminates our hearts and put us in a good mood. No matter how old you are, the magic of the holiday is really enchanting and pleasant.

There is no need for spending to enjoy the magic of this time of year, simply go outside, walk, take the time to listen, watch and share. Take the time to live gently in the madness of beauty open your heart to those who need you, people who have forgotten to remember their child's heart and marvel at what this beautiful frenzy the holiday season is.

In this period of economic austerity and crisis pandemic you must take a pause and appreciate what you have, what you are and all that is offered toy ou and your families. The art of loving life is to appreciate the present moment and people around you.
Open your heart and be attentive to the people you hang out regularly. Do not take for grant your spouse, your friends, your children, your parents and enjoy every moment with all this little world of your life.

If you want to fill your heart with joy, here is the ulttime the most effective way to get there.
HELP A NEEDY
Indeed, helping people who are really in need is what give us the more happiness and satisfaction, Why? Simply because when we do this, we know that we have absolutely nothing in return and the person we're helping will appreciated it at the highest point. We know that we are part of something great and that our small action could drastically change the lives of the people we help. The best part about all this is that we do so without any expectations and that we put our heart because we do for good reasons, that is to say, love.

You want to teach your children to share? Nothing could be easier, simply involve them in your approach and be certain that what you do is by far the best way to teach something to your children. Never forget that your children will do what you do and not what you say!

Even if we live in an age of madness, the fact remains that we are fortunate to live in a very special environment with a lifestyle unmatched on this planet. Let's be generous and open to those in need.

Social inclusion for young people in difficulty

2009-11-18T04:42:00.000-08:00

For too many young adults, life is not always easy. Many of these young people simply can not find a solution to meet their needs independently.

Fortunately, there are agencies that offer practical solutions in which they allow these young, often 18 to 30 years to develop new skills and find a place in this society.

It should be understood that many of these young people must earn their living and they must learn a profession. Moreover, these young people lack the financial means to pay for studies in special schools to be successful in obtaining training in a shorter period than traditional training. For these young people to rush through life with the hope of living well, it is essential to provide adequate training with real opportunities to find a good job.

Here is a great example that will inspire many of us, in addition to providing quality products at really affordable prices. http://www.insertech.qc.ca/

A social insertion company that provides services assembly, update and computer repair. We sell new and second hand computers.

An efficient company involved in the field of social economy

Insertech is a social insertion company that works in the field of computers. Since 1998 we’ve been helping young adults with a low educational level or battling personal problems, to enter the labour market and regain control of their lives.

These young adults occupy different positions in the company, working under the supervision of qualified technicians. During the training period – which has a 6 months duration - the program’s participants carry out different tasks that allow them to identify their fields of interest and help them find quality jobs.

Over 40 young adults complete our training program every year. Insertech’s results are very impressive: over 90% of the participants of the insertion program find a job or return to their studies. This exceptional result demonstrates the motivation of the program’s participants and the quality of the training they receive.

Our non profit organization is directed by an administrative council integrated by members who come from different areas: Business and administration, Education and Social Development. The president of the council is Mr. Gérald Larose.

A social purchase that protects the environment

Insertech Angus produces 6000 computers per year, including new and refurbished equipment. These computers are distributed to schools and non profit organizations at a very low cost, or are sold to private companies and particular clients. In 2002, we launched the first "social" computer brand of North America: Insertech Angus became a registered computer trademark.

They offer a powerful and reliable product, assembled with Intel® processors and components of excellent reputation.

Our clients purchase quality products and at the same time they give a second chance in life to our young workers.

In addition, through the computer refurbishing process, Insertech contributes to sensitize people about the importance of protecting our environment.

Take a look at the website and you will discover treasures you will surely delights.

The cries from the heart of aid agencies to needy

2009-11-17T04:36:00.000-08:00

The crying need of aid agencies to the poor is larger than life in this time of economic crisis. Not only the number of donors has decreased, but the amount of donations has also decreased. Obviously, with this time of sorrow and sharp economic slowdown, the number of people in need has increased significantly. Therefore, negative impact on the quantities of food available to meet the needs are great.

How can we help these organizations?

Of course there is the most effective way is to make a cash donation to enable agencies to make necessary purchases. However, when you donate, it is important to learn about available payment options. You can do this by credit card, by monthly payment, participating in activities, etc..

I'll be a little more specific in my comments, I'll talk about the Montreal area. The most effective way to help the poor is through http://www.moissonmontreal.org/ Members are regularly supplying nearly 200 organizations that provide food and nutritional support for people in need.

There are also several accommodation agencies that must be supported by community and by business people. Do not forget that all aid agencies to the poor are always in need of funding, resources and materials of all kinds. Take a few moments of your life to determine how you can help one of these agencies in one way or another. Make a visit to the website of the charity of your choice and see how you can participate in supporting these people who need help.

Very important notes

Whatever your current situation, always remember that life is sometimes surprising and you're never safe from the unexpected that can propel you at speeds unheard of among the people in need. Probably your situation will be temporary, but when this happens you will understand that these organizations will be essential and will help you meet your basic needs and find support for yourself regain control and become independent.

Do not judge those who need help from these organizations in one way or another.

When you see a helpless person in the street, make your imagination go and scroll down in your mind the scenario of the life of this person. Did he dream one day to live this life of misery, of course not. When she was still a child, what were the dreams of that person's, ambitions and how has it been encouraged and supported to achieve these dreams. You understand that we cannot believe that the current situation of each of these people is absolutely not fulfilling their childhood dream.

Environment, who should take care ?

2009-11-16T05:01:00.000-08:00

The environment, a topical issue, a reality that must be taken in hand now. Who should deal with it ? The answer is simple, everyone, but what shall we think of the behavior of world leaders with conflicting discussion that delay significantly agreements and concrete actions, which should help the planet to catch his breath.

The economic crisis has severely shaken the whole green initiatives resulting as the main priority of nations is now almost exclusively on the economy, employment and health. So even if the environment is considered a major issue for the entire planet, it has considerably lost its momemtum, because the financial benefits to act in harmony with the environment in the longer term, therefore, these initiatives do not meet the requirements to meet urgent economic needs, following the collapse of the global economy.

In fact, initiatives and business projects that are environmentally friendly or resolve an environmental problem are the real culprits of the momentum of the environmental movement. The community has always been the more powerful leverage do force national leaders to act no matter the field. As soon as the community begins to move and act toward a specific goal, governments have no choice but to get involved, otherwise they will be caught in a non stop media storm.

Whether you're a small businessman, a citizen, a large company or a mega company, everybody should act. Do not wait until governments, our lives are in danger, our lifestyle, our quality of life and even our safety is at stake. When nature is unleashed, it is merciless, it is extremely violent and is of a magnitude that usually exceeds our imagination.

I do not want to be alarmist, the alarm has already sounded, I just want to tell you that this is not the time to ask if it's time. We must act now and make important decisions about your lifestyle associated with the environment. If your life habits affect the environment, you must change, you must shake the cage of those who can help you to change and must respond effectively to this daily threat daily, the new reality of this century .

Consider some simple examples. The packaging, buy products that have almost no packaging. For products that are exaggerated or unnecessary packaging, take 5 minutes and let them know by writing to the company that you will never be a customer if they don't want to act as responsible corporate towards the environment and security of mankind. If you can not dispose of your waste in a city that does not bother to make the recovery at all levels, let them know what you want and you will see that if everyone put it, the elected will have no choice but to act.

Contractors should act now and create working groups with their employees and have a green project that can always act as a responsible company. People like to be part of projects that deliver results and is beneficial to the community, it is characteristic of the man wanting to help his community if he is given the means.

Do not look for of magic solutions to reduce your carbon footprint. Do some research online and you will find tons of little tricks, associations and recipes that help you take action NOW. Whatever the size of your actions, act now and do not underestimate the mass effect is really the recipe for the most powerful results quickly.

Waiting

2009-11-13T04:49:00.000-08:00

Is it worse torture than wait? Waiting until after a medical diagnosis, waiting for a response from a future employer, to wait after a call from your future lover, waiting for a latecomer that could make you lose a golden opportunity, the aircraft, an important appointment or a place in a cinema or a restaurant.

In short, waiting is an emotion that creates anxiety that we all hate and acts instantly on our imagination. From the moment the waiting begins, a negative scenarios snaps our imagination. Whether a person is regarded as imaginative or not, our imagination is unparalleled. The wildest scenarios go through our head and invade our bodies.

The invasion of the body is real, we feel the negative effects of different scenarios that we mentally go through and worse, we forget that what we imagine, is not real, that it is only possible consequence and not the reality. In summary, we become paranoid for a short time. However, this brief moment of anguish takes a long time to unwind.

When we mean by short moments we can talk about a few seconds to a few weeks. Of course, over the long wait, the more anxiety may worsen and can become terribly difficult to bear. A number of people can not afford these waiting times without medical help and it's a disaster when it comes to such a degree of anxiety.

How to control his anguish in such cases?

Existential question you ask, of course, it is not easy to find ways that meet all cases. However, failing to find an ultimate solution or all solutions for all types of anxiety, we can certainly reduce the intensity and thereby effects.

To get there is not enough to have a positive attitude that makes the neighborhood and everyone aroud youmad . The positive attitude is definitely required, but let's be serious, pragmatic above all, it is necessary to behave consequently with our personality, otherwise we simply acting against nature and especially we do not believe for one second that this behavior will be beneficial.

What I propose is quite simple, first, take an easy approach and quick to use, I propose a solution that works beautifully for me and that is really amazingly simple and you've probably heard thousands of times, here it is:

Take a piece of paper and make three columns, one with the scenario you just imagined, the second column with the consequences of this scenario and the last column the feelings it provokes in you. Simple, very simple but really effective. First, this frees your brain simply to write and organize your thoughts, you free your mind, you do not have to think you just read.

Secondly, during the time you take this information to scribble on a piece of paper, you focus on one topic, so you avoid imagine other scenarios that would accumulate over it. At least, the risk of accumulation is significantly reduced while you exercise to put this script on paper.

Besides, it is likely that some of your negative feelings caused by this scenario is the feelings that you can hardly explain. Since writing is an exercise that is very long when compared to the thought, generally avoids unnecessarily writing and attempting to go to basics, to what is really important and relevant. The act of writing forces us to be more rational in developing these scenarios and consequences.

Have you ever tried this method ? If so, I would like to know what you think.

How to report a situation without negative criticism

2009-11-12T06:54:00.000-08:00

As we live in a totally imperfect world, the opportunities are endless to criticize and from the point of view of almost everyone they often take appearance of negligence, omission or just bad faith.

So, how to report a situation without negatively criticize the situation, event or behavior?

In fact, it's not that complicated to do it, but it is more difficult to control the inner emotion that invaded us and brings us to profane negative criticism, spiteful and especially who do not bring solution or at least of ideas being considered to find a solution.

Controlling our emotion is the hardest thing to do in these situations. Since television is present in every home and that journalists give their personal views without ever offering a solution (or rarely), viewers do the same thing. The influence of repeated daily behaviors, inevitably affects and influence most people, which in turn reproduce the same behavior.

This finding will seem simplistic, I admit, however, we must not forget that we are easily influenced, especially when we are exposed daily to these behaviors. Anyway, the most important thing is to learn how to report situations that upset you, but without falling into the systematic destruction.

We must learn to identify what may be the basis for proposing suggestions for improvement or change by providing clear and practical evolutionary aspect of these new solutions or changes. It is not necessary to tear down to rebuild, it is possible to change things positively if not denigrate what had been done before, thus avoiding conflicts and closed reactions from concerned ersons . Usually you have to put in the context timely to understand why certain decisions were taken, which explains choices that were made at the time.

Of course, this approach does not apply to all situations, but daily it applies to many situations, especially those to which you are exposed and directly affecting your lives. The situation with your family, your workplace, your leisure environment and the community in general. If you can develop this type of approach to improve the elements of your environment, there are good chances that the results are more effective than they were before with the recipe of destructive criticism.

Tell me what you think and how you do it to do.

Making good habits

2009-11-11T05:06:00.000-08:00

Having good habits in life is usually the best way to live well and avoid possible surprises. Easy to say, but not so easy to do in all areas of our lives. Imagine, we must have good habits in everything we do, for example: managing our finances, our diets, our physical activity, our physical health, our social behavior, our attitude in frustrating situations and many others fields of activities of our lives.

Why always try to make good habits? A small development is needed at the outset, taking good habits is the most effective way to simplify his life to the fullest. We can safely say that this is the strongest foundation imaginable to live a life without problems.

It is not easy to make good habits in all aspects of his life. First, because in some areas, such as food, there are a lot of conflicting information to determine what is good or not for health. Then he habits of life you love and who give uyou great pleasure, for example, smoking a good cigar after a hearty meal.

It should be understood that the human being is a living species that adapts quickly and likes to wallow in lifestyle. Since we are creatures of habit, we maust take good habits as soon as possible. Be patient with yourself, you will not succeed in changing your bad habits crying chisel, but you should seriously take charge of it and make important choices.

Take time to understand what your true motivation are to change what you consider bad habits. Identify what are the real benefits for you, what are the tangible benefits. You must clearly identify the advantages and benefits that you can easily measure the results so you can assess the benefits and make the necessary adjustments for you as close as possible to your goals.

I suggest you not try to do everything alone, so you can get help from people who have good habits in the areas of life you want to change. These people will guide you and encourage you throughout your journey.

When you begin to make new habits, you will find that this is no more difficult than before, since these new habits will become your current habits.

If you have small stuff, let us know.

Why seek help?

2009-11-10T05:09:00.000-08:00

Why seek for help? Simply because two heads are better than one. However, many people do not want to disturb others or simply do not want others to know what are their current problems. Most people always want to look their best and want to show they are successful and they have control of their lives.

Take steps to be successful and have control of his life is a responsible attitude and demonstrates that you are a person who can be trusted. This does not mean that you must do it alone, however if you do some research on the lives of successful people, famous or not, you will find that these people also encounter difficult situations. By cons, in most cases you will find that these people have appealed to others for help. Those who succeed best get out of difficult situations are generally people who seek help, which acts from the outset and do not try to solve everything alone as super heroes.

To get help you must dare to explain the whole situation. Do not forget to give details. Why? When you clearly explain the situation, it is possible that the solutions you identified are not necessarily the best, especially the most rational for a long-term period. Actually we all tend to identify short-term solutions at the expense of a more efficient, but more difficult to apply at first.

A simple example, it is easier to borrow money to settle debts in the short-term than to clean up its finances and changing consumer habits.

Ideally, if you want people to help efficiently, it is better to ask for help, when possible, prior to the brink. The more time you give to others to help you, better will be the solutions they will propose to you. In certain situations, it is possible that you unnecessarily react, but be assured that the people you ask for help appreciate being notified in advance, even if sometimes they are false alarms.

Dare to ask for help and explaining clearly why you need them. Most people will help if you are able to do so, but if you get help from people who do well in life, you can expect that these people offers long-term solutions to help you take care of your life. As the saying goes, if you're hungry, they will probably show you to fish instead of giving you fish to eat.

Are you afraid to seek help and how do you do if you do it?

Procrastination, or the behavior to put off the next day

2009-11-09T03:43:00.000-08:00

The art of procrastination, is not a behavior that most people adopt too often. Why put things in the next day when we can do it right now? In some cases, simply out of laziness, because it does not seem important to do so immediately. In other cases, because we do not know how to act or react, so we do not really know how. to face it. Finally, we don't want to settle the case, because we don't dare to face the situation and face the consequences, thinking that letting time pass, the situation will resolve itself, like magic!

All these attitudes have consequences more or less serious, however, they are the cause of all worries and problems that long term can have very negative impact on your lives. But why so many people continue to procrastinate despite the impact on their lives?

Fear, fear of not being able to resolve the situation, fear of having to show his entourage that we have a problem that makes us look vulnerable, fear of knowing that the solution will have negative impacts and we don't believe we have the strength to face it.

It is sometimes very difficult to face his problems from the start and assume the consequences of these difficult situations. However, it must be remembered that the failure to cope a situation, solves absolutely nothing, quite the contrary, the more you let go a situation, the more likely to fester unchecked.

How to convince yourselve to always act early to solve a problem?

First, you must convince yourselve that acting early will substantially reduce the negative effects of a bad situation. In many cases this will prevent you not to act without thinking, simply because you will not be at the last minute, so you'll have more time to try to define more than one option to resolve the situation.

Then you should not attempt to resolve the situation alone, the more qualified and experienced people you have with you, the more effective and easy to apply solutions you will probably find. Leave your ego aside and dare explain your situation to people who may help you properly. Do not worry, most of these people do not judge you, they know well that you're in a situation that requires help and encouragement, not criticism.

To supplement this small presentation on procrastination, remember that as long as you put off till tomorrow what you should do right away, your mind will be tormented and live in fear and remorse. We all know very well that we procrastinate hinders the mind and peace of mind to enjoy life as it should.

How you do you not to procrastinate, at least do the least possible?

Doubt the future

2009-11-06T05:24:00.000-08:00

If there is a subject that deserves to be analyzed carefully, it’s this sense of apprehension we have about what will happen in the future. We doubt and we fear what might happen in the future, because we have no certainty we can face this fate if misfortunes arose.

When our thoughts or our reflections linger over the future and when we are doubtful, we can easily assert we are on the first phase of paranoia, that is to say, we extrapolate on situations which exist only in our imagination. We don’t mean planning for the future with several hypotheses, but we have important doubt on our capacities to face the future.

These doubts are doubts on our personal capacities, on the capacity to react well into society in which we live and on the way the humanity meets the present challenges. Nothing can guarantee the future will be as you would like to see it. Nothing can protect you from misfortunes, injustices or anything else that can make your life more difficult.

Why do we have all these doubts? Simply because we have no control over the future in most areas of our lives. An answer which you didn’t doubtless want to hear because there is nothing to reassure you. Unfortunately, such is life. For some people it’s a real pleasure to live in an environment like this. They love discovering new things, they love adventure, they love being surprised by life and they try to face situations with energy and enthusiasm. While for others, I would say most people, the less surprised they have in their lives, the better.

When challenges are important, it’s not easy to adapt ourselves, to react calmly, with serenity and especially without any doubt that things will be for best when the thunderstorm will be over. It’s not always the case but often, that’s what happens. As we dread the end of the adventure is not always positive, we imagine tons of scenarios so apocalyptic. With so much apprehension and imagination, we have a better understanding why the majority of people prefer not to have too many surprises in their life.

How do you manage this emotion ?

How to stay motivated to achieve you dreams?

2009-11-05T05:44:00.000-08:00

You want to live with a smile and have joy in life no matter what happens to you. Nothing is easier to think deeper than you've just won 40 million dollars in the lottery. Do the visualization exercise and try to really believe you've won! Force yourself to work your imagination so you can feel this feeling deep in your emotions, your body!

Not easy, is'nt it ? It is not easy because we are not able to believe it and as we can't believe it can't happens, we cannot create the sensation of freedom and safety resulting from winning such an amount in the lottery. Moreover, it is difficult to imagine that feeling because you have no personal memory of such a sensation, therefore, you cannot remember such a feeling.

If I ask you to reproduce a feeling such as fear of heights, fear of an automobile collision, fear being hit by someone else, there's a good chance you can get there. It is likely that you will get there, simply because you have a real memory of that emotion and from the memory, you are able to reproduce that emotion.

All these explanations to help to understand how to generate energy for your dreams, you must find in you the feeling within you when you reach the desired results. You have to find a personal experience the closest possible to the emotion that you think you will feel when you reach your goal.

When you associate an emotion with your dream, you started the motivation engine, the most powerful motivation toll in the world for you to move every day towards achieving your dream. You have just discovered the most important way to you recharge your batteries when you feel that things will not go as you want.

To stay motivated it is imperative that your motivation comes from a real sensation, an emotion that you are able to reproduce when require. To complete a project, to fulfill a dream, you must often face many unexpected situations that could have the effect of discouraging you. As most people have considerable difficulty in coping with adversity, it is essential to find motivation from a positive emotion and above all a true emotion.

The power of emotions is not anymore to prove, everyone knows how emotions are the source of most of the major achievements as the worst failures. Success is in the art of using these positive emotions to motivate, rejuvenate and pick the best of us.

Try it and tell me what happens to you.

Freedom

2009-11-04T08:07:00.000-08:00

Being free, the dream of man since time immemorial. Being free is the dream of everyone living on earth, regardless of location, social class and its political and religious allegiances. Free from what you say? Free of coercion, all that prevents you from becoming the person of your dreams, free to experience what you want to live and discover the world. The concept of freedom is so large and so different from one person to another. The myriad elements that influence our lives, our choices have a direct impact on our freedom.

Even if we all live on the same planet, living conditions vary greatly from place to place and the living conditions directly affect our freedom. It’s very difficult for a person to flourish in an environment of war, famine, repression, lawlessness and dictatorship. The concept of freedom for these people is probably very different from people living in an environment of peace, abundance, where the right of speech is respected and that opportunities are not limited to the whims of small groups of individuals.

Access to freedom is undoubtedly the goal of almost everyone on this planet, whatever the meaning of freedom for each of us. The most important thing is we all have choices and can make our own decisions on how we live. Our ultimate goal is to stop being dictated by everyone and live without the constraints that make us anxious and vulnerable.

When we were teenagers, the bulk of our energy was spent to find a way to do what we wanted, without being controlled by our parents, schools, police, our friends, our neighbors or any other person in authority. Once in the adult world, we realize that things are much alike, but in other forms.

Always tap the nail to achieve your dreams

2009-11-03T05:03:00.000-08:00

For many people, dare to dream is already something difficult to do simply because these people are afraid of failing to achieve those dreams and disappointment. For those who dare to dream, there is the challenge to do what it takes to succeed.

We must understand that to succeed you need a few important ingredients. First, you must define your dream as accurately as possible, at least in its purpose. Then, you must try to plan how to get there. This step is very difficult because most of the time you don't really know how to get there and you don't know exactly what exists to help you realize your dream.

It is very important in the planning phase, to look for information around you with your friends, on the Internet, in books, blogs, and finally across. The more you dig the subject, the more you discover the opportunities and tools available on the market.

Almost at the same time you do your planning, you should start working. Yes, from the outset you must begin to move, experiment and make mistakes. The more you'll wave, stronger will be the storm and people will know your intentions, the better the chances to get help and learn recipes. The more you make mistakes, the more you have experience and you become an expert.

The planning necessary to achieve your dream, is only useful from the moment you will experience and you have made enough mistakes to understand how to avoid pitfalls and understand your ability to solve these problems.

A very important thing to understand from the moment you begin to act, the chance will approach you and when the preparation will meet the opportunity you've probably managed to get closer to the considerable success of your dreams. If you are ready and the opportunity arises you will be lucky.

Finally, the most difficult of all is perseverance. That is to say, tap the nail as long as necessary. Attention when I say tap the nail, I mean to always act according to your dream and act on that dream. However, you must always adjust your act as long as you do not reach your goal.

Success in achieving his dream is still possible, provided to do the right thing, as long as necessary and be prepared to devote all the energy it takes. There is no guarantee that you will succeed, but it is likely to happen. If this is not the case, you have a clear conscience for having given everything you need and you go to the next dream.

The purpose of life is to live and live is having fun trying to achieve his dreams. What do you think?

"Now or never" from Jean-Marc Chaput

2009-11-01T13:22:00.000-08:00

http://www.jean-marcchaput.com/

Last Saturday, October 31, I went to see Jean-Marc Chaput at Place des Arts in Montreal. The title of his lecture, "Now or never". The remarks of the conference focused on the need to act now to stop waiting after something to move forward.

In a nice way Mr. Chaput explained things in a simple way, but more important, the fact of dreaming, daring to make mistakes, get out of his comfort zone and as he said to get out of his old slippers. He presented several examples of negative attitude from teachers and those guiding our youth in the school system.
Mr. Chaput has never tried to discredit anybody, he simply tried to make us understand we have to think before acting, but to analyze to much is crippling. As he presented in its many examples, we're so paralyzed in certain situations such as construction of the CHUM, fussy communications to manage influenza A (H1N1) and the interminable and ineffective reform school.

The approach of awareness of Mr. Chaput has certainly awakened some people and I beleieve some people dare to act now. Moreover, Mr. Chaput also said that we must sell ourselves, we must learn to sell ourselves and dare to be sold as individual. This is called "You Inc.". Is to say, we represent a value for our environment, to our society and we must believe we're good, as he said so "sacrafice" you are!

Finally, he spoke extensively of the fact that it dared to splurge and go through small successes in a row. Try to realize your dreams by step and celebrated every small victory. Self-esteem and success is built through action, experimentation, errors and help from people you ask some help. Mr. Chaput has delivered the goods very well and the 79 years man is very impressive and above all he still seems to have tons of dreams to realize which must be the source of his incredible energy.

Tell me if you think you recharge with speaker as Mr. Chaput should you?

Feeding his brain with the right information

2009-10-30T06:41:00.000-07:00

Everything that enters our mind acts more or less strongly in our minds one way or another. Do not be naive and believe you are able to manage all the information you're exposed to. We must at all costs choose what goes into our minds, you must avoid exposure to sources of information that is negative and does not allow you to entertain or to grow.

Life must be lived with a sense of pleasure and the evolution of the human race. Any other goal in life should be consistent with these simple principles, but very difficult to achieve when you allow any kind of information reach your mind. Deliberately I subtract any reference to any concept of faith or religion, please include it if you want, it blends very well in the evolution of the human race, unless of course you have regressive or closed religion.

Feeding your mind is not a simple task, it is not easy to choose the information we want to receive, most of the time we received this information involuntarily and without supervision or even a choice. By cons, a large amount of information we received is entirely under our control, it is thought that the simplest things such as television news, newspapers and even to some extent what from the Internet.

Many people attribute their depressive feelings, negative and angry at their childhoods, their financial situations, their social contexts and even disadvantageous to their spouse. In reality there are certainly some things, but for most of us it is mainly the fact that the information we received on a daily basis maintain the contextual causes and developing new ones that are not part of our lives.

For example, it is difficult to watch starving children , with no opportunity to learn to possibly improve their lives, who are forced to work at a young age. These images and stories affect us and often we feel powerless, cynical about society or even guilty for not doing more for these children other than give money to implement desperately trying to help. These situations are generally presented in a questionable way.

At the same time we get impatient with our own children because they cannot appreciate the extraordinary opportunity they have to live under skies of peace and opportunity available to a minority living on this earth. We ask our children to have an adult behavior to face situations and in doing so we provoqued conflicting family situations due to information presented out of context and above that are not adapted to the level of development and consciousness children can have, teenagers and even young adults under 30 years.

This example may be too complex for certain person, but it affects a large number of people who use this information to understand their children things that are totally beyond their reach. As a human being you can change the world by changing yourself, but certainly not trying to change others, and even less with examples from a context that is quite inappropriate as the example described above.

Of course all this gives a final result a gloomy atmosphere, negative, not constructive or even demoralizing for both adults and children. Such information shall not be received so sensational as do most of the media now. This information must be gathered objectively and in particular with an overview of the situation, not just the consequences that are sometimes less dramatic than what we present. Hence, the importance of managing what comes, do not let the mass media to invade your mind, you must avoid, condemn, ignore it and especially do not expose yourself to these sources of unhealthy information and devastating.

Tell me how you manage what feeds your brain.

The 7 days of the week or 7 habits to combat anxiety

2009-10-29T06:05:00.000-07:00

Close for ever door that gives access to your past and stop looking at what's coming, or at least what you think or want is going on and experience the present moment with gratitude and pleasure. This day will never come back into your life, make it a work as you know how to do it.
Take care to do the essential things, keep your mind active and playful. Active people do not have time to worry about small insignificant things and particularly do not have time to wonder what will happen tomorrow or after tomorrow.
Let the law of averages work for you, assess the chances that the worst case occurs and you find that the chances they occur, are mostly, almost zero, then act as best you can and stop to worry about in case.
Do your best and the best of your knowledge in all honesty and trust your common sense.
Watch what you've done, what you have positively influenced and forget the worries and the alleged risks. Take stock of your accomplishments versus your real failures. Successes are very much likely that your frequent failures. Trust yourself, after all you've done so many things so far and your errors were generally not irreparable.
Invest a little time each day to the other, forget you and spend this time entirely to others. Be the smile benefactor and the distributor and listen to people and you really realize how important you are.
Give free rein to your imagination and don't stop dreaming of the realization of these projects. Let your creativity explode even if those projects seem farfetched. Have fun to imagine the success of these projects and no doubt you will succeed one day or another to achieve one or more of these projects.

The new tools of communication and its critics

2009-10-28T05:49:00.000-07:00

The rapid development of communication tools makes it easier now to get in touch with an incredible number of people across the world to communicate quickly, easily and efficiently. However, again, some people believe that these new ways of communicating are transient, they diminish our expertise in using the language and they threaten our privacy.

A little reminder, in the mid-1900s, when the ancestor of Twitter, the telegraph emerged, many people believed that few people had enough things to communicate quickly to use this medium. Three decades later, inventor of the telegraph, Samuel Morse saw no need to buy the patent for the invention call telephone. Mr. Morse and the Western Union considered that there was little point in using a communication tool that could not keep written evidence! Who would dare make verbal agreements with no proof of conversation contents !

In 1930 in the New York Times editorial, it was clear to them that using a typewriter endangered art of handwriting, which could allow thieves to take advantage of the edotors copyright ! Is this an argument for anti-bloggers?

With all these communicate access, exchange information in all its forms, it is difficult to predict what will be the impact on our society, but we can say without any doubt that if the past is any indication of the future, the future world of communications will be very constructive and beneficial to the entire planet.

Facing disappointments, challenges

2009-10-27T06:09:00.000-07:00

During our short life we are often faced with situations that do not end like we wanted. Obviously, some situations have no impact on our lives, for example, the defeat of one of your favorite sports teams, a missed appointment at the dentist, etc.

In other cases the consequences are more annoying, even more irritating. To continue here are few examples in the daily life; when you have a flat on the road and you are not able to install the spare tire, when the transit is delayed and makes you miss an important office meeting etc..

Finally, there are situations that have consequences far more serious and cause you stress quite important or very important, for example, you do not get the promotion you thought you were due, you do not you find a job for various reasons on which you have no control, the performance of your financial investments drastically affect your lifestyle and your future retirement.

All these disappointments have the particularity to pick us up from the inside, you still live such a disappointment so emotional. According to the negative consequences that you anticipate you will have an emotional reaction, not controlled, which will be confusing to a point where you will stop to eat, you will have trouble sleeping, you will feel like a failure and sometimes you get sick.

Beware, negative stress as it is extremely dangerous for your body and your mind. These disappointments are sometimes difficult to deal positively, because you do not see at the outset how you will exit and you're not positive on what the future holds because of these events.

It is imperative that as soon as possible, e.g. within a few hours, you stop fretting about possible consequences of these events. You must act immediately, I repeat, you must act quickly it's the key to deal successfully with this disappointment and the only way, to be really effective to quickly eliminate these fears. When you are in action you must focus on what you do, therefore you have less time to think and get stress on the possible negative consequences, which by the way have not yet arrived!

There is no magic potion to get through a situation, a disappointment or a difficult time in life. You just know that life is filled with opportunities that are revealed when you begin to move and you decided not to let these events take control of your life. As you've probably heard the maxim tons of times "this is not what happens to you that is important is how you react to it." Even if this maxim seems a cliche, it is the recipe to follow.

Health

2009-10-26T06:35:00.000-07:00

From all the situations we must face in life, the health is the one which makes us most fear, the one for which our doubts are the most stressful and the one who can have a devastating influence on our future. It’s normal being anxious when health is involved, without counting the fact we are true ignoramuses in this domain. Even these doctors, despite the fact they are competent, they have a very limited knowledge of the human body and its secrets that operate this magnificent machine of human life.

Since we are moons to see really clear, there is no recipe that can prevent you from getting sick, because you will, one day or another, but there are still ways to avoid numerous of them. The current knowledge allows us to presume that certain basic principles are beneficial. As for anything in life, moderation has much better taste. Abuse is rarely a solution for a problem and seeking in a too intense way some parts of the body, alter it prematurely and often in a permanent way.

To simplify the principles to something easy to do and to understand, here is some recognized assertions which will give you some indications to live healthy;

 to maintain a healthy weight, you must spend the same number of calories you gain, simple principle, but for many people it seems difficult to do

 to reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease, don’t consume saturated fat and avoid salt on food (there is enough natural salt in food)

 to decrease the risks of type 2 diabetes, avoid adding some sugar in what you consume (there is enough natural sugar in food)

 to decrease the effects of aging on your bones (osteoporosis), consume dairy products every day (moderately) and make a minimum of body-building to allow the muscles to support your osseous mass

 to reduce the effects of aging on your intellectual abilities (analysis and memory), do some reading, play strategic or memory games and continue to educate yourself on anything you find interesting

As you found, keep things simple and you must take steps to maintain your body and your mind.

The homeless, these unknown

2009-10-23T07:07:00.000-07:00

For people living in large cities, the phenomenon of itinerant or homeless is something normal, there is nothing unusual to see one of these people asking for money with a smile and mostly a thank you even if you do not give him anything.

Every time I see one of these people and I mean every time, I always wonder what has been happening in their lives to become what they are today. Of course I am aware that there are a number of those people in the street because they have a mental illness and they are not adequately treated and monitored. However, we all know that most homeless are not in this situation.

I make this reflection this morning because I recently went to downtown Montreal (my hometown) and there was a homeless shelter that was next to a parking machine and with his cap hanging to collect money and welcome me with a nice hello. I returned the favor and then he started to explain the machine seemed to refuse all credit cards, but what a surprise, his manner of speaking, his vocabulary, his speech and his playful attitude to me where simply impressive.

It is clear that the person facing me was intelligent, educated and with great ability to interact with people better than most people I know. Again, I was confront to a person who lived a life situation that I could not explain. I understand that a person in depression can happen at any time in his life dropping everything time to heal, but the homeless are not all people with depression illness!

All this means that when you're facing a homeless, take time to ask yourself some questions like: is this really what the person wants as life? Was it really in his wildest dreams of becoming a homeless?

Just ask him instantly triggers a feeling of compassion towards these people. Compassion is not pity, but a feeling that makes you let go of our negative judgments and we tried, at least for a moment, to walk in their shoes. It is from this moment we realize that these people need to be treated like you and me, that is to say an equal, with respect despite their physical appearance. Never forget the saying "the clothes do not make the man", simply think of tie bandits!

Tell me what you think, tell me how to react when you face these people.

Be honest with yourself

2009-10-22T07:03:00.000-07:00

In life the development of his personality is gradually and is generally for the better, at least with yourself. There are several events that cause us feelings sometimes negative, sometimes positive, but rarely reacted with indifference to what surrounds us. This is the main reason why you must learn to know yourself and especially to be honest with yourself. Be careful not to underestimate, it is the danger of the recall, because often we tend to compare ourselves to others, which is really the last thing to do. Why? When we compare to others, we compare our weaknesses with the strengths of others and inevitably the gap between the two is exaggerated.

I simply mean to agree to face reality in the face, do not rationalize the situation, that is to say, irrational excuses, we must carefully determine what you do, why you do and what you want to do better. From the moment you have identified clearly where you are and what you want, you've done the long way the most difficult and emotionally demanding, that is to say, one to look the truth in many face to finally find solutions.

It sounds simple, but too few people dare to do, most people think their life situation is acceptable, but when you talk to them, they have no spark in their eyes when discussing of their they life, what they do and their projects. They seem to live on a treadmill that goes nowhere without panoramic, without challenge and does not require them to excel and use their real intellectual and physical capabilities.

The subject is very wide and is dotted with exceptional situations, but tell me what you think, I am very curious to find out your views, learn what you live, you feel and what you do to go to a true awareness with yourself?

A balanced life - Work

2009-10-21T04:40:00.000-07:00

Work is health! Until recently, I did not understand that expression. I finally realized it was more mental health than physical health. When a person feels less useful to society or his family, it becomes easily depressed and anxious. When it comes to work, it simply means, feel useful and that the fruit of our efforts are useful and responsive to one or several needs in our living environment.

It's as simple explanation, but so important. The reason I explained this expression is that for many, work is a requirement for earning a living and generate income. Of course basically it's the first reason we are working. But how to stay motivated if you work only for money? You can’t stay motivated for long, there will come a time when your presence in your work is only by financial obligation. When that time comes and believe me, it happens very early in your career, you will find every reason possible and imaginable to try to go away and do something else.

No matter what you do for a living, the most important is to understand the value of your work and do whatever it takes to perform well. Don't be influenced by the attitude of others, your work ethic is what is most important. Even if you produce twice as much as your fellow workers and you are paid the same salary, it does not matter. If you give the best of yourself, you give value to your work, you'll feel really good and it is likely that this performance will be noticed and appreciated by your superiors or customers.

Generally, people offering very good performance without supervision have significant advantage when the time comes for promotions or special requests in terms of holidays, holiday accommodation or special situation. Be the employee that you wish to employ and you want in your team and it is very likely that sooner or later some great opportunities will arise by themselves.

In doing so, you will feel good about your job, you'll want to go at work because you know the outcome of your work is useful and meets a specific need. You'll be at peace with yourself knowing that you truly give a good performance. When our mind is clear, it is easier to have a balance in his life, since we did not worry about the repercussions to come as opposed to those not performing as they should.

Perseverance - The secret of success - But how?

2009-10-20T06:52:00.000-07:00

Usually perseverance refers primarily to sports and studies. What I am referring in this article is the perseverance to pursue your dreams. A large number of motivators, books and conferences strongly encourages us to dream, believe in our dreams and visualize what we want to achieve.

What I want to talk about is the journey that awaits you and affect your motivation, your determination and the definition of your dream. In many cases the dream is quite simple and easy to visualize, for example, you dream of vacation to Hawaii, buy a car or anything else more or less material.

When it comes to less palpable dreams as becoming financially independent, get a challenging job with opportunities for advancement, having a successful career well-defined or a successful family life. Finally, all those dreams are, strongly influenced by emotions and the desire to be recognized and to feel having a successful life.

In these dreams, the kind of perseverance is one that requires a good judgement, to be realistic and not turn away from reality, ultimately adjust your shot and continue to act on your dreams.

A concrete example, if you dream was to become a psychiatrist and you are not able to get the grades required for admission to medical school, most people will try to find something easier to succeed and very often something completely different. Why? In many cases it is because their self-esteem is affected and these people think they should move to areas much easier to achieve, even if they have less interest in these areas.

The secret to success? Identify what you really love in becoming a psychiatrist and identify areas that are closest to what drew you it in the field of mental health. Continue to tap the nail in one way or another, but also continue to act in the direction of your dreams, trust the future and you will discover ways and means that will get you closer to your ultimate dream.

The great benefit of always align its actions on the fact the nearest of his dreams, is the pleasure we take in every little victory, over time we realize that our perseverance approach us a little closer to our goals. Sometimes it is long, very long, but it's worth it because in the way we realize our dreams is much more a journey of life than anything else.

When you discover that success is to make adjustments, changes the way of achieving your dreams you will achieve your greatest success. You will appreciated the feeling experiences buy not to let it go through life and enjoy the opportunities of life despite the obstacles and the difficult events of this life. You discover you are able to cope with life in all conditions and still managed to achieve a great number of your dreams.

The ethic code of our elected

2009-10-19T06:54:00.000-07:00

With all situations and disturbing information we receive from media, it's really disturbing to live in a society run by people having a questionable ethics code.

What prompts these people to do that? Note that the sinews of war in politics is money. To have a good chance of getting elected, it takes a lot of money and thousands of volunteers. The recipe is simple, if you managed to bring you supporters to vote, the better are your chance to win. To achieve this feat it is necessary to have tons of volunteers and lots of money to spoil these volunteers and a lot of money to attract people who work in agencies and influence their members.

So to win it takes money, something that political parties don't have in most cases. I'm not saying that winning elections is the only reason the ethics code for elected officials is doubtful, but it begins in this way. Once you start playing that kind of game, it's difficult to leave without negative consequences.

Moreover, if you analyze the number of hours worked by those elected versus what they receive as compensation, it is certain that our elected officials will not get rich with these salaries more than average. If we were calculating the hourly rate depending on the hours they devote to their work, it would be among the poor of this society.

So, as a representative of the society, with major decision-making powers, it is easy for most of these people to feel important, which means the fact of being treated as such. This is not the case since our elected officials are criticized every day and that their behavior is scrutinized as if they were bandits. End result, good numbers of these elected officials are tempted to accept to be spoiled by entrepreneurs who effectively apply the proverb "the end justifies the means".

I do not want to go further analysis of this situation, I just wanted to give you some thinking on the situation experienced by our elected and the risk engendered by lack of funding of political parties and to sub pay those elected.

Depending on your point of view it would be interesting to have multiple views of the community, who knows, from these comments, perhaps we could make suggestions to our elected officials. The floor is yours.

The effects of negative information

2009-10-16T06:17:00.000-07:00

Everything coming in your mind acts more or less strongly in your feelings one way or another. Don't be naive to believe you are able to manage the incredible amount of information you are exposed. You must absolutely choose what goes into your minds, you must avoid exposure to negative sources of information which are not entertainment or educational.

Life must be lived with a sense of pleasure and for evolution of the human race. Any other goal in life should be consistent with these two principles, but it's very difficult to achieve it when you allow any kind of information reach your mind. Deliberately I subtract any reference to any concept of faith or religion in this set, if you like to include it, it blends very well in the evolution of the human race, unless of course, it's a regressive or closed faith or religion.

Feeding your mind is not a simple task, it's not easy to choose the information too receive. Most of the time we received this information involuntarily and without supervision or even any choice. Meanwhile, a large amount of information we received is entirely under our control, such as television news, newspapers and even at some extent what is available on Internet.

Many people attribute their depressive, negative, and angry feelings at their childhoods, their financial situations, their social contexts and even to their spouse. Reality is probable a part of that, but for most of us, it's mainly the fact that the information we receive on a daily base feed these feelings. Worse, many people develop new problems which are not even part of their lives, in other words, they invent new problems.

You really have to ask yourself serious questions about what you listen, read and look and the harmful effects of these negative information are real.

Why help the poor ?

2009-10-15T06:10:00.000-07:00

The difficulty with this type of support often comes from the fact we wonders if the money we send goes to its destination and it's used for good purposes. Also arises the question whether the poor are not abusers of society.

Are they really abusers? Sure, but let's be serious, the majority of helpless people really need help and they do not wish to remain there all their lives often these people are facing a temporary situation or in many cases the disease is the cause that keeps them in this situation.

Not easy to break this kind of position when it's a result of mental illness or chronic illness that prevents them from finding employment or becoming an entrepreneur. The majority of these people are grappling with this problem, for others they generally are people convinced they can challenge the system! For what purpose, I cannot answer you, this way of thinking blow me out.

Now, when making donations, does that money really can be found in the hands of good people and is the money properly used. A very difficult question to answer. To get the correct answer must be that you must do a research yourself with the institution you want to give. I agree that this approach is demanding, but if you're really serious, it's worth it to do this exercise before sending the hard earned money.

What to do for our friends in the street, those who ask for money everywhere and in many cases not even thirty years? Decide for yourself, but when you watch these people, try to think of this: you really think these people are happy to be in a similar situation? What happened to their childhood dreams of becoming an astronaut, doctor or firefighter? Just ask the question makes us realize that these people have certainly experienced very negative things to go downhill in the street that way. Do not judge, you must try to understand and imagine a real solution to help them do it.

Criticism - An attitude to avoid

2009-10-14T06:09:00.000-07:00

To accept criticism, make a critical, even the word is aggressive from the start. Topping the list of types of criticism there is the "constructive criticism"! What an aberration, how a critical can be constructive? By definition a critical is a blame, simple as that.

It is so easy to criticize people acting, criticizing design, organization, how people are dressed, how people go about doing things. I want to point out that whatever the criticism, the receiving it is instantly negatively affected. It's not possible to build something if you start by blaming.

If your intention is really to respond positively, I suggest you never criticize, but simply ask questions to understand the process used and then re-explain the purpose and outcomes and then work on amendments from suggestions and similar example you may submit to clearly present your point.

I do not mean that you are wrong to criticize, I understand that in many cases it's legitimate and necessary. However, if you want to increase your chances of being carefully listened and you sincerely want to help people, it is important not to confront people if you want these people to listen.

Think about the way in which you can explain your views, your guidance without starting with a review. I secured from the outset it will be easier for you to deal with situations since you have a REAL constructive approach.

What do do with his life ?

2009-10-12T04:08:00.000-07:00

That is a question most people have great difficulty to answer. Some people have particuliar passion and a predisposition to succeed in what they are passionate, but these people are exceptions. For others, like me, we have several areas of interest, although this is not necessarily passions, but we have not yet developed our talents and skills to successfully move to one of these fields of interest.

This seems a lost cause, but this is not the case. Simply, we must take the path of experimentation to help us better define what we want to do and what we're gone do to achieve it. Moreover, we must add the chances of life, encounters with people with positif impact in your life, they will guide you, add to this, life events forcing you to make some difficult choices, forcing major changes in your life.

Whatever happens in your life, the most important thing is to learn to see life as it is and the way your act to it. You must believe in your potential, but you must learn to set goals large enough to force you out of your comfort zone. Take a look back at your life and you will find that whenever you learn something, you have developed new knowledge and new skills, it was situations in which you were uncomfortable, requiring from you an extra effort to get through the situation.

The more you dare try, the more you discover your talent and the better are the chances of discovering what you will do in your life. The secret is an action and build trust in yourself, but don't hurry, take time to get there.

Congratulations Mr. Obama for your Nobel Prize

2009-10-09T06:13:00.000-07:00

Nobel Prize was awarded to a man of heart. Nobel Peace might as well be called Nobel Prize for pro-active management. Why? Mr. Obama has certainly made significant efforts to bring back discussion to a diplomatic approach to resolve conflicts rather than brandishing the threat of war, high specialization of its predecessor. However, Mr Obama served on a number of unprecedented reform on sensitive issues that have major impacts on the lives of American citizens.

I do not give God without confession to Mr. Obama, or anyone else besides, but so far, in truly difficult circumstances, he was able to react and make a concrete and positive impacts on those leaders of major companies. He managed to shake the turf of these tie bandits to such an extent that they are less protected in their glass rod.
To give Nobel Peace to Mr Obama warms my heart because the example of this man gives a slim hope that the human race may have an opportunity to evolve towards a better world. It was a long time this planet did not have such inspiration from the hand of an officer in a position to act, to influence and make things happen. Fortunately for us, Mr Obama is a man of action who dares to do things, not always successfully, but he keep on rolling toward a common sense vision for his fellowa AND THE REST OF THE WORLD.

One day left before the clown astronaut show with his band

2009-10-08T05:54:00.000-07:00

Tomorrow evening we will have the chance to attend a presentation of an unprecedented show on the more valuable natural resource , water. This message is very important and will be broadcast around the world. Mr. Laliberté has decided to use his reputation combined with his unprecedented extra planetarial adventure from a regular citizen without specialized education.

The importance of this message will allow a huge number of people to be aware and better understand the challenges as ordinary citizens, business leaders and government officials of course. The dissemination of this information will enable us all and everyone to understand what we can do for our neighbor and how we can act effectively.

Even if our actions have minimal impact on the situation it should certainly not be underestimated as the global effects represents a considerable sum that can really make a difference. Unity is strength and it's the message we will receive during this presentation tomorrow night.

On holiday every day

2009-10-07T04:56:00.000-07:00

Does your employer asks you to stay connected to your work intellectually and emotionally, outside your working hours? For most of us this is not the case, but many people fail to make the transition between the hours spent at work for a living and hours of freedom after work. You read, hours of freedom, those hours are yours, it's your time, you're free to think what you want, do what you want and organise time off as you wish without having to for report results of your actions to a boss or a client: you're on vacation!
No need to search from noon to twelve to understand this principle. Of course, you have other obligations to meet. If you think when you take vacation, you have no obligation to fill, you should perhaps come back on Earth. The only activity you don’t have in vacation, is to work for a living. For everything else, you roughly have the same obligations, but they are made in a different context. Your obligations don’t change much, but the context is quite different. Therefore you must approach your free time with a vision identical to the one of your vacation.

Municipal elections in Québec

2009-10-06T04:51:00.000-07:00

Is this an interesting topic for the general population? Unfortunately not. We live in a democracy all quiet, without too much heckling and no rebellion, no matter what our elected officials are doing. Speaking of elect one, I mean of course all the elected municipal, provincial and federal governments. This is the whole problem, we assume that these individuals will do what is best for the community without too much damage.

Lack of participation in elections is dangerous for certain cities. In some part of the province, municipal officials are not, let's say too transparent. Conflicts of interest abounded and in many cases small businesses in these regions are the losers.

Bad news, it's no different in big cities, think of Montreal right now, no need to say more.

As citizens we must protect this freedom, this democracy allow us to express our ideas and our choices before, during and after the elections. You think a little vote does not make a difference? Ask some elected officials what they think and do some research, your discovery will help you understand that every vote is crucial and vital, especially on behalf of freedom of expression.

Physical activities

2009-10-05T04:53:00.000-07:00

You find it difficult to exercise, forget training programs if you are not an active person. You'll have much better results if you find an activity you like, without illogically investing to much money and which has a duration of at least 30 minutes a day about 4 to 5 days per week.

The results will be slow, but steady. The more your health and fitness improve, the more you'll want to move and have fun. Have fun when you participate, otherwise, you quickly stop this routine because it will be boring. Remember, losing weight in an intelligent way is slow simply because it's very likely that your weight gain took place over several years.

Environment - Our influence

2009-10-02T03:32:00.000-07:00

It’s not easy to get involved in large scale when we didn’t have the knowledge and decision-making position to act on a large scale, but this doesn’t mean you can’t have impact on solutions.
Why get involved if our influence is so weak? Like everything, when there is doubt that it can be resolved, we must take the bull by the horns and act. Even if your actions are very small scales, they have an impact on your immediate environment and perhaps you will influence someone else to do the same thing as you.

Life is short - Believe in yourself

2009-10-01T06:43:00.000-07:00

How many times you've been told to enjoy life because it's so short? Often, very often, but did you understood the meaning of this statement? I'm suggesting to take few moments and to make a deep thouht on what you really want to do in life. Act now, take time to find out what you really like, find out what really turns you on, causing you to sleepless night because you are too excited to wait to do it. Is it so difficult to believe in you, I ask you?

Fantastic Mr. Laliberté

2009-09-30T04:45:00.000-07:00

A childhood dream for this great man and probably for many others on this planet. I am pleased that someone like him decides to take action and achieve his wildest dream. Why? Because it’s undeniable proof that dreams can come true. It’s important to believe in his dreams even though many of them never happen. Merely focusing its energies towards exciting goals allow us to approach life with fun as adventurous and heroes. We have to learn to become our own hero and that's empowerment. Think to it, why not you? Thank you very much, Mr. Laliberte to believe in your dreams and congratulations.

Digital book

2009-09-29T06:08:00.000-07:00

What a great invention, having the chance to try and manipulate it, I must say it's great and very helpful. As a student it is a terrific tool to take notes and to do quick search. What is the risk for the paper book ? Hard to say, in the short-term there is little risk that the paper book will be affected, but on long term, as the music market, there will be a balance to be struck. It will be an evolution definite by users needs and available features for text manipulation. Let's go, take a look and you'll discover a tool that will certainly add to your daily electronic devices in the near future.

Start up of the Blog

2009-09-28T20:50:00.000-07:00

Since this is a new Blog, I will introduce this blog as a way to exchange with people about life, a way of looking at it in such a way we can go foward even when life is hard on us. Take a shot in the positive way of life and we will explore together some ways to go foward in life with joy to create positive results.